I been with my schoolmate for 4 weeks. He put in alot of effort to get me to be his girlfriend example, call me 3 times per day & buy me a drink from the outside even though he's already late for school. When we r already couple, he changed totally! He always forget to buy a drink for me. call me ONLY when he's free. He told me that he love me but he say that, that time he tried to get me, he put in alot of effort but now it's different cuz he already got me. When i wanan go to his house cuz i wanna be with him, he said that he's tired after school or he need privacy or he's busy or he scared i will get bored of him. When i asked him is he love me 100% he say he gonna keep some parts of his heart with him cuz he's scared to get hurt like his ex does to him. He showed his anger easily to me but he's not a playboy, i'm sure about it. Do he love me but he got a different way to show it? Is he worth it?
2006-06-23 03:30:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think you should be worrying about love at this time. After 4 weeks at actual 'dating'. And yeah...what your doing...isnt considered dating. My man actually went through the same thing. He had a girlfriend when he would try to get me, i wasnt having that. After sometime they broke up. He would callme constantly and come over all the time. Buy me things, take me to dinner. Then it all of a sudden slowed down...a lot. We had a good talk about it. Cause if the realationship is REAL you will be able to talk abotu ANYTHING. trust me on that! Then we worked out a schedule so that we saw eachother and didnt have a boring 'no more fun' relationship. Just remember that you are in school...and school is more important than anything realationship there is. And if that realationship is right...it will work out for you. Try to set up a schedule where you 'hang out' only so and so often during a week. Between this time and this time....on these days. After sometime of actuallybeing in a room with eachother...youll either want to be together more, or.......less. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 03:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all he doesn't love you. You have been together 4 weeks. Count 1..2..3..4. That's a month... 31 days..... If he really loved you he would not forget the "little things" and he would make time for you. I believe you should move on unless you want to get hurt. You will find someone one day that will make time for you and remember the "little things."
2006-06-23 10:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Randell G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if he showed anger towards you because you want to spend time with him, then No he is not worth it. Also you are NOT his ex, and if he is not over her then you are just a rebound cause of her. You deserve better then how he is treating you. Harsh I know, but all of what I am saying is true. If he only said he loves you when he tried to get you, and he never seems to have time or does not have much time for you, and never does for you like he use to, then Sorry but he was trying to use you, and NO he is not worth it. Dump him and give a bit more of getting to know time before you get your next boyfriend.
2006-06-23 10:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay sweetie, when a guy sees something that he wants he will stop at nothing to get it... Example in the beginning a guy will try to do all the sweet little things for you so he can get your attention or get to your heart... and after a while when you start to date the guy he feels as if he already has your heart so he doesnt have to do all these little things anymore because he done already won you over....
2006-06-23 10:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by DOMINIQUE N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He figures that since he's got you, he now doesn't have to do anything to make you feel good, or work to keep the relationship good, or do anything for you at all. He doesn't sound like a very good catch to me at all. It won't get any better either. These guys usually aren't worth anything. I'd break up with him and find a better guy who will treat you great even after you become his girlfriend, and believe me, there are plenty of great guys out there who will treat you good.
2006-06-23 10:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweety, but no. If he has already gotten lazy with your feelings, it will only get worse. At least you found out early on. Maybe when he gets a bit more mature it will be better because he won't be so worried about himself. He needs to be a little less selfish and realize what having a girlfriend really means. P.S. It doesn't mean protecting yourself from them.
2006-06-23 10:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by da chet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth waiting for.. If he just goes out and does his thing all the time.. Don't sit around and wait on him... Go do your thing or break up with him and tell him cause he never wants to go around you anymore... I dont know how old you are but there are more fishies in the sea. And you will have alot more boyfriends so don't even worry about this kid...
2006-06-23 10:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to u to decide that. is he worth it? so u see everyone elses boyfriend NEVER wanting u to come over? or NEVER buying u something? or NEVER saying that he loves u 100%? just think about those 4 questions. and u decide if he is worth it or not. or if he IS showing a different way of showing his love for u. but before u jump to that possiblity, think about the questions. just think. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-06-23 10:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have all these issues, you dont sound all that happy.
So I would say, no he's not worth YOU.
You shouldnt need to compensate.....or settle for another's actions towards you.
Both need to be open and give freely of one's feelings. This is giving and receiving with love. Otherwise it's empty and not fulfilling as it should be.
2006-06-23 10:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is feelling like that why u back of that man , in this world u can get a partner like that as much u want , don"t bother about that thing , be happy and keep searching wht u really wanted
2006-06-23 10:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by mohan4131 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋