i used to be very close friends with this girl in highschool.
back them i was a wimp (and appears i still am) and never asked her out, yet we spent about 2 years back then, on the verge of a relationship (i was a gutless fool), as if waiting for other to ask to make it official
she even told my friends all i had to do was ask, yet i never did.
after highschool finished i never saw her again, and 2 years later i heard she had married someone, i was sad cause i still thought of her from time to time, but well that was end of it.
untill today (6 years later) when i happen to read an article in an old newspaper written late last year, in which its about her, and her maiden name
im assuming she either never married or is divorced, so now i wanna see her again, how do i talk to someone i havent seen for 6 years.
id feel weird (like a stalker) if i just looked her number up and rang her, id want more of a bump into her kinda thing, but yeah i need everyones help, what do i do
2006-06-22 19:41:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what you do, DO something. Don't let her be the one that got away. I can relate. I didn't do something. She got away. It might be hard to say something to her after so long, but would you rather let it eat away at you for another 6 years? The rest of your life? Don't pass it up. Maybe reading that article was fate's way of saying "DO IT". Good Luck.
2006-06-22 19:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by DJ Sliced Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you should be completely honest with her (well as honest as you want to be). It's not as though you have been searching for her all this time, you just happened to come across an article written by her.
Give her a call or contact the newspaper in which you found the article and tell her that you read her article and wondered if she was the same girl you went to school with. Let her know that you would like to catch up with her, either by email or telephone, and do just that, catch up.
Don't tell her you have been pining for her all these years, she might have changed and you probably have too. See if you two still connect and then see how it goes from there.
Become friends first. You may not like the older version of this girl and the image of her you hold in your head from 6 years ago might be completely difference to what she's like now.
Best of luck!
2006-06-23 02:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by sarahmuffin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be flattered if an old flame looked me up after 6 years! I say go for it, what do you have to lose here? Just a simple phone call, "Hey this is (insert your name here) from high school. I saw you in the paper and I couldn't help but think of all the crazy times we had back in the day. Just thought I'd call and catch up a little, if your interested."
If you find out she is single, let her know you've thought about her alot through the years, that will melt her heart!!!!! Good luck!
2006-06-23 02:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by JLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible she uses her maidan name.
But why not call her up and tell her you just wanted to catch up, being old friends and all. Tell her that you saw an article with her name in it and thought it would be good to catch up.
If it turns out she is single, then sure ask her out, talk about old times and how you never got the nerve to ask her out back then, play it by ear, but certainly contact her.
If she is married, then obviously don't ask her, you will know what to do.
2006-06-23 02:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look her number up and get her address somehow. See where she hangs out and then you can do that kinda bumping into her thing you wanna do. Or you could just simply phone her and start chatting away which is less of a stalker!
Good luck. :)
2006-06-23 02:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and say hello we went to school together and how have you and your husband been doing it,s been a while since we saw each other since school she will let you know if she is married or not by the way what took you .6. years to tell her you cared about her that,s a long time not to ask her out if she is married leave her alone people change in that time limit.my opion?
2006-06-23 02:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude , where have you been for such a long time really i am impressed .So i am not alone in this world only i keep track of all my exs hoping to bump in to them but never do really well i suggest you should find out where she works and go to her office on some pretext and see where it goes from there ...best of luck and god bless
2006-06-23 02:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by trekmate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!
Worst case, she's married and happy- then you are just the guy who remembered her fondly and wanted to know that she was doing well.
BEST CASE, you are the guy who came along at the right time, and you can rekindle those old flames. Remember, all you had to do was ask!!!
50/50 shot, you'll never know unless you try.
Been there, wished I had done that!!!
2006-06-23 02:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find her and tell her you saw the news article and thought it would be fun to call and see how she's doing. Then chat away. I think she'll be delighted!
2006-06-23 02:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋