what is the best type of cat to get if you want a calm and huggable affectionate one?

Question

i have a one year old tabby cat at the mo and he shows me very little love he hates to be cuddled and he can be quite nasty. im thinking of getting a kitten as a compainon for him but im wanting a calmer friendlier breed

Answer 1

A ragdoll kitten.

Answer 2

I empathise with you. It is disappointing when your cat doesn't show affection.

One thing I would say - if affection is the main thing you seek in your pet then perhaps you should think about getting a dog - because dogs are naturally more affectionate than cats. Some cats DO show affection, but I don't think you can guarantee it. It is not necessarily part of a cat's purrrrrsonality.

Good news though - often cats become more affectionate as they get older. I had a stand-offish black tom who only started to mellow around year 8. He was really huggy by the time he was 12 and he lived to be 20!! But your cat is only one, so you might have a while to wait.

A note of caution: Be careful in introducing a kitten - this might make your cat worse, since he will then defend his territory. He might feel upset that you've got another cat - and he might have a point.

I would advise you to be very gentle with your cat. It might sound silly, but have a word with him. Say - I would so like you to be more affectionate! Cats like to be shown respect, and to be in a calm environment. Don't force him to do anything he doesn't want to (so, eg, if he doesn't like to be picked up, don't pick him up) Cats won't do what they're told unless it really suits them. So you would need to make it relaly worth his while to be nice to you. Try stroking him gently BEFORE feding time....as cats often show "cupboard love"

Has your cat got a garden? It is natural for cats to be able to roam free for a few hours evry day, and they can get crotchetty if they feel cooped up. If he is a very outdoor cat and he has to stay in, he won't be happy and you might have to consider finding him a new home, through your local cats protection league.

I have had cats for many years and the most affectionate were Ebbo the black Tom (but only after he was 8!!!)

I had two pedigree British cats who, unfortunately, display all of the stereotypicla British triats (a bit arrogant, cold and sniffy!!!) Not that I believe this is true of all Brits and I am hoping they will mellow a sthey get old!!

the most affectionate cat I've ever had is Chocs, who is a male Ragdoll. I've heard people say they are the best, though they are pedigrees and cost about £250.00.

I think long haired cats are generally friendlier than short haired, but this could be a myth. The best thing is to choose an adult cat who proves that he is friendly....with a kitten, all you canb do is treat it with great affection and kindness and hope for the best.

Good luck!

Answer 3

The problem is if you get a kitten they will probably fight. It will be less 'company' more 'competition' and an invasion of territory. Your tabby will have his nose put out of joint
I think I read something about friendlier breeds. I think it was long haired cats and/or some very expensive breed of very smart cat who knows which side his bread is buttered!

I have had female cats who were neutered. One was never really affectionate, the other can't keep off you! I think personality comes into it, as does spending a lot of time stroking it!

Answer 4

Siamese are usually the more affectionate... but as you have a male already, opt for a female as the males are territorial and two males will fight. But in my experiance, opt for a hand reared kitten which will be used to being handled by humans from a young age. If bying from a cattery, check the nature of the parents, that definitely is carried over to the kittens.

Ive had my cat since birth (also a tabby) and carried her around and handled her as soon as she opened her eyes, and she is the most affectionate lovable cat ever... Good luck

Answer 5

It's more to do with how they are raised and what exposure they had to humans in the early days, rather than the breed. Pick one from a litter in a family house. A family that love their cat. Choose the one that takes the most interest in you, that is most comfortable with you handling it.It is not always the cutest one. My last two cats picked me. One jumped into my lap and would not move and the other climbed into the basket as I was looking at her siblings. They were both incredibly affectionate.

Answer 6

Cat's are notoriously high maintenance, emotionally, it takes months to get their trust. And even then they may or may not be touchy feely types. You would be better off with a human partner, someone without a lot of friends and a rubbish love life is likely to be very affectionate.

Answer 7

Get a kitten and don't play too much with it, like with string and stuff as this is teaching them to hunt.

So in theory if you don't teach it to do these things it should turn out to be a nice huggable cat.

Answer 8

Yep you cant beat a ragdoll cat....there just extremely expensive and very rare and take a lot of looking after. But the minute you pick them up they just "flop" on you!

My cat is very affectionate, he's not happy unless he's sitting on me, next to me aint good enough, and he often sneaks under the quilt at night to curl up against my chest!

Answer 9

well when it was under a year old if you hold it and pick it up all the time, it will start just coming to you. sometimes when they're older, you have to let them come to you because cats are so independant. my cat loves to be held like a baby, so you could try that. if you get a new cat i would get a different sex of cat

Answer 10

I have two Burmese cats and they are so friendly and affectionate, whenever you sit down they come and sit by you and harass you for cuddles, they love anyone and everyone and are really intelligent. I have also had a Bengal and she was also so friendly and sociable. Pedigree cats are expensive though

Answer 11

Definitely Russian Blue. Either sex, just make sure you neuter them. They work well in pairs. Good if you have to out to work. They'll have company.
If you have a cat flap beware - my two ganged up on a pheasant and dragged it back through the flap between them!!
They are completely gorgeous cats. I would certainly stay with this breed.
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