I am in love with more than one guy. I know this because when I talk to one guy my heart feels light and I can't help but smile when I talk to him, even if he's pissed or annoyed with me. And this is also the case with two other guys in my life. So can people really be in love with only one person? And is it okay to really love more than one person? Have any of you ever loved more than one person, so I know I'm not alone out there?
2006-06-23 05:02:58 · 27 answers · asked by Carrie P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This doesn't mean I am dating more than one guy at once, it's just a feeling I have. And I am 21, although still young, I do know what the difference is between love and lust.
2006-06-23 05:08:39 · update #1
It is okay to be inlove with more than one person because that shows how much you care about other people. You are not ready to settle down with anyone because you love so many, but it alright to be friends with someone. Look at it this way, you love everyone in your family equally, but you get upset with them and you all will fight every once in a while; but you still love your family. So, it's okay to love more than one person, but it is a problem when your trying to be intimate and sexually active with more than one person.
2006-06-23 05:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ebony M 1 · 7⤊ 2⤋
There is a difference between loving someone and being in love--it's a hard decision. Yes, it is possible to love more than one person at a time--it happens everyday. Sometimes it is the attention or show of affection that you are in love with and not the actual guy. haven't you ever thought if I could take this from that guy and that from this guy I would have the perfect guy!!! Noone likes to be alone, so we look for little things that we can latch on to so that we don't go crazy. There are no perfect people, so we have to find the one that is closest to what we need and then decide if that is enough or we keep looking. That's how we end up loving more than one person ---right , wrong or indifferent--it happens.
2006-06-23 12:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by hiphop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't...love isn't what people usually think. I believe there are three kinds of love.
1. Familiar Love: This is love you feel for friends and family and is the most common kind. You care about their feelings and safety and want them to be happy.
2. Passionate Love: This is the lightheaded movie love we seem to aspire for. I think that this kind of love is extremely short lived and it is the sort of thing that many couples want to "get back" after they've been together for a while. I think this kind of love is mindless and driven mostly by lust and excitement for new things. This is a dangerous love because it makes you blind and it causes you to feel euphoric but it NEVER LASTS. I can't emphasize that enough. You could feel this for several people at once because it isn't founded on anything REAL.
3. True Love: Hopefully after a certain point after you stop feeling the Passionate Love for someone you will transition into true love, a feeling where that person becomes more important to you than yourself. Those in passionate love may feel this way, but it isn't true because this love takes years of togetherness, it is the love of old people and a love you can't experience until you've been together with someone so long, you can't remember what life was like without them.
Enjoy passionate love, but don't be too upset when it lapses either into familiar love or into indiferance. Also don't put too much stock in love, you have to kiss a lot of frogs.
2006-06-23 12:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with loving more than one person. We all love our families and friends. I happen to love a friend I went to high school with very much. I am married happily most of the time and am in Love with my wife. I love my friend very much, however there is a difference in the way I love her. I love her as a friend whom I have known for over 40 years. I believe we can be in love with more than one person, however I would personally want to make sure I am sure I am in love before I would commit to one person for a long period of time.
You mention this is the same for two other guys. From my lifetime of having feelings like this, I usually wound up hurting myself or one of the other ladies I felt strong feelings for.
Take the long cruise and get to know each one and see how things go from there to find which one if any of them are Mister Right.
Best of Luck and follow your heart and your mind both.
2006-06-23 12:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by handyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are physically attracted to more than one guy and that is certainly possible. You have said nothing that tells me you are in love with any of them. I think you are confused about what true love is. This is very normal. You only learn the difference after you have experienced both. Some people never do. Many people insist that it is "love" that causes the physical reactions they feel. Take it from somebody who has experienced both, there is a big difference.
2006-06-23 12:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can Love more than ! person because different people have different effects on you. One guy maybe smart, funny and chatty, which is attractive and another maybe good looking, well mannered and polite, which is attractive also.
The main question that you have to ask is which of these would give me the kinda love and lifestyle that I desire, once your mind is made up concentrate solely on that person and put everything into making that relationship work, keep the others as friends but do not allow them to interfere with your life as if you do you will be asking yourself the same questions over and over again.
2006-06-23 12:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by tusker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone but it's NOT because you're in love with several guys. It's because you have needs that aren't being met and you're trying to get them met by all sources possible.
The best thing is to learn to take care of your own needs so that you can receive the benefits of a monogamous relationship in where there is a true partnership and loyalty. Having multiple partners can not provide that no matter what.
2006-06-23 12:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love may or may not be real. If you look at is as a real thing, then yes, you should only be in love with one person. Hense "My one and only love." But if love is not real, you should be able to really like two guys. "Love is just an artist's conception of the act of mating."
2006-06-23 12:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by urmomrulez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in love with several girls at a time.
Some times when i love a girl and another girl which i use to love comes back to me, i feel a great doubt in my heart. I suggest you start dating one of them, the one which will treat you better, see what will happen and if you still love the other ones, you are not in love with this one ;)
Keep trying, love is a matter of try and fail, till you find him.
2006-06-23 12:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by hh_20012001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't an emotion hun, it's a decision to put the other person's needs and desires ahead of your own. It's taking care of them even when you don't particularly like them that moment. Ex: changing a poopy diapher at 3 am
2006-06-23 12:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love or be in love with more than one person, but be careful, guys can get away with that, but they may have a double standard for the women in their lives.
If you're young, enjoy it, you have the rest of your life to settle down with one man.
2006-06-23 12:08:37 · answer #11 · answered by C R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋