A 17 year old have a younger sister, 14 that is having her 1st bf. The 14 yr old has problems with her bf. She goes to her 17 yr old sister for help. The 17 yr old refuses to help her because when she was 14 yr old, her parents don't allow her to date and that she feels unfair that the 14 yr old is allowed to at 14 and claims that the 14 yr old is younger and got away with more and have more freedom than she did. The 14 yr old feel rejected by the 17 yr old & stop getting along with her older sister.
2006-06-23 02:58:58 · 25 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me thinks 17 yr old is behaving younger than 14 yr old...grow up to have bf u 17
2006-06-23 03:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by zoya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 14-year old is more right than the 17-year old. As an older sister, she is obligated to help her younger siblings. However, she is only not helping because she is jealous, which is a terrible reason not to help. The 14-year old is allowed to date, so there shouldn't be any problem. If the 17-year old really loved her sister, then she would get past the unfairness and help her sister. Besides, the unfairness isn't the 14-year old's fault; it's the parents' fault. Thus, the 14-year old shouldn't be punished for that.
2006-06-23 10:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by King Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 17 yr old is wrong because its not the 14 yr olds fault that the parents let it happen. The 17 yr old should be there for the 14 yr old to help and give advise. Your sisters. There is no stronger bond. Dont ruin it over something your parents did. Get over it, things change.
2006-06-23 10:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not fair that she didn't get to date at a younger age, but that's not the 14 y/o's fault. I mean, maybe the parents felt that the 14 y/o was a little more mature than her sister at that age. Either way, that shouldn't be held against the 14 year old. The older sister just needs to get over it, because not getting along with her sister won't change that a bit, that's all in the past. Life is too short for sisters to not get along because of parental choices. Neither of them are wrong for feeling the way that they do. They just need to sit down and talk about this. Big sis needs to understand that little sis looks up to her and wants her help. She should feel good that she is looked up to like that.
2006-06-23 10:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by terrapinqueen76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the 17 yr old should guide her sister. and let her know she never had issues when she was 14. Its amazing how we become relaxed with standards that create strife. One rule one standard and everyone will be fine. But the 17 year old should get over the fact that she had a stress free life at 14. Real relationships take work and at 14 its usually more often than not just sexual and for status.
2006-06-23 10:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by D_Nice_4Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the 17 year old, I would try and understand that the 14 year old doesn't have control over her parents and their decisions and I would be there to help if I could. This is an issue with the 17 year old and her parents, not her sister.
2006-06-23 10:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This feels like your own story.
As a older sister she should give advice as to what is good and what is bad.
ABout getting more freedom to the 14 yr old the young ones are always pampered by the parents.
They should be more like friends then the sisters and should be there for each other then feeling the sensse of insecuirty or less preference.
Smile always
2006-06-23 10:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents are wrong. This is what happens when the rules get bend. The 14 year old needs to find someone else for help, the 17 years old will not forget for a while.
2006-06-23 10:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by hardcoco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 17 year old will be 18 soon. Act like an adult and give your sister good advice. I still don't think it is a good idea for 14 year olds to date alone. Perhaps she should go out in groups. I do agree with you that your parents should not let her go out. To young
2006-06-23 10:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by JAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to stick together the bf may talk that 14 yr old into something and she may need the 17 yr olds help and the 17 yr old will feel bad if something bad happens
2006-06-23 10:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋