Why do so many guys not appreciate their gf/wives?

Question

i sometimes wonder why so many guys do not appreciate being with their gf or wives and treat them badly. i see so many beautiful girls with guys who do not treat them like they deserve. i spend so many hours alone and i think if that girl would love me the way she does him i would be so happy not talk to her that way or joke about her in bad ways like the people at my work do. i know i am not attractive and sort of a loser so girls do not want me but if i had what they had. i wouldn't do those things. Please appreciate what you have.

actually going back and looking at my question I realized i may have given the wrong impression. i am married but my life is very different than most people's and it would be to hard to describe here as to all the details and why i am alone a lot.

Answer 1

I agree. However, you need to understand that People Choose How To Be Treated. All those women who are unappreciated are allowing it to happen by staying in the relationship. It's a self esteem issue.

The higher your self esteem and self worth is, the less likely you are to put up with behavior in which you don't condone. The less self esteem you have, the more you will allow people to treat you badly because deep down, you feel you deserve it and you can't distinguish between being treated well and treated badly.

In my opinion, based on your comment, you feel as though the only way to feel validated is to have someone love you. That's not the case. You have to love yourself and respect yourself before you can expect ANYONE else in this world to do it. It sounds like you don't feel that way about yourself "I'm not attractive and sort of a loser". Why would you say that about yourself? If you don't change your thinking about you, you're going to attract someone who is going to most likely take advantage of you and not treat you kindly until you are kind to yourself. Looks mean nothing when a person's core values are in check so don't obsess on your looks. What makes you a loser? Has someone diagnosed you as a loser? Probably not so I would say you are not a loser. If you feel that you are, change what it is that you are doing that makes you feel that way about yourself. That's the start to getting the love that you want!! :)

Answer 2

THis is a question that I ponder a lot. My bf dumped me because he wasnt ready for a gf and we were going out for a month. He shouldnt have even accepted and he actuallly didnt like me. I think guys go for their looks first and not their personalitly. Guys want the skinny big boobed girls and thats not me . SO it might take awhile for ceratian girls to get bf. Its kinda sad in way i think. People should also people shouldnt like u if ur ugly or weird. THey need to like u for who u are. You seem like a really nice guy and i wouldnt care if u were ugly. I wish more guys were like u . So yes guys can be a little judgemental and same with girls. But guys just look at their body and say mean things about what they do because maybe they dont no it hurts the girl.
Thanks I hope that helped some.

Answer 3

Most guys are still waiting for Heidi Klum or Cindi Crawford to come along & take them home - they can't be happy with what they have becuase they want to leave their options open in case something better is just over the next hill. If you don't feel you are attractive then change that about yourself. Also work on your positive thinking - if you want a girl to love you like that then you can't project "loser" - you have to feel good about you, first. Good luck - I'm still looking for a man to appreciate all of the things I have to offer but I think I'm gonna have to give it up.

Answer 4

Okay you want know why guy don't appreciate there girlfriend or wives. Lets think and this for a moment. Your married and you want to be with another female. Then you should ask your self that question, because It doesnt'' sound like your treating your wife right. If you live in a glass house, then don't throw stones.

Answer 5

You sound like a very good man. Most of the people you are describing are more boys than men. Real manhood doesn't come with age, it comes from maturity. I know it may not seem fair now, but you will eventually find a woman who will be honored and blessed to be with you. Keep your head up and continue down the same paths and God will bless you with a love that is stronger than any other. Good luck.

Answer 6

Oh, gosh, lots of reasons.

1. The woman lets them get away with it, or thrives on the drama.
2. The guy is clueless and has no idea how lucky he is.
3. Or, the most common reason, the boy was spoiled rotten by his mama and sees women as servants. I see it all the time - no curfew, no chores, no laundry as a teenager, so when he's all grown up he expects his wife to wait on him hand and foot! After all, that's what mama did!

Answer 7

Alot of guys are like that. They just bring the girl down so much that they start believing that is all they deserve. That they are not good enough for better. It is really sad. I on the other hand would knock a mans teeth down their throat if they disrespected me that way. I would also put a man in the hospital if ever laid a hand on me. After all that is why they invented the IRON SKILLET!

Answer 8

Not just guys treating gals badly. Lots of good, honest men out there who take a beating and keep on ticking. It's that old opposites attract tag.

Answer 9

Sometimes men have the impression that their gf/wife will be there forever; that they "own" them in a sense. It's up to the gf/wife to realize that they're being treated like crap and to leave. Once the man realizes that she doesn't need him, he will beg and beg and beg... men always want what they can't have.

Answer 10

there are even guys out there who don´t look good..
and treat their gf/ wives real bad.. or take advantage of them.

the guys do their thing.. and the gf/wives work , take care of kids
throw the house... and what do they get nothing...

just the words saying love you honey... but do they mean it...