I've known my boyfriend since i was sixteen (21 now) and we were together for only four months and then he broke up with me. I went to job corp and met someone and had a son with him. I was with him for three and a half years but now i'm with my ex boyfroend again but i treat him so mean. I love him and always wanted to be with him but now its like i treat him like ****. What is wrong with me? i want to stop but it seems like i can't. Any advice?
2006-06-23 04:36:35 · 21 answers · asked by anw110784 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand where ur coming from during ya'll first relationship he treated u like s**t and u feel like u should treat him the same way.Gurl give him another chance.Sit down and talk to him let him no how u fill.And let him no wat ur going 2 try 2 do 2make everything right.
Sincerely,Ya Gurl Smilee
2006-06-23 04:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Good advice. Don't treat every man in your life as if they are all the same.
Treat each one on his OWN merrit, as to how he relates to You in a relationship.
Men all SEEM the same, but they are not. So don't treat them the same.
You already know you have been unfair,
and now you know why.
Don't be AFRAID of any relationshp. Trust until that trust is broken. Be kind, and give respect due.
But also, be wise. Hold back your heart until he proves he is worth of your love.
Moreso, realize that others have insecurities too, and that all relationships need refreshing weekly, if not daily. Be a wise woman, and learn how to let your smile turns someone else's frown upside down.
Men want Lust, yes, but more than that, they want their woman to be their BEST FRIEND that they can TRUST to never hurt them. Best-friends are not mean to each other. When you get that right, you'll have a superior relationship with a guy.
I wish you love
stw
2006-06-23 11:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time for yourself to figure out what is deep within you. Take a weekend away and remember all the bad in your life and then the good. Come to peace with your past and let go of the anger. It is not easy! But I used to do this and I always felt that my past was to much a part of me and I had to let it go if I ever wanted to be happy. You can not make someone happy with you if you are not happy with yourself. Be honest and confront the past in the present.Keep a journal of your progress and when you doubt yourself you can look back in your own words how you felt and what was going on. This will help with many different issues. Putting something on paper and being able to read your true feelings and coming to realization with it all is easier than trying to just sit and think about it. Allow yourself time to cry and to heal. Let him help you and hold you. You can do this together but most of the work is on you. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 11:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by SL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you angry at him? When you're mean to him what has he done to you? Are you afraid that he'll break up with you again like he did in the past? Are you angry at men in general? So far two men have come into your life and you're left being a single mother. It doesn't sound like life has been a little hard on you. Are you happy in your life? Are you mad at what happened to your life that you're taking it out on your boyfriend? Maybe it's a good idea to talk to a counselor or therapist to get to the bottom of your anger. Talking to someone who is impartial usually helps so you can find out why you're treating your boyfriend so badly.
2006-06-23 11:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are angry with him. Maybe you are still upset that he broke up with you. Maybe you wish the child belonged to him, not somebody else. Maybe you guys should get some counseling, find out what the problem is. You relationship will be better or you may find out you really shouldn't be together. Do something soon before you both end up getting hurt.
2006-06-23 11:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you resent him for breaking up with you and that's your way of dealing with it...That's an interesting scenerio...i'm not sure what advice i could give...it's not healthy....there has to be some hidden feelings you're having that need to be expressed and brought out into the open before fixing this problem
2006-06-23 11:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its probably becuase you are not really happy. you might be happy to have someone there, but it sounds like your boyfriend isnt the person you want to actually be with. I did the same thing to my ex, because i wanted him to be so much more than he was but loved him the same. finally it got so bad we just slipt up because we were going no where, which could happen to you. i mean how long would you stay with someone who treats you badly?
2006-06-23 11:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by rollieoolie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are punishing him for leaving you. Your ex boy friend kinda sounds like your rebound from your baby's daddy. If you really love him, then sit him down and tell him how you felt and feel about when he left you, see where it goes from there, honesty is the best policy if you really wanna know where it's going to go.
2006-06-23 11:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things through with him. Do not let your child get affected because of this relationship. Talking to a counselor or a friend mi helps alot. It works to talk to someone who is wise.
2006-06-23 11:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by gracie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a breakdown in communication i think. do you get the feeling he is not understanding you when you ask something. is this why yr getting so upset and mad or maybe you need some sit down quiet time with each other and talk about what is really bothering you. be honest with him something is annoying you deep down.
2006-06-23 11:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋