My boyfriend and I have been on and off (mostly on) for 11 years. We talk about marriage and being forever and kids, but he hasn't proposed. We spend a lot of time together, but i have suspected him of cheating and have actually caught him. I think that he's been cheating all along but he always has a good answer to defend himself. I am confused. I have a feeling he is playing me, but I love him so much. I can't imagine life without him. I feel that he wants to have his fun on the side, but have me there for him as his number one girl. What do you suggest me to do? Stay with him? Will he ever truly commit to one person, ME?
2006-06-23 04:20:06 · 9 answers · asked by forget_me_not 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get out of this relationship really quickly before things get too complicated and you can't. It sounds like you're in a comfort zone where you don't want to leave him. If he's cheated once, and you're still feeling as if he's cheating on you plus you say that you doubt whether he'll be able to commit to you, then he has and will cheat again. Things will just get worse. You deserve so much better than that. He's just keeping you on hold for when he needs you. Girl, leave his sorry a*s and find someone who will commit to you and only you, and will treat you like the wonderful person you are. Go find someone who will truly love you. Good luck.
2006-06-23 04:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by @~>--T--<~@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 11 years, I think it's time you see the real picture. Obviously he isn't willing to commit and just tells you what he thinks you want to hear in order to continue on with this "relationship". Times have change and think all the risks that he is putting your through by sleeping around...there are plenty of diseases he can give you even if you are being careful. But you don't know what the hell he is doing out there...I can't imagine you would rather spend your life with a man who does not appreciate you, that he has to be out there playing games. This is something that has been going on for a while i assume...It's in your hands to set it right. No matter how hard it might seem, you deserve better.
2006-06-23 11:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by brina27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he won't ever commit to you because he doesn't have to. You have been with this loser for 11 years and he still hasn't committed to you and is openly cheating. Wake up lady you need to move on you can do sooooooo much better. You say you can't imagine life without him how about I tell you how your life could be without him- you could gain happiness, joy, self respect, a clear mind, dignity, and a chance to be with someone who will treat you like a woman and not a door mat. You could lose- stress and worry about him cheating, insecurity, and confusion. I understand you have been with him for over a decade, but it's time that you put yourself first and let that dog go!!!!!!!
2006-06-23 11:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by ICUD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but he will never truly commit to you. And why should he when you put up with his galivanting ways? He's having his cake and eating it too. If he were serious about marriage after all this time, he would have proposed already. Eleven years is a long time to be with someone, and to not get that committment you're after is surely frustrating. Cut your losses now because this guy's not the one for you. I know you love him, but you've got to love yourself more. Wouldn't you tell any of your girlfriends if they were in your situation the same thing? Wouldn't it hurt you to watch them repeatedly run into a wall, because dear, that's what you're doing here. This guy is selfish and immature. Stop believing his lies and get out now. Do things for yourself and get back into YOUR life. The sooner you do, the happier you'll be, and you'll be free to be open to a guy who can give you the love and respect that you deserve. Good luck.
2006-06-23 11:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stick around this long knowing he cheats on you? No he won't commit to just you- why would he? Its not like you'll leave him!
If you have any self respect at all you would have left him by now. You say you love him and can't imagine life without him- this guy who definately can imagine life without you- when he's f*cking other women. And why would he respect you enough to marry you if you don't respect yourself enough to put up with his sh*t?
2006-06-23 11:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will keep cheating because you allow it. Yes, that's right. You have allowed him to keep doing it. What you need to do is leave him. If you choose not to, then you need to realize he's gonna keep doing what he's doing. Why should he stop? Think about it. He is having his cake and eating it too. What would make him change? If you have respect for yourself and do not want to keep living your life like this you need to leave him. These are the only two options. If you choose to stay with him then so be it, but don't expect him to change. Remember: You teach people how to treat you.
2006-06-23 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 YEARS!? If he hasn't asked you to marry him by now, he's not gonna! He's using you, if you think he's cheating, he's cheating, he knows you will believe what ever he says so he lies! Kick his sorry butt to the curb and find someone who will love and appreciate you! Today! Do it today! Don't waste anymore time on this loser!
2006-06-23 11:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on u once what makes u think he won't again i truly think u should move on b-cuz if u've been w/ him 4 11yrs and he won't commet 2 u then move on and it seems he is using u as a girl on the side when he has no other girl 2 mess around w/
2006-06-23 11:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then the answer is HE WILL CHEAT.
Let yourself realize that you deserve better.
2006-06-23 11:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bryce W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋