My family did not tell my grandmother that she had stage 4 cancer and only had a month to live. We didnt want to tell her becasue it would make her more depressed. If your loved one was dying, would you tell them?
2006-06-23 04:17:25 · 14 answers · asked by Lorrane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think when you are sick like that, you know any way that it is time to go. God will let you know. Even animals go away from the others when they know they are going to die. She knew it was her time.
2006-06-23 04:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma had been in the hospital for a few weeks and we thought she'd get better and come home. Then weeks turned into 2 months. Her body began to fail. It was hard on everyone. Especially our grandpa. Visiting times were short, she was barely awake for a few minutes each day, my cousins and I just stood there holding her hand and telling her that we love her. Personally, I wasn't going to tell her we think you're dying. We just told her what was wrong with her body, and that we're trying to get her better. She past away 3 weeks ago. I miss her so much.
2006-06-23 11:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rob B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they have the right to know. There may be things that they need to get in order, or things they want to say to their loved ones. I would want to know if I was dying.
My grama just died in May, and the doctor told my aunts & uncles. Then together they told her. I think it was almost a relief for her to know for sure what was happening to her.
2006-06-23 11:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. It is their right to know. People often have last wishes that are unknown to others but may be simple to satisfy. Everyone should have a chance to make their last goodbyes.
2006-06-23 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to know! she needs to be given the chance to get things right in her life with God, people that may have hurt her or that maybe she hurt, she may have things she wants to do or old friends she wants to contact, and she needs to have her will ready and she needs to tell your family what she wants and doesn't want as far as ventalators and her funeral. this is her last chance to take care of any "unfinished" business- don't take that away from her!
2006-06-23 11:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should know. What if she has something to say or do before she dies. She is probably a lot stronger than you think. I would tell. They have every right to know.
2006-06-23 11:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. That is a tough question. Has she asked you? If so, hmmm, I am torn between being dishonest and lying to make her last days more peaceful.
2006-06-23 11:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by DesignR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I think I would, she might have somethings she wants to take care of before she passes. If you don't tell she might never have a chance.
2006-06-23 11:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by datshortee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing.
It would only have caused her to worry, and suffer more in her final days.
I would only tell them if they need to know.
2006-06-23 11:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by codrock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would tell them, that's not fair at all. what if she needed to take care of things before she died?? i would want to know for sure, then i could make things right in different circumstances if i needed to. you all should tell her.
2006-06-23 11:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋