I've known this guy for nearly a year and he flirted outrageously with me last summer but he lives with someone. His body language suggested his intense interest, he kissed me at christmas but said it was neither the time nor the place. All this left me with a huge crush which took me a good couple of months to get over. Ten days ago he mails me telling me his g/f is moving out, lighthearted mails go back and forth - general chit chat only but he refers to me as sweetie - and then bang.... they stop! It's messing with my head again and has brought all the old desires back - what do the guys think????? Is he interested or is he ruffling my feathers cos he knows he can? He's 31.
2006-06-23 03:20:52 · 39 answers · asked by kass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I haven't put out yet and I'm a very young 46 lol - u'd think I'd know better at my age!
2006-06-23 03:53:53 · update #1
He's playing games and just wants in your pants when he doesn't have anyone else.
2006-06-23 03:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing with your head because he knows he can. He's stroking his ego at the expense of yours.
There may be an attraction there but it isn't strong enough for him to move towards you in a sincere way. Of course, him being so unavailable means you've got the 'unrequited love' scenario going on in your head.
His side of things is that he may get you to sleep with him, if nothing else. He knows he's stirred you up and he's got your adoration, which is making him feel good.
As for the 'it's not the right time' comment - It wasn't the right time for him to be kissing anyone, period. By this I mean - what was he thinking? His respect for his girlfriend, for himself, and for you were absent in that moment (as it was the during the time when he flirted with you so outrageously). One day he'll grow up. Until then, don't take him seriously.
(i.e. forget about him and find someone who really does want to be with you).
2006-06-27 15:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up dearly, this guy is an expert in flirting around. He knows he has got your weak point. Now it is your turn to play him back.
Because you should know the conclusion that he will not be with you. Play hard to get. Every time he calls you, just tell him that you are not free and will call him back. But don't call back until he calls.
When he call again tell him something else and that you will call him back.
This type of flirt weak point is to be rejected. When you reject him a couple of times, in his mind, he will be thinking of you and what's went wrong. If you can get him to think about you, then it will be your turn to turn the table around.
This trick also work. As long as you do not leak out the trick yourself.
2006-06-23 03:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say it chick but your his fall back by the sounds of it...it's not worked out with his g/f and so flirt with you abit get you going and then something distracts him...guys are feeble minded....if guys thought even alittle bit like us women things would be sooo much easier....he's 31 he should be over mind games stage...if i was you i'd tell him to grow up and that it's one way or another...if he wants to be with you or not...don't let him call the shots.... be tough...or he will always be in the side line...in the last bit of your question you answered your own question...he's ruffling your feathers cos he knows he can....be straight with him....if he says no chick you deserve much better than alittle boy trapped in a guy's body....Good luck
2006-06-23 03:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by sexylady804614 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u must be feeling now. I suggest you to be practical and face the situation. Its very normal for u to feel the attraction but surely he is not serious about you...he just wants someone to play with when he is free. If you have watched the OPRAH WINFREY show you would know that the guys who are least to be trusted are the ones who flirt the best. Take your decision girl... don't lat him play with you like this. Just ignore him. You surely deserve someone better
2006-06-23 03:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by Nush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him util he gets in contact again then, as your mails are lighthearted, innocently mention that you've got a hot date tonight and see what he says. Should open the door for you to come right out and ask what his problem is
2006-06-23 03:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has chosen you as a friend. It also sounds like he's hoping you guys can be friends without any need to talk every day. It's really a great feeling to call someone you haven't talked to in a while and catchup where you were. He isn't interested, atleast not yet. i think he's just very affectionate to his friends. But I may be very wrong.
2006-06-23 03:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by p3jedi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing the hot/cold game....and it's clearly working!
Question is, now that you know this (which you knew already) are you gonna give in to him when he re-appears or are you gonna put an end to this unnecessary game?
I say, if you want him, tell him....then if he's not man enough to deal with you then...forget him and move on!
Your head does not need this mess!
2006-06-23 03:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Zane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I personally think that he is not serious with you. He might just need a place of comfort, and after he's fit to go..He'll fly away. *I'm not judging that every man is he same* Be strong there..If you don't set your boundaries from now, it's likely that you'll get hurt even more. If a man really likes us, he wouldn't miss a chance to get connected to us..
2006-06-23 03:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by heretobelieve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitly wants some of that sweet stuff, but he probably got lucky with someone just before the emails stopped. Now he's confused. Better go get him before someone else moves in to his apartment.
2006-06-23 03:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by jason m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a bloke - Forget him - Plenty more fish in the sea... He's interested only when theres nothing better going round... If you did get together, it would only last until smeone else turned up.. I'm free.. grin... ;)
2006-06-29 13:17:36 · answer #11 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋