recently i'm attach. have been asking around does a relationship need that love to be around in order to stay together as a couple, even until get marry? if not then what bring a couple together?
2006-06-23 04:54:14 · 22 answers · asked by dave 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
People get married in American culture because they want to spend the rest of their lives together. In other cultures however, some people have arranged marriages and marriage is not for love.
2006-06-23 04:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Historically, marrying for "love" is a fairly new concept. We are all, back in our bloodlines, the products of arranged marriages - either by high society, the local tribe, or living in small towns where choice wasn't an option. Also, if you study marriage, you will find that is not uncommon for "love" to actually grow in these marriages - if both parties are respectful and gentle to each other.
Today, however, this type of thing is dangerous because most everyone (look at your answers) thinks that marriage implies love - when they are two different things (one is an action and a committment; the other, a feeling and a response). So, you would be better to sit down with your fiance' and be very plain with her about your feelings at the present, why you are marrying, why she is marrying you, and what expectations you have for a marriage.
Again, if you totalled up all the people married from the beginning of time, probably 85% of them would have been married without ever even considering being "in love". It is not a requirement. But you should discuss "in loveness" before getting married.
2006-06-23 12:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is sometimes something called arranged marriage. It is common all over the world. People get married even though there is no love in the first place. Then again later on in some sort of friendship you could develope some kind of feeling for another person.
You also could have been inlove at first sight. Love is not always there right from the start and maybe it will never be. I don't know. I have never been in love, but know enough.
Love is a feeling a hard feeling.
2006-06-23 12:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a recent concept for marriage. Marriage has usually been for financial reasons, but in today's society I would hope that this would not be the case very often anymore. Woman used to give money, gifts, and land to her husband to entice him to marry her. Also, status was a big influence in the past. Now I realize that there are some people that still marry for this reason, but if you want a meaningfull relationship then love should be a factor.
2006-06-23 12:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by PseudogodJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think so. In the beginning, a lot of couples are so in love that they don't notice anything. After a while, when the two get on each others every last nerve, love helps keep them together. Other people who get on your nerves--you just walk away and have no contact with them. You can't do that in marriage. I suppose if you have a great sense of commitment, you could stay together without love, but love helps--a lot.
2006-06-23 12:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on one's definition of marriage and one's belief system. In some cultures there are arranged marriages which ignore completely the ideal of being "in love." The whole idea of being "in love" has various definitions depending again on one's belief system.
From a Biblical point of view, God is Love and Truth. marriage is an institution consecrated by the divine. Therefore marriage under God is automatically between two people "in love." Love not being a sentimental or emotional value, but an act of faith and obedience to His word.
I'm sure you could find alternative views and variations on this theme, but ultimately, the contract you endorse will determine what you are bound by. Hope that helps.
2006-06-23 12:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rico Machiavelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love certainly helps, but here are many marriages of convenience, where one party just needs the status to get a green card, for instance. Others are mercenary, where a young woman marriages an old rich coot for the money. Some are just to have the status of marriage
2006-06-23 11:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by aboukir200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to be in loved, but they should in order for their relationship in or out of the marriage to work.
2006-06-23 11:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by anilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the care for another. That is certainly a good definition of marriage. Without love, too many behaviours will fall on the barren ground of discontent.
2006-06-23 11:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need love in a marriage. Marriage can be very hard and without love.... you have no reason to work things out.
2006-06-23 12:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by anonymousenlightenedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋