My boyfriend and I have been looking at rings and I the easy pleaser that I am don't really care as to how big of a diamond it is. But he insists that it be at least a carat. Am I wrong for not caring how big a rock is on my finger? I just don't think money/ diamonds shows how much you love a person am I wrong?
2006-06-23 03:12:31 · 20 answers · asked by ~*Katie*~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He's lucky he got you! I felt the same way and my ring has a 1/4 carat diamond with several small diamonds around it adding up to be about another 1/4 carat. I chose my ring and it cost $500. My wedding band was $100. Why spend all that money when it's not necessary? I love what my ring symbolizes and I cried when my fingers got too bloated to wear it when I was pregnant with my son. I had to wear them around my neck because I refuse to be without my rings. I still get complimented several times a month by strangers on how beautiful my rings are, and I've had them for years! If he wants to get you something big, let him. The important thing is that you know you don't need anything big and flashy. There needs to be more women like us who aren't quite so materialistic.
2006-06-23 05:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're not wrong at all. My whole wedding set (both rings) has together a 1/2 carat. And 1/2 of that was in the wedding band. That meant my engagement ring had a 1/4 carat stone.
The ring is a physical symbol of your promise to each other. You can have whatever reminds you of that promise and of that person. I told my now husband to go to Wal-mart for all it mattered. (He categorically refused that suggestion and went to a real jewelry store)
But here's another thing to consider. Although women view the ring as a symbol and place holder and designation of being taken, men, by instinct view the ring as a status symbol for the both of you. The bigger, better ring he can put on your finger the more he is telling the world what he thinks of you. The more he can display what he thinks you are worth. He may feel inferior getting you something that isn't big and glittery and beautiful. That isn't a reflection on him, my man did the same thing and it took me weeks to talk him out of the $700 ring. (Both the engagement and wedding band cost about $300 and his ring cost about $100)
2006-06-23 04:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the size of the ring that matters.........and that's good you feel that way.
A carat is nice, but make sure you go for quality, not quantity. A 3/4 carat that is clear (know the C's of diamond shopping) better then (and sometimes worth more) then a cloudy full carat. Be sure to do you research.
2006-06-23 03:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bride05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Even a ring without a diamond is fine with me. But, he is probably worried that people will think he is cheap. Easily let him know that you prefer the look of "this ring", rather than the one with the large diamond. And, as someone else said, get him to use the rest of the money for something fun or useful.
2006-06-23 04:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's great that you believe and money/diamonds don't show how much you love a person. The size of the diamond that you get won't matter; but what bothers me is that the size of the diamond DOES matter to your boyfriend. Be sure that you have the same values in life before you marry him. Good luck.
2006-06-23 03:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by razzleberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right - you could put a down payment on a house or car. It should be whatever you want and dreamed off as a little girl. It is just a status single for men. I wanted something dainty and simple and ended up getting a 3 carat ring. It all boils down to what they want to buy and how far away it can be seen by other guys to keep them away.
2006-06-23 03:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. Size of the stone in the ring has nothing to do with the size of the person's love for you.
A karat is a nice size. That's what I wanted. Since you dont care, let him get whatever size he wants. He obviously wants to give you something he can be proud of. This ring thing is a huge ego boost to a guy. Let him get you what he wants and be grateful that he cares so much!
2006-06-23 07:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a deal. Find a store that makes jewelry. They will give you more for you money, and you can design what ever you want. You will get better quality stones and a better price. I do not know how people do not know about this.
Like the here in Kansas city its called merriottes. You will really be surprised of how munch more you can buy.
If you can afford 1 carrot in a department store you can get 2 from a place like that. I promise you that.
2006-06-23 03:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by mike67333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with quality over quantity. It'll be a good compromise for the two of you. You'll get a smaller, better quality diamond that will look better than all the people who have huge discolored and cloudy rings.
2006-06-23 06:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't care how big it is consider the size of your fingers. If you have tiny hands and thin fingers one carat might look odd. But if you have average sized hands then by all means take the one carat!!
2006-06-23 04:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋