why are guys so difficult to understand sometimes???

Answer 1

I am going to go out on a limb and say because of the socialization males (we) have in relation to our very way of being...contrasted with the socialization of women.

Add to that the general communication types that tend to attract their opposite...so we basically have feeling people, word people, and visual people...

Add to that the myriad of other cultural, historical, socioeconomic, etc issues...

It makes it very interesting and challenging to actually put two people together that can communicate and really understand each other, really get each other...without there being some instances of "why is that so difficult for me to understand."

I suspect, that if you dissolve the "guys" distinction, you will find that this is true of people in general...

One distinguishing factor here is that (I am guessing) guys represent potential relationships...so your scrutiny of the normal communication challenge falls into a whole different realm. It gets tied into feelings, dreams, hopes, desires...

Top it all off with the overdose of male hormones and ego...it becomes a potent mix for idiotic and irrational, self-justified...mystical male behavior.

Especially in relationships... sometimes I've had to look at something I did and shake my head wondering..why the heck did I do/say that.

In the end we have to be real enough to take responsibility for the stupid dramas we make...to say..."that was totally irrational, I don't even know what I meant, I think that was my ego defending itself.... can we try that again...?"

If both people in a relationship can be real enough and have a sense of humor about this...we can cut through a whole lot of garbage!

Answer 2

There are a few things I can't understand about guys:
1. Why do they insist on having their space so much even if it means not having enough time with there girlfriend?

2. Why is it so difficult for guys to say I love you?

3. Why is it so difficult for guys to decide whether they love someone or not?

Sometimes these 3 things put together manage to make my life hell.

Answer 3

We ask the same things about girls. It all comes down to we are wired differently in our thought processes, & for good reason. Women are more emotional, because they are supposed to be the caring, nurturing mothers who hold children when they cry. Men are often more gruff & closed off with their emotions, because we are defensive of those we care about & try now to show weakness. That's why Mom kisses boo-boos & Dad says walk it off & toughen up to their sons. These are gender roles, & how they are passed on from parents to children. Animals are similar in that the females & males often have distinct behavioral patterns, but luckily you are a woman & not a lioness. Lions allow the women to hunt & kill the food, & then come in to eat the best meat... maybe we aren't so different after all! Just kidding! Anyway, I hope this helps.

Answer 4

I think it is because their mind work differently to ours. They can only focus on one thing at a time and so can sometime seem to us not to be paying attention to what it is we feel is important. This is why many of the great inventors are in fact male - they are more able to specifically focus their energies to one project whereas females tend to share their energies around between many different tasks or problems.

We need to recognise that we are different from one another whether this is down to social gender stereotyping or inherent inborn differences between the sexes is a major cause for debate and a very interesting one too in my opinion.

My advice on how to deal with a one track minded male is to have the patience of a saint and try to empathise with him. Failing that, just whack him over the head with a frying pan and give him a new focus to concentrate on!!!!! (I jest of course!)

Answer 5

Remember that 99% of the time, us guys have nothing going on in our heads. hence when gals ask us "What are you thinking?" we usually blurt out the first thing that comes to mind that we think you want to hear, cause if we answer what we are really thinking, ie "I think there is lint in my bellybutton." you will be mad at us. We are so simple, I think that is the main reason why we seem difficult to understand. Cause the way women work, it seems they think that there is NO WAY anyone is that simple.

Answer 6

self experience tought me that there s easy going people and difficult ones no matter if they are females or males, but,,,we females, including myself of course, due to our hormonal rough changes we tend to be more unstable emotionally and mentally in some cases so, sometimes even we dont know what we want. it s a cruel reality.

Answer 7

Women think with their feelings and men think with logic. We are never on the same page. We don't understand women any more than you understand us!

Answer 8

thats the reciprocal nature of the 'mars/venus' understanding(or non-understanding)conundrum.Only god knows the truth.or so he thinks! on... was actually written as only this was censored for some weird reason

Answer 9

What? We are SO easy to understand...unless we are eating and forget to swallow before speaking.

Men just need food, sex, and air

Answer 10

we just dont think the same way you ladies do,women mostly deal with feelings and emotions while we are objective most of the time.Not that we dont have fellings we just deal with them differantly than you.