What is the best way to talk to your child without him/her yelling back at you?

Answer 1

Lead by example.

Speak quietly and firmly. if the child interrupts DO NOT SHOUT AT THEM!

Repeat what you were saying in the quiet and firm voice. Children only learn to raise their voices to make themselves heard from other people. If you show them that you can be listened to in a normal level voice then they will adopt the same behaviour. Refuse to listen to them when they shout, turn your back on them or go into another room. They will only attempt a shouting strategy for a short while if they realise that you will not respond to it AT ALL.

When they do use a quieter voice make sure you give them your undivided attention and praise them for the mature way they have spoken, and tell them how proud it makes you and how grown up it makes them sound.

Answer 2

First of all, why have you allowed your child to EVER yell at you? Since you have not demanded or earned respect, then I don't know if you can ever get this problem settled, BUT, maybe you could ask your child to sit down with you, or catch them when they are in a jolly mood, and then say, "I need to talk to you about something, and this time, I would like for us to talk to each other with love and kindness. I am sorry for ever yelling at you, and I am going to change that right now, and I would like the same from you from now on." And then proceed from there. But, if you want a child who won't yell, then YOU can't be a "yeller". Children do as they have learned and been allowed to do.

Answer 3

I have 5 and If they start yelling at me or my husband they have to go take a time-out and come back to finish the discussion when they are going to talk and not yell. It seems to work great and they are not allowed to do anything till the talk is done. We also once a week have vent session where we all sit around and everyone says whats on there mind and how they feel without any one getting upset. Its a great way to see things in a whole different light.

Answer 4

First make sure you are not yelling. Second get on there level (most of the time I sit down on the couch and have my son stand in front of me so we are face to face) Third if your child yells then calmly say I can not understand what you are saying. You are talking to loud. Calm down and talk slowly and less loud so I can hear you. It sounds silly to adults but if a child wants to be heard they will change the tone of their voice. This also works with whining.

Answer 5

I wish my child would open her mouth and even fix her tongue to yell at me...I don't play with my daughter. She is a child. I don't allow certain things and disrespecting me is certainly up there!

You need to nip this in the bud now...or in 5 years you'll be on Sally Jessy Rapheal talking about your child won't stop hitting you!!!!

If you're against corporal punishment...think about the reasons why you're against it...if it's cause you don't think it's effective...well whatever you're doing wrong isn't working either so it's time for a change. If you're not against it...then I say a good spanking, plus a stiff punishment is where you should start.

Answer 6

I am guessing that you are dealing with a teen, in which case I would say the best way to talk to them with out fighting would be to do it in the evening when they are calm and relaxed and not watching tv. If you sit down at dinner together this is a good time to talk, or try right before bed, as long as you are both in decent moods. Teens have alot of mood swings and are under many different kinds of pressure. I remember it used to drive me crazy when my mom would try to talk to me about something when I was watching tv, or trying to do something. Alot of times I just didnt want to talk, or I was in a bad mood and would take it out on her. I would also say that you need to keep at it, because it is hard to communicate with teens, and if one approach doesn't work try another and don't take it too personally if they are sarcastic or snotty as that is the nature of teens.
Being a parent is so hard and often thank less, at least untill they are no longer children and can look back and appreciate it. Good luck, I hope that it works out.

Answer 7

Possibly ignoring them if they yell at you, but that makes it hard to have a conversation. You may need to teach them not to yell first, then attempt the serious conversation.
Just don't get angry or upset and let them know they got to you. I find sublime indifference works well. Good phrase to remember if they're older than about 10:
"I thought you were mature enough to talk to like a real person. Apparently, I was wrong. We'll try again later."

Answer 8

Take a closer look at the environment. Where did your child learn that yelling is acceptable communication?

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Sit him/her down look them in the eye and talk calmly and in a regular voice. I see parents all the time yelling at their kids from across the room and then they wonder why they do the same to them. Respect them and they will respect you.