my girlfriend believes that you should never lie or hide anything in a relationship.... and i agree with her... but do you think that people will always hide something from their partner at some point. people are people... they dont want to argue...or fight....anyone out there that has a perfect relationship that have been going out for more than two years...and have experienced and lie free relationship? where nothing is ever hidden from the other...regardless of how insignificant it may be?
2006-06-23 01:27:56 · 26 answers · asked by pencilnbrush 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes ... people do lie at some point of a relationship... that point is very critical, as much as hanging from a cliff... you have to tell a lie.... it depends on the situation....
Mitr says.... just be truthful to your girl.... don't put yourself in such a position that you have to lie.... don't ever break her trust.... you will have peace in your life...
when it somes to lie... lie it when there is no other go... but only once ... and never repeat it.......
may god bless you both.....
2006-06-23 01:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some things sould be kept from your partner. NOT every little lie or untruth is bad.
For instance. The typical. "Do i look fat?" What guy in his right mind would EVER say yes?
Or the "What are you thinking?" Most of us dont ever say what we're REALLY thinking at that exact moment. Especially if it's something against your partner.
There are just those TIMES where you shouldnt tell the complete, blunt, utter, truth. Not only in instances like that but also regarding your past. NOT EVERYTHING from your past should be shared with your partner. Especially things from your past relationships. The past is the past.
All i can say is be faithful. Don't do anything you wouldn't want your partner to do.
2006-06-23 08:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is inevitable. Somethings are better left unsaid. I don't think you should make up bold faced lies or purposely lie to your partners face, but if something so small could cause damage maybe it should be left alone.
i have a few secrets I will NEVER tell my fiance. which means if asked certain questions i will have to lie. I am POSITIVE he lies to me, as I have caught him. Except he lies about dumb stuff. like he says he never goes to the bar on his lunch, I don't care if he does any way, unless it is the strip club, because he won't let me go without him so he can't either. And then he slips up and says so&so @ work said he got drunk @ lunch when he went to the bar but "i was only drinking pop". AH HA. So you do go to the bar!
Any way, I don't think it is necessary to be honest to a fault in a relationship. But don't lie your way through it.
2006-06-23 08:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But sometimes you need to lie to keep them happy. For instance....if you came home from work and had a horrible day but see that your girlfriend is in tears.....and she had a horrible day as well....you would listen to her and if you relize that your day wasn't that bad then you might just lie a little and say your day was ok.
Also you may catch yourself in a lie with out even knowing it....by just forgeting or something like that.....I think lie's are bad...but I don't see myself never doing it again.
2006-06-23 08:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by ina_ivy_love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think first of all you hasve to define what a lie is, if you are responding to a direct question from your mate, and you are false that to me is a lie, however, not talking about something or leaving something out so as to avoid fighting,problems,hurt feelings, well, i call that simply being diplomatic............i dont think very many people can say theyve never fudged a little on certain subjects with their partner....is exaggerating considered lieing?? it all depends on degree.....if your directly confronted though its best to tell the truth
2006-06-23 08:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by spent46 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want to consider a lie. Some people give them a color/ or lack of it and call it a little white lie. Then to them, it seems OK. But, no lying doesn't get you anywhere, it usually catches up to you.
2006-06-23 08:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to be openly honest about big issues.
But to tell your partner everything all the time would
leave no mystery about you.
It's not lieing if you choose not to tell your partner everything you are still your own person whether you are in a relationship or not.
2006-06-23 08:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at some point, everyone lies. However its the guilt that will destroy the relationship. If you cant live with the guilt (no matter how big or small the lie), the relationship will be harmed.
2006-06-23 08:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by lkhbhurnje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some lies are TOTALLY necessary. You can have a great relationship without divulging everything. As a matter of fact in my case it would probably be something my man wouldn't want to hear. (Some things about my life prior to hooking up with him.)
2006-06-23 08:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no relationshop is going to be perfect...but i am sure you will always have at least one little secret in your mind that u do not want to tell....i am sure your GF has at least one secret that she doesnt want to tell either but if you have a secret that means she can have one too. And its the same thing with lies. Have a good day!!:)
2006-06-23 08:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by KEWLKID2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋