Loosing my virginity...?

Question

My boyfriend is ready, I am not. I'm not planning on loosing my virginity until I am married, but I still would like to know the following:

What happens "down there" the first time?
(this is the main question I want the answer to)

How bad does it hurt?
(my guy says it won't hurt that bad, but I'm not sure about that one)

Is there anything to be afraid of besides pregnancy, STD's, or emotional tolls?

Answer 1

Honey, men will tell you anything to get you there.
Some women it hurts a lot-but the main point is-once you loose it, you can never get it back.
And I hate to tell you,but there WILL be other boyfriends.
Just think-you live with you all your life-let NO ONE make your choices for you.
Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, I want to commend you on your initial decision to wait until marriage. Don't be pressured into doing somthing you don't feel comfortable or ready to do. If he really loves you so much, he would willing to wait for you or when you're erady. First time, it hurts from what I've been told. Apart from STDs and pregnancies, infections and cancer can occur (yes, I said cancer. The human papilloma virus, the same virus that causes genital warts are not evident in many men, so even though you think you're safe, once he infects you, the virus spreads and can eventually lead to cervical cancer). You'll also be losing a big part of yourself. Something that you cannot regain, that thing is you virginity. Sex is a beautiful thing, but we must also realize what we're doing; that it's not just a senseless or rash act that we teenagers do when we just like someone or have a crush. Don't you think it's much better to wait until you can support yourself and a baby if one does arrive rather than to risk life as you know because you want to please your boyfriend or "experiment"? I know it's hard to say no sometimes, but that's also something that sets us apart from so many other teenagers today; the ability to say no and adhere to our own values and not being willing to compromise ourselves and conform to society when we don't have to.
You don't have to do something you don't want to, after all, it is your body and your life we're talking about here. Ultimately, the decision is yours. Do what you feel is right and not what he wants you to do.

Answer 3

Don't do anything until you are 100% ready. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "what happens down there" but I can tell you that it will most likely hurt. And for the first time you may bleed. (I didn't but some girls do, and that is completely normal) Its kinda what coined the phrase "popped cherry." I wish I could give you more info on what happens - Do you actually want me to go through the motions? Cuz you should probably already know that. He's going to stick his "you know" into yours. And sex can be wonderful and loving, but only if you wait until your ready. It is fine to wait until marriage but its also ok not too.

Answer 4

There is a stop of sorts inside the vagina called the hyman. When something large enough is inserted, it tears. That is where the pain and bleeding comes from.

The pain is different for everyone. Me, I had already torn the hyman years before - that happens a lot in sports or even masturbation. Depending on his size, the position, what kind of mood you're in that day, sex can be uncomfortable anytime. The key is to be relaxed and really into it. Blood rushes to the area, so everything kinda looks swollen. Your vagina starts producing lubricant, which helps with the friction.

I can't think of anything to be worried about.

Answer 5

Look let your boyfriend know how u feel. If ur not ready there is no harm in waiting.

On the other things what happends the first time well... it depends I guess on how u do it. I guess depending on the ppl. Now if it hurts some girls it may and some it may not. Depends on u really. It didn't hurt my first time but, just some girls are different.

Anything else to be afraind of I think u covered that but, just make sure hes the one worth giving ur virginity to.

Answer 6

Your first sexual experience should be one of the most AMAZING things you will ever encounter. You will experience a plethera of emotions...pain, worry/fear, excitement, passion, etc. Do not let ANY one push you into having sex. Have it when YOU are ready and make sure you share that experience with someone you love and who loves you. Keep it real. Don't use sex as a tool to gain attention. It'll only bite you in the *** in the long run. If you want to wait til marriage, then good for you. It'll be well worth the wait.

My answers to your questions:

1. You will probably bleed the very first time, but don't fret. It's normal.

2. The pain depends on your body, your tolerance for pain, his penis size and his technique. The pain shouldn't last too long

3. I think you nailed them. Worry if he doesn't love you. Sex without love isn't worth ****

Answer 7

If you are not ready to have sex and want to wait til you are married. Then don't have sex, tell your boyfriend no. If you lose him because of it, then he wasn't the right guy for you and its better to find out now rather than later.

You can learn alot about how much a guy cares for you as a person by telling them "NO" rather than giving in to their pressures. Someone that truly loves and cares about you will be patient and understanding and wait as long as he must in order for you to be ready. Or even understand that you do not want a sexual relationship at all til you are ready to be married.

Stick with your personal convictions, you won't regret it later.

Answer 8

Good for you for wanting to wait til you are married. You will be happy when you finally have sex for the first time with someone you love and when you are comfortable.

It can hurt a bit the first time (dont listen to him - does he have a vagina?). This is caused by the fact that you are a virgin, but also if you are nervous it may hurt more. Personal lubricants can help.

Pregnancy and STDs are pretty important. My boyfriend offered to get tested before we had sex and I love him even more for it. You owe it to yourself to do what YOU want. Listen to your heart!

Answer 9

THanks for asking,
they say, you will only be remembered by the actions you take.
whether good or bad. i believe you are smart, and thats why you asked. i appreciate your concern for yourself.
to the point itself.
Dont!, are you married?or you have any plans of doing so? if not Dont go for it, coz you dont know what may pop up. yeah you are concerned, of the concequence, either getting pregnant, or STD, (which is worst of all) what about an emotional toll? who knows what may come up,
sorry to say this, Consider this, may be you end up doing the so act, you become pregnant, you get STD, then your boyfriend leave you,(opps!) emotions of what you gonna do about all those things.
i hope i answered your first question.
but i cat answer you second one and third one.
coz i dont know.
thanks
be safe.

Answer 10

Stick to your guns !

My girlfriend never said it was painful. Go slow and enjoy the experience WHEN YOU ARE READY.

Sex is a big decision. Don't settle for an experience that is less than special.

I wish I could have taken back all my past sexual experiences. I have emotional scars from all the women that I spent time with physically, but never got to know emotionally.

Time will heal my wounds, but you have a chance to save yourself the pain by waiting.

God bless you...
Pray for guidance and the Lord will supply you with wisdom.