My step mom seem like she just doesnt want me around. Like when she comes home from work, I try to talk to her and find something to talk about, but she never seems interested and she just pushes me out of her way. I don't want to live like this forever but I don't know of anything that I can do to get her to talk to me. And it seems like she always.....and I mean ALWAYS....finds something to yell at me for. Like she'll go the whole day without talking to me and then come up to me and start yelling at me for something that i didn't do. ugh! this is all so confusing and I need help! Anybody?
2006-06-23 00:41:14 · 16 answers · asked by Socastee_Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She has one daughter, and she only acts this way against my and my real sister. I do all the vacuumming, cleaning, cooking, I even scrub the floors, and she still doesnt seem to care at all.
2006-06-23 01:28:59 · update #1
She also says things to me like that I'm fat or whatever. My sister said that the only reason why she says that is because she's jelous of me. If she hates me so much why cant she just kick me out?
2006-06-26 06:24:39 · update #2
Quit paying attention to her. If you've made your best attempt at befriending her, yet she continues to reject you, it is no fault of yours. Just wash your hands of the ordeal and find something better to do. You won't end up living like this forever, as you'll eventually either head off to college or go out into the workforce, starting your own life as an adult.
2006-06-23 00:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shadar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this issue is keeping your home life from being peaceful. I think though that if your step mom really loves your dad you all can work through this.
I suggest that you take some time to think about your relationship with your step mom and write it down into words. Read it over to yourself to make sure that you don't sound like you are whining but that you are maturely bringing to light a problem that needs to be resolved. Then take it to your father and read it to him. Don't hold back your emotions. If this situation brings you to tears, do not hide them from your father.
Let your dad know that if he loves your step mom then you love her too and you want to be a family, but you need his help. Suggest that he take a few minutes and think about what you've said and let it all sink in. Ask him to read your note to your step mom and ask her how she feels about it and see if you all can get together and have a family meeting. Let him know that the meeting should not be about who's at fault but it is about bringing everyone's feelings to the table and find away to make peace and grow into a happy family. Finding a solution to this frustrating problem.
If you lay it all out for your dad like that and you don't hide your emotions, he will see your sincerity and will help you to communicate and heal things with your step mom.
Hang in there.
2006-06-23 01:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by happybujok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your dad about it. Maybe you can sit down with dad and step mom and let everyone know how you feel. Don't let it go to far though. My step mom hated me for years, made life hard. My dad finally told me 15 years later that he had no idea what was going on. And he didn't realize how mean she really was to me. Did your step mom have a bad day? Did you? Sometimes our lives take over how we act at home. You know bring home the bad mood and all. TALK TO YOUR DAD!
2006-06-23 00:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what if she's like that all the time she doesn't sound like she's happy with her life..if she's picking on u about stuff u ain't even doing sounds like she has stuff she needs to work through..she could just be that stressed out from work..Is her job stressful are there things around the house u coould do to help out and make less work for her(do chores laundry,dishes,vacuumming,dusting...maybe cooking supper so she doesn't have too..lett her relax a little,most people when they first get off work need to unwind a little bit so they can relax...Just give her some alone time before trying to talk to her,maybe thats all she needs..unless she's like unhappy all the time in which cause there is nothing u can do about it.
2006-06-23 00:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that she is that way towards you. Communication is everything and you need to let her know this. I have a stepdaughter myself and we get along great, but we talk and work things out if and when there are problems.
Does she have any kids herself? If she doesn't this may be why she acts the way she does. She just know what to do around kids.
Talk to her, if you need to try to get your father involved in a positive way not just to be a mediator. Work this out as a family. If he does not know what is going on he can't help the two of you work out this problem that seems to be going on.
2006-06-23 00:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without having much background -- I would suggest telling her how you feel and maybe include your Dad in on the conversation. She could resent you being there or maybe just not like you as a person -- in anycase you can't change her -- but you can choose how to interact with her.
Maybe you can seek some counseling if it's really becoming a problem in your Life.
2006-06-23 00:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepmom sounds like she's uncomfortable with being a mom from the get go. Talk to your dad and tell him that you feel like no matter how hard you try to have a relationship with your stepmom, she seems to shove you away and see what he says. I am a stepmom and sometimes things can be a lot overwhelming, just give it time.
2006-06-23 00:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by magickcharms2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cinderella, talk to your dad. Although he isn't going to have much power over any change. It sounds like you want a relationship with your step mother, if so, continue talking to her. She may just be adjusting and not handling it well.
2006-06-23 02:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perchance she's making plans a marvel party for you. My mom did the comparable ingredient when I became 13. She acted like she forgot my birthday and then took me to massive apple city! in case your worried basically ask your mom approximately your birthday plans. happy birthday!
2016-10-31 08:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by porterii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your dad about the problem and start treating her like she treats you.Stand up for yourself if no one else will.
2006-06-23 02:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋