Parenting Boys or Girls???

Question

This is more of an opinion question, I have two sons ages 6 and 11 my fiance has 3 kids two girls ages 11 and 6 and a son who is 7. My perosonal opinion it seems to me the 3 boys are very well behaived and will do anything I ask without a problem. The girls on the other hand more so the 11 year old seems to be defient, talks back, wont do nothing that is asked of her and her little sister sees her act this way and does the same, my question is, in your opinions out ther is it easier to raise boys or girls, Im starting to think boys girls seem more complicated but thats just my opinion , I like to see what you all feel

This is too the ignorant answer from pamspraises, for one I didnt steal her daddy, her mommy cheated on her daddy and got pregnat so he divorced her, Ive been in this childs life for 4 years and we were very very close in the last couple of months she has changed. She excepts her step daddy just fine. so dont make dumb a** comments if you dont know the situation, I cant stand judgment people God is the only one who has that right you dont!!!!!

Answer 1

I have 1 of each. My son is fixen to turn 16, my daughter is 7. I love both of my children more than anything and would not change anything but I have to say. I would have a dozen boys before I had any more girls. (If I had the choice). My son has always been calm, mellow and just all around a good kid (even through the teen years). My daughter is already driving me up a wall,she is the one that is going to put me in a grave. I know it is not just my child the parents of all of her friends say the same thing. They just start so early these days. Good Luck with the girls and God Bless you!


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Answer 2

The 11 year old girl maybe entering puberty, which could cause the defiant attitude . This had nothing to do with their gender.

When my son was 10-11 he got really awful. I remember one time he was just rotten and as he was running up the stairs, I said," I really don't like the way you are acting." He turned around with tears in his eyes and said "Neither do I".

I realized, he was still the same nice kid, but going through some changes that were out of his control.

Answer 3

I have 2 girls and 2 boys. I find that the girls are much easier than the boys. But she is 11, her body is going through a lot of changes right now. She is also old enough to understand that a new woman has come into her fathers life. She could be defiant for that reason.

Answer 4

I have two boys and one girl. my Neighbor has two girls and one boy. I noticed that the boys listen better to my wife and the neighbor and the girls tend to listen more to what I have to say. Try to get your fiance to teach the children to respect you. If he is treating you bad the children are more inclined to doing so because they think if dad/fiance can do it why not I? Also he needs to make sure that if at any time the disrespect you or even talk to you in a way he thinks is not fit he needs to stem in and correct them. When he sets the example the children will follow the same.

Answer 5

All I know is that when my daughters hit middle school age 6th through 8th grade, they became defiant, rude, and just not the adorable little girls I had raised. They all leveled out and did well in high school though. I am seeing the same problems with my neighbors daughters now too. There is one little girl in 7th grade that I watched for years that is so badly behaved that she cannot come to my house until she starts to listen. I think it is just the age and she will outgrow it.

Answer 6

Personally, I think this has more to do with their experience than with gender. Blended families are really tough- be patient, don't try to be their "parent", yet expect respect (and respect them back). What is the relationship the girls have with their mom?

Also your 11 year old probably respects you because you are his mom and you already have a relationship established. But a typical 11 year old is getting close to being an adolescent, and "rebelling" is typical development for them. Remember girls develop faster than boys.

Answer 7

it depends on the way a child is raised. if you spoil your child boy or girl they will be harder to raise. children need disciplin these days that is why they are the way they are today. the boys are well behaved probably because you raised them right. your 2 sons anyway. as for the girls--unexceptable. my best opinion on the 11 year old girl is child counseling or you have to be more strick with her and put your foot down.
my answer to your question i believe in my opinion my girl are easier to raise. but it depends on the child.

Answer 8

I would have to say boys are easier! I have 4 of my own, and 2 step-sons, and 1 step-daughter. She is only 6 and acts just as you are describing! I know it is probably becasue she is the only girl out of 7, and I also know that her mother lets her get away with it. They may also have resentment toward you for being with their dad. I know I gave my step-parents hell when I was that age.
Good luck to you!!

Answer 9

I think that it is easier to raise all children boys and girls. It just a matter of being able to leat your kids know who is in charge and really mean it. I have used the counting system with my kids. Whatyou do is you start counting to 5, by the time you get to 3, give them that evil eye, to let them know that you are not playing. IF you have to get to 5 before they start to do what you asked, tehn you take away something that is valuable to them ofr the same number of days you counted to..

Answer 10

well i have 3 kids myself and two are girls and my four year old son is very hard headed he will no listen to nothing i say and my six year old daughter has a smart mouth but will listen to most things i say and then my 19 month old but she really dont listen to nothing right now lol but i think girls are alittle easier then boys