2006-06-22 22:48:07 · 15 answers · asked by rockin mermaid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I cant help you on where to start but I think its good that you want to find your real dad. Since its on your mind you will be a lot more comfortable once you have achieved this.
As far as will it upset your real dad, this is only if you know how he feels about it. Have you spoken to him about it in the past? IS he aware of how your feeling right now? Sure it could upset him, afterall he has brought you up and even though he may not be your real dad, for him it will feel like he is and rightly so...
be cautious with how you do it.... if you dont find your real dad, you dont want permanent scars with your current dad because of your quest.
good luck with it!
2006-06-22 22:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by TameraMowry 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First things first - I don't know how your relationship is with your adoptive dad, but if I were your parent, I'd appreciate it if my child came to me first. Your real dad may be in jail, deceased, have other children, - think about that. It would upset your adoptiv. dad more if you DON'T discuss this. Why now do you want to find out? I don't blame you for being curious. Talk it out, he may have some leads. Ask Mom as well, so everyone's on the same page. Lots of luck!
2006-06-23 05:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell the dad that raised you of your real intentions before you make that step in your life, he might even help you look fro him, he might even know where he is. tell him how much you appreciate him and how your biological father will never take his place. it sounds like you have a rally good relationship, if it is so, he will not be threatened by you wanting to find your real dad as he will know that he is the one dad that you've known your whole life. the best way to handle a situatin like this is to seek professional help such as a family counsellor where your whole family goes there so that it is a n easier transition to go through. if your family disagrees, do it anyway because you need to know your roots in order to experience yourself and your life in a better way.
2006-06-23 06:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by DaWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must start with step dad, close relatives. He will have known this day would come. But be prepared before you jump in as they will be a whole family out they step brothers & sisters so not as easy as just finding your real dad...
2006-06-23 07:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your right to find your real father and your other father won't be upset.Because i it will make you feel better he will be glad too. And first you must ask your dad who brought you up,whether he knows something about your real father or where you can find help. good luck
2006-06-23 05:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by filiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do this you have to realise that you are opening a whole can of worms here. For a start you have to consider your fathers feelings about you looking for your biological father. Another thing is that your biological father might have other children now how will you cope with this and also how will they deal with it? Its not just you involved with this, how does your Mum feel about it? Just beware that you are dealing with many peoples feelings not just your own and you could possibly damage them for a very long time.
Good luck!
2006-06-23 05:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your dad, let him know, but tell him that you want to know where you come from biologically. I shouldn't change your relationship with him, and let him know you don't want it to. It is a good idea to ask other family members how he might feel about it. It may make it easier for you to tell him. Start with a search for "people search" on the net.
2006-06-23 05:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real dad?u mean ur like adopted?then you shud go to the adoption agency from where u were adopted.they'll definitely giv you the info.
and im sure ur dad(the one who brot u up) will not be upset.....after all the man ur looking for is ur real,dad...and u have the right to atleast see the man once!!! though it wud upset him terribly if you left him for ur real dad.
and if ur not adopted i think u shud ask ur now parents to tell u abt ur real dad....i bet the know who/where he is....best of luck.ciao!
2006-06-23 05:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bluepolka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare yourself that he may not want the contact or a relationship. Of course we know it will be his loss. But if you are ready to make the leap you have the right to know who your biological father is. Just be careful.
2006-06-23 05:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by jake p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would talk to the present Dad in a more friendly manner and find out if its ok with him, then go ahead to search or not!. God bless u ma dear.
2006-06-23 05:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋