I THINK I'M UGLY AND FAT I'VE BEEN SINGLE FOR 17YRS(I'M 17) MY BEST FRIEND IS A BOY BUT HE DOESN't SEE ME LIKE THAT AND THE ONE BOY I LIKE HE IGNORES ME .SOMETIMES I GET LONLY AND DEPRESSED.AM I GOING TO BE SINGLE MY WHOLE LIFE?
2006-06-23 01:30:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Better start loving yourself. If you don't care about youself , then no one else is going to either. Think about it.
2006-06-23 01:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. I can honestly say I know how you feel. I was the same way. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 19 and I just turned 20 a few days ago. I know it's hard to see couples and think " I wish I was them." There is always someone out there that will think you are beautiful the way you are. The biggest thing you can do for yourself is have confidence. Without it you're bound to feel lonely and depressed all your life. I understand that confidence doesn't just grow overnight. It's the little things that will help. Smile more. People are more comfortable around a happy person. No you're not ugly and you're definitely not ugly. Don't listen to people that try to put you down. Everyone has insecurities with their bodies and they're no different. Enjoy your life. Be happy and laugh more often. You're bound to catch someone's eye and if you find someone, don't play so hard to get. Guys may get turned off if you seem uninterested, but don't just jump at the first glance. Life's about hits and misses so never commit to something when you're so young.
Good Luck and Au revoir
2006-06-23 10:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by thetruegemini86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you are still young and have plenty of time.
Weight can be lost and get a make-over to start..... new clothes won't hurt your self esteem either. Time to concentrate on YOU FIRST! Treat yourself, and not with Chocolate Sundays! Get your hair done and your nail manicured.
EXAMPLE: If you only know 10 guys, the chances are less great that you will hook up. If you know 1000 guys, there are better chances of hooking up.
Go out into that big wide world and start saying hello. College and University are your best bets. At least these guys have some level of ambition and have the best bet of making something of themselves. The same goes for you.
Meeting guys in alleyways or house parties will be fun, but if you want a stable life with more joys than difficulties, go the school route.
Look for and hang out with the sons of millionaires and look like you are worth every penny. Be genuine, they can smell a gold digger a mile away and they will shun you. You'll then get a bad rap in their well-to-do community. Be yourself and be true to you!
Good luck!
2006-06-23 08:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by doctor_johnnie_jointroller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have anyone called you ugly, if not you are not, you are average looking. If you are 17 and single that's good you should be observing a lot of relationships and guys to find out what and how guys operate and what they like. If you show yourself friendly then you may attract a nice descent guy who will be interested in you, because you don't want anyone to be your mate or boyfriend. And if you got a boy that's a best friend that's good ask him what would make you more appealing or attractive. I know lots of girls that weigh over 200lbs. that have met handsome guys that was into them. So just give life some time. If you were real ugly and fat you would be in one of those freak shows and would not have NO friends, so don't consider yourself ugly just average beauty O.K................Good Luck, And oh don't go searching let Mr. Right find you.
2006-06-23 08:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mofabolist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 17 so don't dwell on it.... Life's too short. It's certainly not worth getting depressed over. I'm sure you're not ugly. You should love yourself first before you can expect anyone else to. Get out there and enjoy yourself while you are single. Be positive about everything you are and stop all the negativity. A happier person is a more attractive person. You'll meet someone soon enough but for now just enjoy your freedom.
2006-06-23 08:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your only seventeen years old! you still have a lot of body fat to shed unless its hereditary (in your genes to be big). If you are having a problem with your weight then try finding a weight loss program that's fits you that will aid in helping you loose weight. As far as the dude you like ignoring you........skip him, there are to many fish in the sea to get stuck on one guy who doesn't appreciate a beautiful young lady! Your young, trust me, you will meet plenty of guys! I guarantee you won't be single your whole life. Don't be depressed, get up and find a way to shed those pounds. Also, have enough self love for yourself! loneliness creeps on all of us sometimes but it isn't worth letting you allow it to get the best of you! Your not repulsive, know that you are gorgeous! remember the adage?..........beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Why don't you try different hairstyles and outfits that compliment you? that's what I do when I'm feeling fat or bloated. Try it! remember, you are 'beautiful'! don't let a guy shot down your self esteem because he doesn't notice.
2006-06-23 08:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by ms. mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you spend time thinking you are ugly and fat, you will think that other people also see you as ugly and fat. Instead of concentrating on boys you should try to concentrate on your self. After you build up your self esteem and confidence, I'm sure someone will realize just how beautiful you are. Neither boy nor girl find someone with low self esteem and confidence attractive. Would you? You shouldn't expect your friend to be interested in you in that nature.
2006-06-23 08:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much you'll be single all your life - but first things first you need to learn to appreciate yourself - that is always the first step. A bit of a cliche I know, but if you see the good in you, then others will too. You can think about trying to lose a bit of weight and perhaps treat yourself to a makeover, but don't expect this to be the miracle cure - the changes have to start from within.
And lastly - DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN!!!
All good wishes to you
xxx
2006-06-23 08:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, everyone of us have our own personalities of ours in this world and sure there are people who respect that also. One cannot change for other and the one who can accpet someone for what they are, are the ones who really love you.
You are just 17 and sure its not the end of the life. Sure your friends may already have BF's and loads of them. but then you need to be a lil patient and let time do its job.
Try finding someone who you really think can understand you and respect you for what you are and not just thinkin of you to be fat or ugly or maybe a one night stand. Remember, Life is so simple, we make it difficult.
Cheers to ya and all the best!
rggmark@yahoo.com
2006-06-23 08:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by *Darling*Detective* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a mere 17 years old. you still have the rest of high school and college. get out there and just be yourself. when the right guy comes you will know. otherwise don't sell yourself cheap. and as for the best friend, he prob feels that you are like a sister to him. he would likely stand up and defend you or fight for you but he may never see you in "that way"
2006-06-23 08:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by butcherfamily513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so funny when a 17 year old thinks they've been single for long. Girl your life has barley even started. Relax and let that stuff come
2006-06-23 08:34:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋