i had a bf wen i was in 7 grade and we went out till 3 yrs but then i had to move and i came from india to U.S now im in 12 grade and i have a bf and we're in a 6 month relationship so tha guy from india contacted me few days ago and i realized i still liked him and since all the indian guys think so much in ahead he asked me i f i'd marry him and i said yea but now i think im not up for that cause time has changed and people change i think i have changed i mean i still love him but im not sure and i just cant see us having a future but sometimes i do but then i realize this cheating on mah current bf but i talk to tha guy from india like everyday and he tells me how much he loves me and he cant live without me and he still loves me no matter what! so basically i have two bfs am i a whore and playing wit their feelings?
2006-06-23 01:11:35 · 11 answers · asked by Angel to da rescue 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So if I am reading you correctly, you are asking if "you are doing somethign wrong?".
Answer: No. You're growing up. You're in a new country and have to readjust a lot of things. You probably have been experiencing a LOT of new things. New culture, foods, driving, new responsibilities, new independence. New ideas about a future and the fact that college is looming around the corner.
You have to give yourself time to adjust. There's nothing wrong w/ telling the guy in India that you need time. There is a lot going on and maybe you can share a lot of those things with him.
There's nothing WRONG with hanging out with a friend here and learning or getting to know the new country. Just remember that you should feel comfortable with drawing the lines that you won't cross.
Basically, give yourself time. Don't make a decision till you are ready and just ... go with the flow and share things with the guy in India so he at least knows what you are going through. He'll probably feel left out regardless if you tell him or not. But at least by telling him, he will know what it is like for you to go through so many changes.
2006-06-23 02:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only in the 12th grade, why in the world would you say yes to marriage at this time when you can't figure out if you wanna be with him for that long. You've changed. Move on! You can't see this boy from India anyways. What type of cheating could you do on your current bf. Be a young lady and enjoy your youthful life. You have plenty of time to stress your self out about life when it actually HAPPENS.
2006-06-23 08:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tutty Frutty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stylgil, that is a long *** confusing question. Ok see when i was in grade 12, we actually called chicks who did what you are doing: whores, sluts, bitches, sefefe, the names dont end, but sure, you are different, yes i said it! See first marriage is a big step, i would tell him he's crazzy, but thats just me! I think the new boyfriend desserves a chance too, tell him whats goin on, and do whatever that make you happy, unless what makes you happy is keeping them both ofcause!
2006-06-23 08:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by gwaiman_gwaiza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from relationships. Enjoy life... what are you, like 17? Jeez, you wouldn't be allowed to drink at your own wedding if you said yes. Your not a whore, your just young. We all were once.
2006-06-23 14:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by jillainphilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
case is complicated but yet simple...
Mitr says.... people have different needs at different period of time..... for e.g. you like to cook food sometime but like to do gardening as well....
confused...???
mitr says... don't be afraid,.... i can't comment on whether u r doing wrong or not... but i can comment that its the call of the nature....
at this age you like to be touched and felt by someone... you like to be FREE.... you like to be attached and yet be independant... in all you just want to be you....
no one forgets their first love... the guy in india is your first love... you still love him.... trust me, the day he touches you, you will be all his.... but till that time, you will feel uncomfortable with the tght that he is thinking of marriage... as an indian myself, i will deny this fact that all indians DO think fo marriage.... he just loves you a lot sweetheart and he is among the very few guys who are left in india.... but as of now, you are too young to think all this... don't loose your virginity... thats all i can say..... just follow your heart..... I know .... an Indian is always an INDIAN......
take care
2006-06-23 08:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're technically still a kid. You're not a whore. Times have changed. Take your time and live your life. You have plenty of time to be yourself before you become a wife.
2006-06-23 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Greta Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide on who you realy Love. Then give youself faithfully to the one man you really Love and let the other one go before someone else gets hurt, which might be you if you wait to long to decide.
2006-06-24 08:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gal, seems ur emotional too .You r so young Y r u goin into all these things(mrrg) jus enjoy ur life for now.thr r so many years left for all those things .hey tht guy is jus doin a time pass sort of thing with u nothing else .dont take it seriously and stay happy
2006-06-23 08:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by monte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh....? Where are all the punctuations? Anyways, yes you are wrong for playing them both. How would you feel if someone was playing you like that.
2006-06-23 08:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by chocolateheaven84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea u are leave them aall and come to me
2006-06-23 08:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by steak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋