I have been with my GF for 7 years, we are still young i am 24 she is 25. I have been with other people while we were on a break and she says she hasn't (i know her well enough to know she is not lying). A month ago she told me she wanted to take a break from the relationship. She is in Med School and about take the boards(huge life changing test) she has not been intimate with me over the past few months..did i mention we have almost always been in a long distance relationship? But she never expressed any feelings like this EVER We have been through tough times before, cheating and feeling unsure and she said that she is willing to work things out, but not right now...everyone, including her is telling me not to put my life on hold. She isn't cheating, she still loves me but is says she is not in love right now and can't promise she will be, but wants us to be together. Whats her deal? I dont want to wait for her, but i may have to.
2006-06-23 03:51:28 · 6 answers · asked by dave g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
7 years must have at least meant something to her, so I think it's best that you wait for her. It's going to take time, so why not do some priorities for the meantime? She's right when she said you should never put your life on hold. Make something out of it, you know, the time you two ain't together. She loves you man, I think she just wants to know if you love her as much in return. And I guess she has dreams in life too, you know. Don't worry, everything's just a test of patience and commitment between the two of you. Just relax, she loves you.
2006-06-23 04:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by kristian121989 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doll - what she is really asking for is room - and it sounds like she is needing room to just make sure that she is ready for these boards and whatever else in her career without having to worry about taking care of a relationship. Give her space and let her achieve her dreams - keep your stuff in your pants while she does this. She is just stressed and probably not feeling very intimate and attractive at this point. Make a couple of nice gestures during this time - pick up some food and make sure she is eating and take it to her. Just drop it off and leave. You want to make sure she is remaining physically healthy with her studies.
2006-06-23 10:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for 7 years and she's not in love with you? How long are you going to wait for her to possibly fall in love with you? She may never have those feelings. I think you are a comfortable spot for her to land when she needs someone and that's all. Maybe a break would be good for both of you.
2006-06-23 10:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait for her then ur really in love but if oyu don't you might as well beak her heart now. She's going through a tough time give her a break. She needs you more than ever now give her what she needs. And it's not all about sex so don't break up with her for that.
2006-06-23 10:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by coolgurlmolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't wait too long you could be waiting forever...i don't understand she say's she loves you yet is not in love with you ...thats not good....i think she is being dishonest to herself and you ..sounds to me like she doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you...she is just leaving you with no firm future together...just be careful or your going to get really hurt....good luck
2006-06-23 12:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by SuNnY BlOnDe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't swear for her and you don't if she's cheating on you or not you can only go by waste tells you and for her to fall out of love with you she isn't interested in you she's telling ou to move on move on
2006-06-23 11:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋