I have a mental blockage in my mind. I can't get over my ex. Now I'm faced with two problems. When I date women, something about them reminds me about her defects and I stop the relationship with them. On the other there are certain women friends that I'd like to date, but refuse to go out on a date with me. Why is this so? Can someone offer any solutions to how can I get over my ex and live happy please? Thank you
2006-06-23 00:09:44 · 7 answers · asked by Cifru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you can't go into relationships with mental images of past hurts-it just doesn't work.
Second, women like sincerity and honesty. Some may like you, some may not-that is life.
Go with your heart and don't use your past to justify your reason on not finding someone.
Now run and find her!
2006-06-23 00:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your women friends don't think of u like that or there seeing something your not..(like how you need to work on your relationship issues)About the women that remind u of your past relationship,i don't know what her defects were,but just because they might have some of the same ideas or characteristics(defects) that your ex had doesn't mean u shouldn't give them a chance.Also are they all her defaetive traits or is it any trait they have that reminds u of your ex that u would get rid of them...In a way thats not right to the girls u are dating ..there gonna think somethings wrong w/them when really your just hung up..did u think about therapy?just wondering.....Or maybe making a list of traits u want in a woman and what u won't stand for and see if your being reasonable(u could even get a couple of your women friends to look it over to see if u are being reasonable in your demands)just something to think about.
2006-06-23 00:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though in spanish we say that "un clavo saca otro", one nail (as in hammer and nail) takes out another.. this doesn't mean that your new girl is going to be ms. perfect.. don't even try to look for miss perfect look for miss perfect-for-right-now, try going out, and just having fun, don't concentrate so much on looking for a relationship.. it will come along soon enough.. I would try holding back on dating your women friends, because they probably know that all you talk about is your ex.. and that's not something a girl wants to hear.. try having fun, and realizing that you and your ex weren't meant to be.. and see the positive side of things..
2006-06-23 00:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need complete closure concerning your ex and be able to leave it in the past where it belongs. Once you have complete closure, you will be able to get on with your life. By running back to it mentally, it is stopping you from living your life.
2006-06-23 00:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i think ur too fast in life if u got dumped recently don jus run for a new rel so soon .relax for some time and then go for a girl
hey change or replace evrything tht rem u of ur last rel.
2006-06-23 00:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by monte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy... you seriously have a problem here.... i can try to do my level best but everything depends on you.....
first, remove everything which she has given to you or done for you... remove every pic of hers.... remove everything that can remind you of her...
second... when you date any women, try ot think about the woman you are dating.... INSTEAD of comparing her with your ex... that really is a sign of loser.,.. don't be one....
i tell you what... go find a who*re and have a wild night... do that for some days and then try to date women...
if you can't go to any whore, then just try to keep yourself busy ..... keep yourself in love with yourself....
you have to help yourself man.. i don't know how, but i really want to help you out.....
never compare anyone... remember... everyone is DIFFERENT from the other..... because of your reputation, the womeen don't like to go out with you... try to change it....
2006-06-23 00:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats my problem too.. good luck.. I'll pray for u..
2006-06-23 00:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋