i am a very intense and passionate person while he is so practical and matter of fact. but i also know he's a good man, good looking, stable, responsible. and yet, feeling magic towards somebody has always been imprtant for me. you know... being in love with someone till you grow old, feeling breathless and all that mushy stuff. should i marry him knowing that i will have a good life with him but wondering too if i will be happy knowing what i am? should i let a good thing pass by because the "magic" is not there? do you need magic to marry and spend the rest of your life with somebody? or should i forget about the magic and accept him, settling for a contented and placid life instead of a happy, feeling alive kind of marriage? pls help!
2006-06-23 04:42:53 · 22 answers · asked by bluedarling7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is no.
I am divorced, so take it from me; wait for the magic. If you are under 25 wait, please wait. If you are over 28, you might want to consider it as it is likely it is your own perception that doesn't allow you to feel the magic in an actual relationship. Some people can only imagine the magic, not actually experience it because the magic is a fantasy; and reality is often much less than fantasy.
Don't confuse infatuation with love either, even if there is magic it always wears off; then what do you have?
Love is wanting to do everything for your partner, and your partner wanting to do everything for you. You are each others biggest fans. If you can't give to this man, can you imagine giving more to another, if you can't, perhaps he is the one for you.
Remember, true love is the willingness to constantly give to the relationship.
2006-06-23 04:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Go for the Magic and alive!! you have to have that in your life! You will not be happy in your marriage and someday you will end up resenting him for not having that! Yes he's a good man and all, but that Magic man is out there somewhere for you! you have to have that in your life! Trust me, you have to have that! You need that feeling! You have to have that feeling! There is no other feeling like that! don't settle! The man of your dreams that will give you everything this guy can and more is out there! Good luck!
2006-06-23 04:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally won't marry if I think I'll just be settling with the guy. I deserve to fall in love and he deserves somebody who truly loves him for who he is and not just because of what he can give her. But only you can truly know the answer to your query inside your heart, if you feel that it's an obligation to marry him, then, that's not a reason to marry. But if you love him and you just recognize that you both have different "styles" or expressions of love, then, maybe you should marry him. Good luck! :)
2006-06-23 04:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Luzzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad watching you flip flop from the dark side to the light side and back again. You already answered your own question.
I'm sure you and this ex bf of yours will be good friends for a lifetime.
Let us know when you find Mr. Magic - we want to see the wedding photos.
Hang in there, girlfriend! - Stuart
2006-06-23 04:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the MAGIC is temporary in all relationships. working on keeping that magic around is the real test. it is not important to THINK that it may not work...if you love this man and you can make the magic happen, go for it
if not, move on and find someone who makes you feel the way you want to, but just remember when the MAGIC fades in that relationship, you may then realize what you gave up
2006-06-23 04:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by dave g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even have to finish reading your question once I got to the "I'm not in love with him" part.
No. There will be a man out there that you fall passionately in love with, that can also have all the good traits you see in this man.
2006-06-23 04:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey keep both of them so that if one is not available u can go to another ..... honey life is like that .... infact we all are eventually alone and whatever assurance u may give to urself it is difficult to find all in one and so one should keep as many choices open as possible so that when u age u dont repent and become nasty
2006-06-23 04:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by burfi_aur_ladoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chance of actually finding a relationship that feels intense even until old age is slim for most people...
It's spelled 'good', not 'gud'...
2006-06-23 04:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has money marry him put in 6 months and see an attorney.
If not just go have the good-bye sex one more time and move on.
2006-06-23 04:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still talking to your ex from 6 yrs ago? Tell her to go get a job!
2016-03-27 02:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋