Anyways...My mom thinks I am a Lesbian for really bad reasons -- I support gay marriage, I never had a boyfriend (because all of the preps at school get them...), and I am a tomboy. She mentioned it yesterday in a very rude comment, and I just blew up on her and she does not seem to listen to me. I am a straight, 14 year old, punk-emoish person who never had a boyfriend because all of the cheerleaders take the good ones. AND I don't really plan on getting an actual boyfriend until college so then my mom would stay out of the relationship. So...how can I convince my mom that I am not a Lesbian?
2006-06-23 01:45:24 · 21 answers · asked by Confused... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are only 14, I get my first boyfriend when l was 18, this doesn't mean you are a lesbian.
2006-06-23 01:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let it get you down. I think that being a teenager is hard enough without adding more stresses. Your mam is being very insensitive considering your age. You're only 14 so why does she feel that you should have a boyfriend. I was a tomboy when I was your age and I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16. My parents thought that my school work was more important.
You seem to me as if you've got a good head on your shoulders and have your priorities right.
I'm sorry if I sound as if I'm disrespecting your mam, but, she is ignorant if she thinks that supporting gay marriage, being a tomboy and not having a boyfriend makes you a lesbian.
Try talking to her calmly and rationally. Tell her how you feel when she makes nasty comments about you. She shouldn't do that to any child, least of all her own.
I wish you loads of luck.
Take care.
2006-06-23 02:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she ever hear u and your friends discussing boys that might help...and supporting gay marriage just means your open minded about things..That really sucks that the cheerleaders get all the good boyfriends though...maybe u could double date with some friends or something...
Just tell your mom your not a lesbian,your shouldn't have to convince her.If she won't believe u thats her problem.
2006-06-23 01:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that just because you think every one has the right to be happy it dose not mean that you are a lesbian. And other than some people you are your own person and have better things to do in life than run around looking for a BOYFRIEND!
2006-06-23 01:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by nvee23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Just be yourself. If she thinks you're a lesbian, she thinks you're a lesbian, YOU know that you're not, and when you're in college, and walk in with that oh-so sexy intellectual man that makes your moms jaw drop, you can smile and say "toldja!" But until then, don't sweat it girl. Men are over-rated anyway, and at 14 there is so much more in life than finding a "boyfriend". Let the cheerleaders have them, I promise you'll have more fun later in life. Keep your head up!
2006-06-23 01:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The lady doth protest too much, methinks—Hamlet
It is obvious you are not a Lesbian. If you were, you have had many chances in a fit of anger to declare your sexual preference to the antagonist(Your mother)
The problem is your mother. She is teeming with prejudices and stereotypes. She is using your teen lifestyle as fodder to feed these social taboos of hers.
She views her world through tainted glasses and no one can change her one-track- minded beliefs/views.
My advice: Do not protest anymore...let it slide. On the intellectual level, your mother is fathoms below you.
In time, when you marry your prince, it will all come out in the wash. You will probably say to her then" to think, at one time you thought I was a lesbian." Her response? She will probably shrug her shoulders as though her crime was no big thing.....but you and I know better, don't we?
2006-06-23 02:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gray Matter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 08:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom used to thing that about me too, I'm 25 and never had a serious relation, and most of them my mom was never aware because I don't trust her, don't worry about that, I know know that her coments can hurt but don't listen to her, don't argue, the best think to do when she comes out with one of those comentaries just say something funny like " Mom I'm waiting for Brad Pitt to divorce again" or "The true is I like older man, I'm inlove with a 50 years old man" with time she will stop because she will know you will come up with some stupid answer.
2006-06-23 01:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to ask yourself does it matter what she thinks. Why should you have to convince her of anything? I know that's sad to say because we are born with a will to please our parents. But, you seem to have a strong sense of self and have a knowledge of where you want to go with your life. So go for it and NEVER let someone put you down or say rude things to you or about you. You don't have to be disrespectful or rude, just take a stand for yourself.
She should be proud that you're a strong-willed person who has a mind of her own. She should be happy you're not out being a hoochie.
2006-06-23 01:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"punk-emoish person" "tomboy"
its seems to me that you are classifing yourself based on general ideas of society. instead of trying to be a member of the "punk-emoish person" group why not just try to be yourself.
most moms that I know don't want there daughter dating at 14
finally, if you want to get her off your back, try just going out on a date with someone that you know, or tell her its a date and just go out to hang out with a good "male" friend.
also, if you want to make her day, ask her to go shopping with you to buy a nice dress or outfit or something to wear out with your friend. accept whatever she picks regardless of whether you like it or not. this will make her fill needed and happy for about 3-4 monthes.
2006-06-23 01:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by butcherfamily513 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋