I know my boyfriend loves and appreciates me, but he never shoes it, what do I do?

Question

He tells me he loves me, and I know he means it, and I know he appreciates things that I do (and I like doing them for him) but I feel he doesnt fully appreciate and put the effort in like I do, when I mention it, he tells me not to be silly cos he does. He doesnt show it and I dont know what to do

Answer 1

I had this problem a few times in the three years I have been with my man. Truth is, that a lot of men see showing their emotions as a weakness. It is how society works, women are supposed to be sensitive and men strong. It's the same today as it's always been, maybe a little better, but the fundamental exists that emotions are a weakness.
I had something said to me that changed my outlook and I would like to share it with you. Just because someone doesn't love you the way YOU want to be loved, doesn't mean they don't love you.
If you feel he doesn't put the effort in, arrange a romantic date. He will love it so much, that he will want to reciprocate.
Don't dump him because it seems that he doesn't appreciate you. When you aren't around he misses you, and he talks about you to all his friends.
You are lucky to have found a man who loves you.
Good luck :)

Answer 2

I'm sure you've noticed that men and women don't act the same. For instance, when we ladies see each other it's "Oh, Lizzie, that skirt really shows off your assets!" but can you imagine guys doing that? "Wow George, that shirt really brings out your green eyes!" Nun-un, doesn't happen.

In the same way, we girls TELL our female friends that we like and value them. But can you imagine Tom saying "Here Larry, I saw this in a gift shop and thought you might like it. I'm really glad you're my friend." No way do straight men do this.

However, your guy WILL do this for YOU, if you coach him. Tell when he's expected to do it (like, at least once a week during a special meal is a good time) and give him some sample scripts of what to say.

Yes, I know that this isn't spontaneous, but if you want that sort of spontaneity then you should be hanging with your girlfriends, not a guy.

Answer 3

You answered your own question hun... "I know my boyfriend loves and appreciates me..."

He must do enough to show you how he feels for you to be secure enough to make this statement.

Enjoy the love he does show you, most men are the same but as long as you know how he feels he shouldn't have to keep telling you or showing it.

Good luck, take care of him!

PS. Whats the deal with Diesel?? x

Answer 4

It depends on your man and your relationship. If he isn't a total goody two shoes he would probably love it. My favorite is a girl with a short skirt and heels. I also like a girl with a preppy skirt and socks.

Answer 5

The fact is, that a lot of guys have trouble shoeing affection.
It's kind of like men not being able to cry, something about being thought of as less of a man.

Answer 6

you say u know he appreciates it but then u feel he doesnt fully appreciate it?!?! if he doesnt put the effort in - its normal hes MALE!!

Answer 7

Hi kim
You change your nickname now, i think it's good for you but at least now you know that DIESEL YOU USE TO FANC ON YAHOO IS MARRIED AND GOT TWO Childrens and i'm expecting another one.HE CAN USE U IF YOU LIKE, AT THE END HIS GOT A WIFE.Good luck to your crazy life...............

Answer 8

once he tells u he loves u and appreciates u and u r really happy with him, i think its enough cos he's MALE and MALES dont show it often.

Answer 9

Sorry, but.......can we hear a bit more about Mrs Diesel and Kimmy's love triangle please???

(See Mrs Diesel's answer above)

Answer 10

sounds as though you are sticking up for him a bit. dont feel guilty talking about this, its your life, if he isnt making you feel happy, then you are not imagining it. make it very clear what it is you want.