In the past year, I have felt a tremendous amount of pressure from those around me to find a guy. My sister and best friend have tried setting me up w/ ppl. My mom keeps asking if I'm seeing anyone. When discussing my weekend plans w/ my former boss, she responded, "Oh that sounds like fun. You might meet someone there too."
To make things worse, I'm in law school and nearly 75% of the student body is married or has a significant other. Three friends have been married this year and I still have two more weddings coming up. At the law firm that I work at, there are only four unmarried ppl.
I'm almost 23, but I'm already starting to feel as if I'm an old maid. I'd love to meet the right guy, but I know instinctively that the odds are against me. (Over 20% of female attys over 40 have NEVER been married). I'm not looking for compliments or responses suggesting I'll find the right person sooner or later. I just want to know how to cope w/ the pressure. It's really getting to me.
2006-06-22 23:20:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best thing to do would be not to let yourself down or worry because that leads into second guessing yourself and your capabilities. what you can do is try writing down your thoughts, and what seems to be bothering you most, it'll probably help writing it when you're thinking about it and then re-reading it and soon the answer will stare right back at you. keep yourself mentally strong and the best thing to do is not let it get to you, and being able to shrug off the pressure with a smile.
2006-06-22 23:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Curious One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people think you need unless you agree with them. At 23 you still have the rest of your life to or not to get involved with someone. Your parents might want to meet their grandchildren before they pass but thats what moms and dads do.Relax and I am sure that life will be what you want it to be. Most ladies feel like you have to have love in your life to be completely happy but you can have love in your life without a partner.
2006-06-22 23:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by status quo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in realality if you aint serious about a boy friend by the age of 23 you are a old maid . But hey dont worry theres still hope for you yet . Actually the truth is , live your life the best way you know how .Your life is not a dress rehearsal you will not get it back .Do not be pressured
2006-06-22 23:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by jac 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
u r tense fr nthing. the feeling wil pass over
2006-06-22 23:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by anthonygonzalvez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not that old to get married. why dont you take it easy before you make a terrible mistake in your life
2006-06-22 23:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by shes killing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get tensed, things will fall on its own
2006-06-22 23:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Raj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be direct with people. You don't have to do anything until you are ready.
2006-06-22 23:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋