How do i raise my daughter right so she can avoid making same mistakes i made?

Question

my wife just gave birth to a girl, I'd like to be a good father and give her the best possible upbringing, how do i go about this, what are the do's and don't etc , my parents tried to give me a very good upbringing and education as well as a good religious/moral training but i still made some very wrong decisions that had great negative consequences in my life, i don't want my daughter to make such mistakes, i'd also appreciate links to great websites or books that i can read up. i really want to get this right

Answer 1

Congratulations! The best you can do is be open and honest about your life and the mistakes you learned from. Keep the communication going so she feels comfortable talking to you about anything. Sounds like your parents did a pretty good job since you are genuinely concerned about your new baby daughter.Good luck!

Answer 2

Congratulations on becoming a father! There are a lot of responsibility that goes along with being a parent. Unfortunately we as parents have to learn as we go. All you can do is teach her to the best of your ability. Nothing you do is gonna keep her from doing things that you may not approve of. Just let her know where you stand on certain issues. She will have to make mistakes and learn things on her own just as you did. that is all part of growing up. I am not sure of any books but you should get on Amazon and type in the subject. You can then check out the books that come up and be sure to read the customer reviews. Good luck to you and your new family member. I hope she has a long, healthy, happy life! Enjoy her.

Answer 3

Congratulations on your daughter! That is wonderful. Try to have an open line of communication with your daughter as she gets older. And don't be afraid to tell her some of the mistakes you made. Realize that she still will make some "bad" decisions, but that is okay. Everyone does. Try to make sure she is open-minded and friendly to everyone. Make sure she appreciates the things that she has. Have her volunteer with you at a breadline so she can have some appreciation of what you've given her. Stress how important education is. But most of all, be in her life and have fun with her. You will do great.

Answer 4

Keep her happy. If she makes a mistake, also point out the good things she's done around that mistake. Make sure she is never bored, talk father-daughter-ly, and get her a bunch of friends in which she can share her feelings and time and not her money and her...well, bad stuff :P...make it fun to learn about religion. Whatever your religion is, I don't want to be mean...Don't spoil her, 'cause growing up I see that spoiled brats don't do no good. And keep a good line of communication. Take her places all the time! 'Cause kids think that if you don't spend time with them, they're not worth it! And if you do, they're loved! And what laclockiecellestial said, too!

Answer 5

Talk to her and always try to lead her in the right directions. She's going to make mistakes, she's only human and there is no such thing as a perfect human. Never tell her, "I told you so." No matter what she does in life, she is your daughter and nothing will ever change that. You love her but that doesn't mean you're always going to like everything she does.

Answer 6

We are all going to make mistakes in life. Its part of growing up and learning. You cant worry yourself sick over that. What you can do is be there for your daughter. Spend time with her. Let her know you love her. For a daughter, the love of her father molds the men she will pick later on in life. In my opinion getting this part right is more important than anything else. Give her this and she will ultimately make the right decisions.

Answer 7

there is no right do's and don't to being a parent you have to just be there and learn and teach as you go along. I'm twenty-five single parent (father is around and helps), but at home it's me and my baby (4yrs.) and I still am learning the rules, all you can do is tell her the things you did wrong and how you hope that she doesn't do the same, but we learn from mistakes so don't worry she may not be that bad on mistakes and if she is, be there to walk and talk her through them....Congrats on the new baby

Answer 8

Just pray.... and surrender your daughter to the Lord....

Just trust Him.... you will get the right guidance at the right time.... and you might not even notice it came from Him....

You don't have to trouble yourself too much. Your doughter has come into the world for a specific cause.... and God will lead her into situations - good or bad - for her to learn something important, so that she will aceive her purpose. And by this way, when you are gone, she will still do the right thing...

Be strict with her when she is young, say upto 8 years or so, and gradually let her do the thinking for herself... just think with her...

Just let her be free.... You will notice a remarkable young responsible daughter.

The bottom line is, pray for your daughter at all times, so that she finds her purpose and acheives it.

Answer 9

Be honest with her. When she is old enough, share your mistakes and the consequences with her. Share your knowledge and just love her. She is eventually going to be big enough to make her own decisions and you can only HOPE she makes the right ones, but unfortunately, there are no guarantees. Congrats on your new daughter.

Answer 10

The very best thing you can do is to set a good example at all times, and be supportive enough that when she does make a mistake, she comes to you for help instead of hiding it.