i don't know if my family cares anymore. sure they say that they do, but my dad doesn't even say hi anymore when he sees me, and both my pareents just tell me to go ahead and do what ever when i want something. most of the time. WHAT DO I DO???
2006-06-22 20:03:41 · 14 answers · asked by mandasalamanduh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
possibly they care to much, and you have done something to hurt them, and they have temporarily thrown there arms up in the air, as they figure that you are going to do what ever you wish regardless of there input, therefor it becomes a waist of there time to even advise you.
I suggest that you talk to them, tell them how you are feeling, and listen to there advice a little closer, and follow it to the letter.
not only will you see a big change in your parents, but I am sure you will also feel a much closer bond to them than you are currently experiencing.
2006-06-22 20:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Thoughtfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to ask them. Tell them what you are feeling and talk with them about it. Make sure it is a good time and not a time when they seem under pressure.
Use some of the suggestions here as to why they might be doing it and find out. Then remember you are at the age where you are having to make important decisions that will effect your life forever. Get home at a reasonable time. Nothing good happens after nine when you are young unless you are at a friend's house supervised and remember that peer pressure is great. Don't let kids talk you into doing something that doesn't seem right.
2006-06-23 03:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that your family cares about you. When my parents got divorced I was having a lot of trouble dealing with my father's depressive reaction to the event. A friend of mine put things into perspective for me by saying that the way of life that my dad knew for 20 years was gone and that just because he was my dad, didn't mean he didn't have issues to deal with himself.
I'm not saying that your parents are depressed, but they could be dealing with things in their lives that are hard for them to deal and it could be difficult for them to put all their focus on you. It sounds bad, but really, mom and dad aren't super heroes - they are human too and have problems just like you do. And if that IS what they are doing - they don't mean to do it. They are just going through a rough time.
You should sit down and talk with your parents and tell them how you feel. Perhaps they let you do practically whatever you want because they respect you and know that you are a mature and resonsible person - maybe it's just because they know they can trust you to not get into any trouble.
I really, honestly, don't know what to tell you, but I hope that my experiences have given you something to work with. You really should talk to them, though, if it is bothering you so much. It might even make things a lot better if you express your concern.
Good luck, hun. :)
2006-06-22 20:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Melissa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it at all; a strong healthy family is a positive thing. I don't have children by choice, but my family is my step-mom, my boyfriend, and my pets. It works. The player lifestyle gets glorified by the media...hot chicks and hot dudes getting it on like no one ever gets old. The truth is that we do get older and real connections are what we want, deep down. Note: Family can also be close friends that truly care.
2016-03-27 01:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and try to discuss it with your parents. If you are calm and nice and explain to them your feelings,i hope that will be OK. If you want,you could ask for help from elder people who you know that they care for you.(like a relative). The important is to express your problem with nice way
2006-06-22 20:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents care about you! Of course they do, but it sounds like you've worked them over enough that they are fed up and done making your choices for you...all a part of growing up!
2006-06-22 20:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by JLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By chance are your parents also distant from each other?
Your parents maybe having differences and you are suffering the consequences...
Why don't you try to initiate the communication with your family...
Like say mom, dad, would you like to go with me the the (mall, movies, park, beach, store)
Something in that nature.....
Show them that you care.....
Just don't sink down to their level....
Be better than them...............................
2006-06-22 20:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Cristal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you are longing for parental love, just because they are busy don't jump into alternatives, that will lead to further complications at a later stage. Be calm and spend time with GOD, Pray, JESUS LOVES YOU. we are not alone in this world,
God is with you,
2006-06-22 20:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by raja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems it's all you.. How is your Family ? Is everyone in Good Health ? They are allowing you to make your own choices..rare now these days..
2006-06-22 20:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by MoMoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents do that normally cause der tired i just lie around 4 a few days n do dat sorta stuff until der normal lol (it sounds funni but normally it works)
2006-06-22 20:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by tony b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋