how do you teach a two year old that fighting and bad guys are not nice?

Answer 1

lol i dont know i want my kids to defend themselves

Answer 2

I know it's not PC, but IMO boys need to do this kind of imaginitive play as much as girls need to do their nuturing baby-doll kind of play. It's part of their make-up and when you tell them it's wrong, it feels like you are saying there is something wrong with them (the boys). I think any parent with both a boy & a girl will tell you there are definite gender differences in their wiring, no matter how much we adults like to think men & women are all the same!

Rather than stamp it out, we try to channel it positively. We set a few ground rules, like no playing "bad guys", "super heroes" or weapons at school and no real fighting because it's not nice to hurt our friends.

We also made clear to our son that good guys are just that--GOOD. That means they don't hurt anyone...which is simplistic given media reports to the contrary but our goal is for DS to think of himself as a good guy and a protector rather than a fighter and a destroyer.

We do limit the types of TV, videos, etc that he watches and we don't have violent toys. We don't have play weapons (yes he makes them out of sticks and random toys that look nothing like guns or swords) and we talk a lot about how we never ever touch a real gun or real knives even at friends houses, etc. He has some small super hero type action figures; we don't have trouble with him getting too rowdy if he plays with them. A friend does so she limits the amount of time her son can use them and only lets him play with them alone.

Sometimes the more you pay attention to a behavior, the more entrenched it becomes. Mostly, I don't pay too much attention to it unless it's actually violent, which is quite rare for my son & his friends. Their play usually involves chasing each other around with imaginary/invisible "weapons" and making various sound effects rather than any actual physical combat. It's just boys being boys...although my daughter enjoys the occasional game of Spiderman or Narnia as well. ;-)

Answer 3

You must explain to him what is acceptable and what is not acceptable, all of the time.

A child is never to young to learn good behavior.

try to watch him so that if you see something building up that might result in a fight and try to defuse the situation.

Avoid violent TV shows. etc. But remember boys especially love to play wrestle, if they are not too rough let him, but explain the other participant must be willing.

Answer 4

You can't at the moment the childs biggest thing in his life is just being a person wait for another year or so

Answer 5

try strangers and fighting freebie good luck it's a life long power struggle

Answer 6

by setting an example.
Do not create much of the fear in a little boy of 2y.