Since kids seem to be finding out earlier today about sex from all different kinds of sources...what do you think is a good age to talk to them about it?
2006-06-23 03:06:08 · 20 answers · asked by yogazen 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i learned before anyone talked to me about it and that was in 5th grade!!!!!
2006-06-23 03:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I believe that the earlier they know about the 'birds and the bees' the much better off they are. A good age to introduce them to the topic is at the age of 11. At this age many children ask questions and base what they are told they will believe. This stick with them with not just that time but with the rest of their lives.
Also it is important to know how to tell them. If you are to much into detail you are way over their heads. Try to break it down so that they understand.
2006-06-23 10:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Raj B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a set age (just like you can't define when someone truly is an "adult"...I mean you can legally but plenty of 30yr olds act like they're 12 and some 12 yr olds act 30...
my point is, wait until they ask you questions (or seem to be curious or something) and give them the infiormation they want...don't lie to them. Sex is not a crazy, criminal thing, and honesty about the subject (not shame or humiliation) will help start them off with a positive attitude about sex...so maybe they won't grow up to be pervs or soemthing
2006-06-23 10:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by michaelscar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 2 and I plan on being frank with her as she grows up. We're not going to hide where she came from. I think sharing information with her as she grows up will make it much easier and less uncomfortable for both of us when the times comes to have the actual "talk". My parents weren't open with me so the only message I got from them was "don't do it" I learned more in school. I wish that my parents had been more open with me.
Also I work in a profession where I help mothers give birth so we have regular discussions around the house about what happened at a particular birth. So that aspect will be covered thoroughly. She has already seen many videos of moms giving birth and points to the screen and says "baby"
2006-06-23 10:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by herdoula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As early as they are able to have a conversation with you. My daughter is 7 and I talk to her all the time about it. And not just about sex. I talk to her about: sex, alcohol, smoking, drugs and what she sees on TV. She is smart enough to tell me what her thoughts are and that way I can continue to educate her. She is already giving me a correct answer (wink). It doesn't have to be anything graphical, and don't make it too hard on yourself either. Just talk to your kids on a casual basis. The more they keep hearing it from you in the midst of conversations the more they'll remember. It is not about what you will prohibit them to do, but what decision they will make when you are not around them. Relax and enjoy the journey. However you say it, you can't mess up. Only if you don't say anything at all.
2006-06-23 10:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Growing Millionaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that children are a lot wiser today they were a long time ago. You have to watch your child, their behavior and the things they say. If childhood seem to be dwindling and they are a little more inquisitive, or they are confused emotionally, I think it maybe time. My son became a little more secretive, and my daughter was a little more open to talk to her friends than me. I am a open mother anyway, every now and then I would throw out phrases or words to see where they were in life. This help me understand what was going on in their lives and let them know that they could come to me for anything. I am glad I did this, because my son came to me about something that he would tell only his boys. I was able to help him through it and in return I am still "one " of his best friends. Be blessed!
2006-06-23 10:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by quiet storm! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it seems very young, I think 5th grade (10 or 11) is an appropriate age to have "the talk".
I think that is the age where the school starts to discuss girls starting their periods and the different hormonal feelings boys and girls have.
2006-06-23 10:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to the child, they will ask casual questions, give them simple answers. Always be honest when the questions come, make sure they understand. This will make it a natural process and you probably wont need to have that "talk". I think without the curiosity sometimes the "talk' is just confusing and does more harm than good..
2006-06-23 10:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's mother had "the talk" when she was almost ten, which I think is too early. But then again when my Dad had that talk with me, I was probably 13 and had already found out most of it at school. So somewhere in there is appropriate, kids talk about things and it's best you set them straight.
2006-06-23 10:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there should be an age for it. I think it is ongoing. Adding more info as the child ages and is ready for it.
My son learned everything on the school bus at the age of 5.
2006-06-23 11:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say around 7 or 8 if not sooner
i have heard of 9 year olds having sex
must have bad parents if there doing it at that age
2006-06-23 10:11:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋