In a relationship, is it fair for one partner to give up sex, for personal reasons, for a while if the other partner isn't willing to? Even if it isn't the most important thing in the relationship and they don't have sex very often as it is? Or is that just selfish? If sex shouldn't be the basis for a relationship, should it matter?
2006-06-22 23:28:59 · 23 answers · asked by Tutty Frutty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, what a question to start with :o) This is difficult because a relationship is about compromise and pleasing your partner. So I think that you should first start by discussing this with your partner what your reasons are. Even though you might not have sex often, you at LEAST want to keep the option open, you know? And for you to just take it away, that's kind of unfair. Sex might not be the most important aspect in a relationship, but it's definitely needed.
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2006-06-23 02:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in a relationship you both have to compromise at all times - what are the reasons for wanting to give up sex and why isn't the other partner willing to support this decision?
If you are wanting to do something that your partner is not happy about you need to accept that it may well end the relationship?!
If giving up sex is something you feel you have to and need to do then it is not selfish - what could be looked at as selfish is the fact that you were willing to begin a sexual relationship - but now want to stop - it's like letting your child have a lick of a lollipop but then take it off them leaving it sitting in full view.
Think and talk about this long and hard - it's a tricky one!!!
Good luck!
2006-06-23 06:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important in ones life but at no cost it is more important than a relationship. We should not force our partner to have sex without his/her willingness (whatever the reason is). However both the partner can have a mutual decision where both the partner would have to compromise to some extent (as the case may be). And I must say that there is always a solution for any problem (whether physical or mental). Firstly both the partner should try to solve it out and than only one can have alternate ways to fulfill his/her physical needs with the consent of the other.
2006-06-23 07:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by curion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making love is an important part of a relationship. If your partner doesn't want to have sex with you it's usually because of an emotional problem or sth that's not right with the relationship. You need to work out what the problem is.
2006-06-23 06:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is where you are dead wrong. Sex is a healthy part of any relationship. Take it out of the equation and one or both of the partners will resent the other. Thats when it starts to fall apart. And just for your information, the frequency of sex has nothing to do with it.
So yes you are being selfish and only thinking about yourself.
2006-06-23 06:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is like making your Love complete so that you two can better understand and share those lovely moments of life.
U have to talk to ur partner and ask the reason 4 such behaviour.
Better go 4 a long drive or a jaunt.
That will spice up ur relationship
2006-06-23 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends are u married? Cause then i would diffinitely say no sex.If your married then the only reason is for spiuritual reasons(not to have sex for awhile) otherwise it suggests not to do the no sex thing or your mate could stray.(thats actually in the bible)
Yes it is fair if someone doesn't want to have sex to say no,even if your in a relationship..what's the problem can't u take care of yourself??If u need release that much then masterbate!
2006-06-23 06:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the shared joy in the relationship.
Its a truely mutual thing.
Its not fair, or good, for one partner to withdraw sex for 'personal reasons' . Maybe there are other issues here?
Some talking with a third person, such as a counsellor, is needed here.
2006-06-23 06:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your young sex should be a daily thing, its the elixer of life. Any female/male that says sex is not important should give you a huge mental red flag telling you to stay away from this person.
I would leave any relationship that does not include a healthy sex life period !
2006-06-23 06:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can also get someone to f**k you. Jus think if your relationship is base on this. As far as i m concern. if sex is important just dont get into a relationship...ok
2006-06-23 06:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋