Parents, is having children really great or do you secretly think it sux? Please be honest I need to know!!!?

Question

I don't have kids, still trying to make up my mind if I want them or not.

Answer 1

My child is the greatest thing that i could ever ask for. i didn't think i was ready for a child, and growing up without a mother(she left when i was 11mths, her mom left her when she was 13) i thought i would have poor maternal instincts. once i had him, my tune changed.

i wouldn't have them if i don't want them, because then it may suck to you. there are a lot of sacrifices. i am 22 yrs. old, and i don't do what most 22 yr olds do because i have a child to raise. i can't stand it at times, but then when i pick him up form day care, and he shows me the new word he learned in sign language that day, the suckiness goes out of the window.

the rewards and greatness of having a child is knowing that you did everything you could to ensure that they are smart, responsible, caring, loving individuals. when you see them help an old lady at the supermarket, when you see them solve problems( my son once asked me to cut a light switch on for him, and i just sat back and waited, and he eventually went to get something so he could reach it), when you hear them out of the blue repeat something you taught them that you thought they just didn't catch on to yet, etc.

only you will know when you are ready, but if you are not, my only plea is that you please not bring an innoncent child into the world and unintentionally mistreat them because you are too stressed because you didn't really want them in the first place.

Answer 2

It's great fun. You cannot really describe the feeling of being a parent until it's happened, but to hold a baby in your arms and watch as they grow up is the best thing I've ever experienced. I'm a dad of 6 now (5 boys and my little princess), and can honestly say that for me there is nothing better. Sure there are times when it feels like the day is never going to end, when the house looks like a bomb site, and the kids are all screaming at each other, but the plusses far outweigh the few stresses that come with parenting. This is only my point of view as a father, and I'm sure some people may disagree. Having said all that, a loving, stable relationship at home is the key to having happy, balanced children.

Answer 3

It can be either way depending on the day. I love all my kids, now grown, dearly, but there were days when I questioned my judgment in having them. Not because of what they had done or not done, but questioning my ability to raise them properly. Parents question themselves, put themselves on guilt trips, "If I were a better mom, maybe he/she would be more well behaved" etc. Looking back on their early years, I can honestly say they brought me more happiness than anything else on earth ever has. Also more pain because you feel every hurt they feel.
If you're asking because you're thinking of having a child, my advice is this, once you have a child, your life comes second to that child's. His/her wants & needs come before your own. Kids are expensive, time consuming, sometimes aggravating, more work than anyone can ever imagine. But they also bring the greatest joy that you'll ever know. So, weigh the pros and cons. Think about all the little stuff. (A months worth of diapers could buy a designer bag, what is more important to you?) Would you get more joy from teaching your child how to take his/her first steps or going out partying with your friends? Are you selfless enough to give your life up for that child? Having one is like being reborn, you are not your old self ever again, even after they are grown because you will always be Mom first.

Answer 4

99% of the time, it's great! The other 1% ~ like last night when my 3 little darlings would NOT stop arguing about every little thing on the planet ~ it does indeed suck. What I've found is that taking time for yourself helps you deal with the sucky stuff better. When I'm overloaded at work, or the house is a mess, or I'm stressed out about something random, I can't handle "she's looking at me!" and all that. But when I've taken the time to go work out or play in my garden or just sit and relax, the goofy crap doesn't get on my nerves as much. Being a parent is a tough job and everyone needs a vacation occasionally! Good luck!

Answer 5

Both Here are a few examples First words great. Turns 10 and argues about everything sux. First steps great Learns how to climb and gets in to everything sux First day of school great Fighting every night about doing hmwk sux Pottie training great and sux at the same time.So you take the good with the bad. Personally I have 6 and wouldn't trade you anything for them.

Answer 6

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I had a son when I was 18 and then another son when I was 39. In between I fostered other people's children. In all cases I have absolutely loved having children and have never regretted it.Personally, i think it depends on your disposition. I love being around children. i think they are so funny in a really innocent way. you get back what you put in and I have always been devoted to doing the best for mine, including career changes. There is nothing in the world to compare with having your own child - the amazing love and bond you share and the joy of seeing them achieve and reach their own personal milestones. You need to be their cheerleader and if you are you'll reap the rewards of a happy child and a fun relationship. For sure they change your life -take up lots of time, demand energy and help you grow into a far better human being than you could ever be without them.

Answer 7

All the upset caused by kids sucks...

You have to think about the change in your life, finances and quality of life...

1) If you are off on maternity, then where are you getting money to pay the bills...
2) You and your partners sex life will dry up some...
3) The learning curve is a vertical line...
4) Sleeplessness becomes the norm for about 3 years...
5) You are constantly under stress about the tiddlers...
6) You have to have a major logistics operation for a trip to the supermarket...
7) Holidays are stressful...

Other than that, the love of a child is the greatest thing in the world...

Answer 8

This is an excellent question, and one that we should ask before we consider having children. Nevertheless; there really isn't a definitive answer to your question. Any one that is honest will tell you that raising children is a full time job with lots of ups and downs, good times and bad, and it is great and it sucks.

There are times when I believe that my greatest accomplishment in life was having children. However; there are also times when I want to pull my hair out--- and its during these times when I ask myself what the heck was I thinking. Being a parent is like any other responsibility we have in life there are rewards and disappointments.

You are wise to seek advice before you make a decision to have children. Wish you all the best.

Answer 9

If you secretly think that it sucks then you are definitely not ready to have kids. Any parent that says it sucks are miserable with themselves or their lives. Moments or situations can suck but not actually having kids does. It is so fun and rewarding to have them. Once you have them, you can never imagine life without them or want your other life back. There are a million or more words to describe how great your life and your kids are if you have them at the right time in your life. That means having a solid happy marriage, having your finances set, having a house and family support.

Answer 10

Being a parent is the most rewarding thing in the world. I love my children more and more each day. When I look at the faces that I created all I think of is how special they are. For anyone to tell you that being a parent sucks should have never been a parent in the first place.

Answer 11

I have only one child & he's 8 years old.
It's just like anything, parenting has it's good & bad times.
It works out better when the parents agree on how to
raise the child & ways to handel situations.
Children go through stages w/ each age, some are great & other stages are a drag ( terrible twos for example).
But be prepared for colic the first three months of
the child's life !
Hope that helps, Summer time Mom