My 6yr old daughter is being kicked at school by 2 boys but they are carrying out the attacks under desks?

Question

Do I tackle this directly with the childrens parents. The school teacher is telling me that they have not seen any bullying.

Answer 1

Instruct your daughter to speak up whenever it happens, yelling "OW!" or "Quit it!" each time the boys kick her. This way the teacher will be alerted to the fact that something is amiss. If nothing else, the teacher may move the bullies or your daughter to a different part of the room to stop the noise. I would not recommend dealing with the children's parents, as they are either 1) well aware that their children are bullies, but unable to do anything about it, or 2) deluded folks who believe their children are perfect (the Dursleys in the Harry Potter books are good examples of this type). Either way, there's nothing you can do on your own to deal with such parents.

Answer 2

6 year old children are not yet at the stage of development where they would make something like that up for attention so please do take it seriously. (if a 6 year old wanted attention they would complain of a headache or tummyache or be clingy) Bullying takes many forms and the school has a legal responsiblity and duty of care to look after your child and her best interests. That means they are obliged to look into allegations of bullying. Before confronting the parents directly, I would advise you to have another quiet word with the teacher, and then if the teacher still does nothing, start making a diary of each time your daughter says that this happens. At the end of say a week or a month, go back to the teacher. If she then insists that nothing inappropriate is going on, go to the head teacher, and ask that your daughter's teacher is involved with the meeting. That should effect some sort of discomfort in the teacher and obliger her to act. I am not sure what else to advise after that, but I know that there are some anti bullying websites around which should have child friendly pages you could also look at with your daughter which give advice on how to cope with the issue if you are on the receiving end of it. Good luck, and let me know how you get on.

Answer 3

Remind the school that there is a law that says they have to protect your child's rights to get an education and they are failing to meet this. Then tell the stupid teacher to move them freaking boys away from your daughter's desk before you have to personally come in there and smack her around in front of her students. As nicely as u can of course.

Now if the boys were grabbing her butt and it wasn't where it could be seen I doubt they would dismiss it just cause the teacher did not see it. This is no different.

Have you tried skipping over the teacher and talking to the dean/principle? I generally prefer dealing with them. Some teachers don't like when you tell them how to run their classroom.

You could try talking to the parents but anymore I think most parents are space aliens.

Her is a link about the laws on bullying in school and what u can do. Also has the different state laws.

Answer 4

Whether or not the teacher sees the bullying is neither here nor there. Most bullying takes place out of the sight of adults.

Find out what your daughters school anti bullying policy is and then confront your daughters teacher with it and demand that she takes action by splitting up these boys and seating them elsewhere. If your child's teacher doesn't take any notice, then see the headmaster/mistress (principal) and escalate it further, even to the school board if you have to.

You could take it up with the parents, but these days, many parents feel unable or unwilling to discipline their unruly youngsters, and you may find that the parents will turn on you. If you know the parents to be decent ones, then yes, address it with the parents too.

Under no circumstances allow the teacher to move your daughter, she has done nothing wrong and it will send out the wrong signals... the boys should be separated and moved.

God, bullying at 6 years old...what is the world coming to!

Answer 5

Okay, here is what you do. First find out who the school board members are. Write a letter explaining the situation and how you started with the teacher and went to the principle and have gotten nowhere.(this will come in later) Go back to the teacher and ask her to please move the boys away from your daughter and be aware of this problem.If she procrastinates, or things still happen after they are moved. Walk straight to the principle's office with your letter. Inform him on the situation. If you do not feel comfortable with his efforts, drop the names of a couple board members, bring out your letter and calmly say, "well, I was hoping you could finally put an end to this but I guess I will have to get this letter mailed to such and such on the school board.When was that next meeting?" Hunny, I promise it will work. I have used it. And by the way, this would also be where you would involve the other parents, if you have to send that letter. Otherwise it is the schools responsibility to inform parents of their children's school behavior.

Answer 6

Yes...let the parents know, because if those boys are doing this to your daughter..they will do it to someone else, too. Even though the parents might go into denial, too like the teachers....there's a chance that they will reprimand their kids in private. If it continues, take it up to the vice principal (public school)..or principal (private school), because they normally don't hear about these things until it escalates. If they make you feel that they think that something is wrong with your daughter..then change school....but beforehand ask the new school about their policy on bullies.

Answer 7

Very simple. Go to the teacher. Tell her/him that this behaviour is completely unacceptable from these two boys and that you want your daughter moved now. Insist on it. Remain calm. Go to the principal as well and tell him/her what's happening so he can have a word, with the two boys and also the teacher. Also, empower your child. Tell her if it happens again she is to stand up and say very loudly 'How dare you do that to me. That hurts'. If the teacher hasn't 'noticed' she/he will then. As for speaking to the parents, it depends. Some parents will co-operate and speak to their kids, some won't. The best course of action would be if the principal met with you and them together and outlined to the parents that their kids are behaving like this. If they are kicking your daughter, they'll probably move on to bullying other kids as well.

Answer 8

My 7 yr old. just went through this. UGH! it was so frustrating, I could not bare the thought of him being at school and knowing he was uncomfortable. I spoke to the teacher, but the kids would deny it. So I started to do a little volunteering, and would discreetly be very cold with the kids that were rude to my boy. I gave them that "I know what you're up to Look" At the same time I asked them veeery politely to behave or I would talk to their parents. You have to be careful when it comes to contact with the kids. If the teacher does not work with you, them "the principals a must" don't let it go on because this affects the child's work concentration in the class room. Well hopefully by now your child is on vacation.

Answer 9

The teacher may not have seen it, but they should never be so stupid or arrogant as to think bullying is not happening in their school. There is no school it doesn't happen in - what makes the difference is how the school tackles it.

You have reported it to the teacher, if it continues, report it to the Principal.

The school management have a duty of care to your daughter and must do everything they can to keep her safe.

Do not approach the parents of the bullies. They didn't lick it off the stones.

Answer 10

do the 2 day rule!!!

tell the teahcer in person adn write her an email (most schools provide the staff with meil now), then do the same with the school counselor in 2 days if nothing has been done, move on to the school principal, go to the school boards and if nothing else works go to the state board of education.

I would not approach teh parents this is an issue that is going on at school so the school is responsible to handle it, the parents might have even hotter tempers and something negative may come out of it