my ? is this...... do u think that u can love some1,and not get love in return? is that real love? i want views on love,is there really a soul mate for e1? can we never cross their path? why do we call these relationships we have been in "love" or what? pls give me ur opinions! Curious!!!
2006-06-22 20:49:58 · 21 answers · asked by dawnita0322 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah, you can love someone and not get real love in return. That is not real love though. But I think there is a soulmate for everyone and when you find that person you will find true love. Its easy into getting confused that you have felt love in the relationships you have been in, but that depends on how you define love. I think when you finally meet your soulmate, you will understand what true love means, because it will be deeper than anything you have felt before...
2006-06-22 21:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by jinxedcradle 2 · 14⤊ 4⤋
I think that there is unrequited love, which might just be a "crush" that goes nowhere. Or, there can be manipulative relationships, in which the giving partner gets nothing in return. If someone thinks the're doing someone else a favor by staying "in", then you should get out.
Unless both people can fulfill needs in the other, it's an unbalanced and unhealthy thing in the long run.
The "Love Myth" is based on the false notion that there's someone out there for everybody. There isn't. What we call Love is a confused mishmash of economic insecurity, sexual wants, and the fear of being alone.
There is also a sheer biochemical basis for it. Our bodies produce certain chemical hormones that prompt these "love feelings" for a while, but they don't last.
After a while, spouses love their children, more than they love each other. Aand if there are no children, the marriage dies.
2006-06-23 04:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can love someone and not get love in return cuz im kinda going through it now ..but i will say its not a very healthy thing to do.. you lose yourself somewhere along the way .. it broke me down as a person and i dont suggest you do it .. I am coming to realize you cant try and love someone that dont love you back!! hmm I ask myself everyday is that love im starting to see NO it aint it cant be ..real true love is what we all think we have but i think for some of us its diff its more of a dependant type thing so used to being with that person afraid of being alone ..ect.. Id like to think there is someone out here for everyone ..and yes when the times right you will find that (one) special person ! LOVE- hmm love is suppost to be passionate all the feelings will be there i guess i havent experianced it .. but id like to say YES TRUE LOVE AWAITS?!!
2006-06-23 04:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said, "If you can't be with the one you love, Then love the one you're with" I think that means you should do your best to love whomever you end up with, even if you don't find your 'soul mate' You could spend your whole life looking and never be happy or you could find happiness in whatever you have. Some folks get lucky in love and some of us don't.
2006-06-23 03:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by eggman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I've been happily married over 23 years. I think that there are several people that we can love during our lifetimes, but in order to find them we have to follow our heads first. I know this sounds a little cold, but there are a lot of people out there who are loveable, but not as many who are really meant for us.
We need to evaluate each one separately by their character and whether or not we can bring the best out in each other and also be friends.
Only after this test has been passed, can we allow our hearts free reign, otherwise it will get broken.
2006-06-23 03:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jill W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink some wine and listen to some old country songs to find out. Love takes many forms but I would not waste time obsessing over someone who does not feel the same. I say this from experience on both sides.
2006-06-23 03:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can love some1 n not have it reciprocated. i also blieve that most people r lucky if they get 1 soul mate in their life n those who have found 2 at any age are so LUCKY. If you love some1 but they dont return the love as love as they dont abuse yr love in anyway n u r happy with how they treat u "GRAB ANY HAPPINESS WITH BOTH HANDS WHEN EVER & WHERE EVER U CAN"
2006-06-23 05:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can love someone and not get love in return..... but I would consider true love a mutual feeling. I don't think we have a "soul mate" but people that could be our "soul mates"
2006-06-23 03:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by faqsheepdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I spent 20 years in a onesided relationship.I was lied to,fooled & used.I hope I'm the face she sees when her last breath leaves her body ,so I can see the expression on her face when she realizes she's gonna burn in hell.Despite what I've been through I do believe in true love & you desrve it & you will find it.
2006-06-23 03:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of us call it love but most of us dont really know what love really is. they think that since they feel a certain way tht is supposed to be love, but i was married and after that i met this woman and i didnt feel the way about my wife the way i felt about this other woman is it love? i dont know. maybe it is just a strong lust. love is a thing that i think last 4ever. so if u love someone and then one day u dont, then i dont think that it was love.
2006-06-23 03:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its real love you have if you cancelled out infatuation, safety nets,lust , him reminding you of an ex, you on the rebound and all other reasons that someone looks attractive or that we fill connected to. Otherwise you can also tell him what you feel and if it isnt what it deels then move on. dont push it.
2006-06-23 03:55:12 · answer #11 · answered by fizzosgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋