2006-06-23 02:13:54 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have a problem with it doesn't that tell you something?
2006-06-23 02:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by feelingfineat40 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was seventeen....I thought I had everything figured out, I dated older guys. Now five years later looking back I see how immature and selfless I was at that age and I wonder why older men Even dated me. You need to seriously think about the pro's and the con's of dating this younger girl and why you are pursuing this relationship in the first place, she may seem all grown up but as you know yourself she still has a lot of growing up to do. Though she may say differently, at 17 she isn't really ready to be tied down with one guy....this is still the age where dating is still just a big "show." I guess the best question to ask yourself is what does this girl have to offer that a girl your own age doesn't? Do the parents approve? If they don't than you need to end this right away....good luck with whatever you choose....
2006-06-23 02:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the not difference in age that would concern me, it's the age. I can not see why a man of 25 would be interested in a girl of 17. My guess is that you do not feel like you are an equal to other adults. It's likely that you view yourself as a teenager still. You may also be very controlling and you believe that you have a better chance of controlling or manipulating this 17 year old girl. Why don't you ask yourself these questions and be very very honest with yourself, then ask yourself if you really want to be "dating" a teenager.
2006-06-23 02:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in some states of the US you might be breaking the law, though in most places (for example, the UK) you're legally fine. I think your problem comes from the fact that alot of teenagers are, let's face it, a pain in the ***. They have a combination of "I'm a grown up now!" confidence mixed up with a fair measure of naivety that makes them very hard to understand or predict. I dated an 18 year old for a few weeks once and it was horrible, she just didn't know how to act or express herself properly and kept lying all the time because she wasn't sure of how she should be acting in a relationship and didn't want to admit it. I think it's quite possible that it can work, but it'll require alot of patience on your side for it to do so.
2006-06-23 02:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a friend your age dating a 17 year old and they argue quiet a lot but it's mostly because she's still in school but if you realy like her keep dating her things will get better when she turns 18 and have to deal with the real word, you will see her whole opinion will change because she is now influenced with other teens.
2006-06-23 02:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Daliah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off its ilegal in most states. The age difference at that age is too off. Where would you go? What would you do? 17 still in High School, are you going to prom at 25? Come on, think about it.
Granted, my honey and I are 10 years apart but he is 43 and I am 33. We both have kids and both have careers. I am not saying it wouldn't work, but maybe later in life, I know we would not have had anything in common if we got together before we did.
2006-06-23 02:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by suziQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen boo, love take you where the hearts leads you (meaning that if have any inkling that this girl could be the one don't worry). If you really had a problem wit her age then you would have never started talkin to her. age ain't nothing but a number. All women were young once, you are a little older, but if she is mature and can handle and adult relationship then roll wit it if not don't play games wit her let her go.
2006-06-23 02:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the basic problem--dating a minor may be illegal in your state--if you are having trouble with any aspect of the relationship, it is not worth it. Back away from this; it sounds as if you are asking for real trouble.
2006-06-23 02:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by hwatease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not mentally, intelligently, intellectually on the same level, then you should not dating her. For example, ask yourself these questions: In a conversation, can you guys relate to each other? Can you guys have a conversation on a deeper topic or an intellectual conversation? You also might want to wait until she is more mature.
2006-06-26 19:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 25, but can't help you... cause my problem is quite similar to yours: should I start dating one of 34???
He?
The problem is that I am 25 but look... and often also think like 17, you know. Now if you add it up, it would be like 17 girl to 34 guy. Now, to be honest, that is too much.
Date me, and we'll be just fine and okay!!!
:-)
(joking)
2006-06-23 10:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a BIG problem with it too. Why the hell are you going for someone that young? Are you too immature yourself to get a girl YOUR OWN AGE? I could see going for someone that is 33 because you are more on the same playing field. 17... School, homework, parents.... Come on now.
2006-06-23 02:16:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋