I am 27 and i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months.We been having sex ever since, but I no longer enjoy having sex because i feel pain all the time.I spoke to him about it and he said he wont be able to live without sex. I do love him but i just dont want to have sex with him anymore. I dont want to loose , what must i do.
2006-06-23 01:48:58 · 38 answers · asked by gwegwe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
instead of stopping to have sex, which is such a key element for so many poeple's relationships, you should find out what hurts. sex should not be painful (but pleasurable). perhaps if you fix YOUR problem, your relationship will continue to grow - instead of giving your boyfriend a problem. please see a doctor righta way.
2006-06-23 01:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
First off, You should not be having pain. It does happen. Sounds like you have pain even when your not having sex with him from what you said. There are several female problems that you could be experiencing. You really should see a GYN as soon as you can. You do not deserve to be in pain all of the time. Now that said. Sit your boy friend down... tell him about the pain... that it is All of the time (so he doesn't think you are blaming him) if it is sharp pains, dull pains, pulsing pains, etc. Tell him you are going to or have (which ever the case may be) a doctor check it out. IF he REALLY loves YOU, then he will understand and support you with finding out what is wrong and getting it fixed. Also will wait til you can joyfully make love to him without any pain. If he does not support you and understand, and want to wait and help you. Then I'm sorry to say, but the majority of the folks are right... if he can not be there for you, then he does not love you and you should then move on and kick his butt to the curb. Make sure you let him know that you do not blame him... that is important.... Men will always act rudely if they feel they are to blame for something, especially when they don't know a way to turn it around on you and make it your fault. Most guys do not comprehend that some things just happen and is not any ones fault. I hope all turns out well for you either way.
2006-06-23 02:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You break it to him nice and easy. Take him out, get him a few drinks and when you both get back home have a girl there for him to have sex with. Because there is no way in hell he is going to be faithful to you after you say don't want to have sex anymore. Why don't you just castrate him too while you're at it. Is there anything else you'd like to take away from him while you're at it? If you're having pains you obviously have a medical condition of some kind. You could even have a tilted uterus. Go see a doctor. Find out what the problem is. Then sit down and discuss a way to meet your b/fs needs if you personally can't do it. You can not ask a man to give up his basic natural urges just because you can no longer fill his needs.
2006-06-27 04:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a problem.
First, stop having sex. Explain to your boyfriend that you are in pain and go and see a doctor. Explain to the doctor about your pain and ask to be checked out. If there is something physically wrong the doctor will know almost immediately. If not you may need a blood test. If you need treatment, get treated and return to full health before restarting you sex life.
If you get the all clear from your doctor perhaps you boyfriend needs to be checked out.
If, after explaining this to your boyfriend, he insists on continuing your sexual relationship before you are both physically 100%, then you should let him go, no matter how emotionally painful it feels. No woman should be forced or bullied into having sex, especially if its is hurtful and perhaps dangerous.
2006-06-23 02:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Helping Hand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your saying to this guy you will never have sex with him again, well uhh yea thats gonna put just a lil strain on the reltionship.As others have told you, you need to see a doctor and find out whats wrong.Maybe theres some kind of blocked out emotional problems you have too, because you should WANT to find out why it hurts! So maybe not only see a phd but a shrink too,..not saying that to be mean, its just, man, NEVER having sex again?? cmon thats nuts, no man and i dont even think no woman would undertsand that if thier mate said that to them.
2006-06-23 02:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by itsallover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should see a doctor and find out what's causing the pain. It could be a simple urinary tract infection or something more serious like a STD. Don't put this off!
Tell your boyfriend the truth. If he can't live without sex for a few weeks while you get treated, he sounds too immature for a serious relationship.
2006-06-23 01:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your question was honest and you really have pain during intercourse there is a physical, or mental, or emotional reason why. Please get yourself checked out by a gynecologist. You may have a cyst or some other problem that can be easily rectified. If your boyfriend is not understanding enough to wait until the doctors diagnostic returns he is an uncaring selfish person and it is time for you to move on.
2006-06-23 01:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think sex is a good idea without marraige...
But, not taking that into account, you should tell him flat out
that it is painful. You should then tell him that you are going
to get help so that you can figure out why it's painful and get
that fixed. Make sure he knows that you want things to go
back to the way it was. If he still gives you grief, he doesn't
care for you enough.
2006-06-23 01:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by p3jedi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if the only reason he's with you is for sex than you're better off. Sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If he really loves you than he will understand. Also if you're feeling pain when having sex than you may want to see a doctor, because it may be something seriously wrong. Good luck!
2006-06-23 01:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by dazedandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot respect that you do not wish to have sex, and if he is so willing to cause you pain to have his satisfaction, then he does not really love you. You are better off without him. There is something wrong if sex causes you pain. I would cut of your boyfriend and go see a doctor. That pain is your body's way of telling you something is wrong. Listen to your body, stop doing what causes it pain, and go to the doctor. Your boyfriend loves your body, not you. He is not worth having.
2006-06-23 01:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by zharantan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to figure out what it is that is causing the pain and fix that. Stopping having sex isn't an option if you want to stay with him.... At least until after you're married! LOL
2006-06-23 01:52:09 · answer #11 · answered by selene1212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋