i would like to put this in our wedding invitations
2006-06-22 19:23:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i don't think there really is a proper way...if there is, i wish i had known about it...we don't need anything and would rather have the money
2006-06-22 19:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may not be a truly tactful way of going about asking for money. However, if this is REALLY all you want --try find a picture that is close to what you are looking for as far as a dream home. Make a place card similar to the registry cards that you put in the invitations and simply add a note on the card that you and your spouse to be are trying very hard to be able to purchase this home and would appreciate any monitory gift anyone wanted to share. Don't register anywhere. If your loved ones really want you to be happy they'll give you money. If not you'll get the toaster anyway!!!
2006-06-23 10:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by M.B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right way to do that. I would be offended by such a thing - well, maybe I would just think you immature and a bit greedy. At the same time, people who want to buy you a gift will be looking for ideas. Bridal registries do well because it is an easy way to shop for a gift. You should tell your wedding party and friends that you are not doing a bridal registry because you are hoping for cash gifts to help you buy your house. They can put the word out for you. People will naturally ask your close friends where you are registered. They will also ask you. You need to say something like you really want them to come to the wedding and celebrate your happiness. If they want to buy a gift you will be thrilled .... and, by the way, you are saving all of the cash gifts to help buy your home together.
Trust me on this ... you'll do well with this approach.
2006-06-22 19:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude. One should NEVER include information about gifts or registries in a wedding invitation.
The right way to do it would be to spread your request via word of mouth. I personally would never give anyone 'cash' as a gift - I believe in shopping for the perfect gift, as it's the thought that counts.
So, I would still register someplace so that the people who don't hand over cash and like to shop for gifts can still do so. Someplace where you can get a lot for a little, like Target & Linens & Things. Consider doing this; for every item bought for you at your registry store put away the same amount of money in a Savings Account. You are furnishing your house for free with those items, so you can put the money you would have spent on them away so that you can save for the house to put them in! : )
2006-06-23 06:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put that info anywhere in the invitation. The only way is to have your friends and family spread the word. But, be prepared that some people don't like giving money and will get you a gift anyway, so you might as well register for a few things. You can always bring stuff back if you're registered. I just got married 2 weeks ago and we got mostly money and a few things that we registered for at Bed Bath & Beyond. Let me tell you, we got more money than I ever thought we would. So as long as your close friends and family know you want money, they will spread the word for you. Just tell them that if someone really doesn't want to give money, to tell them that you registered for just a few things. It will work, trust me.
2006-06-23 06:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several programs available where you can "register" for a mortgage just like you would register for bath towels (there is a link to one company below.) It has become VERY common to include those "registry cards" in shower invites, etc., so I think it would be equally acceptable to include a card/memo that you have a mortgage registry, although I probably wouldn't put them in the formal wedding invitations. Let some close family/friends know that this is what you're doing, and then when someone asks "Where are they registered?" everyone will know the best way to respond.
Good Luck with your dream home!
2006-06-22 19:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This simply is NO polite way to tell people that you expect gifts. The invitation requests "the honor of your presence" or "the pleasure of your company". You don't ruin this complement with any suggestion that your invitation is based on greed, rather than on honor or pleasure.
However, if people bring the subject up themselves and ASK what you might like, you are free to tell them that you're saving for a down payment. So, if you're committed to doing things in a mannerly way, the question becomes "How can I get people to ask us what we might like for a gift?"
When you call all the people on the your guest list to confirm their attendance status (see http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Arf.08dpO5rtMO_vQxlyGWjsy6IX?qid=1006051524132, a previous 'best answer' for the why's and how's of doing this), many of them will ask for hints. Of course, some will simply ask "Where are you registered?" Register for items like bath linens. You can return all but one set for cash, and still have guests at your new home see "the towels I gave them" displayed in the best bathroom.
2006-06-23 01:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right way. The point of a gift is for people to choose their own expression of well-wishing for you and your new spouse. If you just tell them to give you money, there's no sentiment in that and you're only using them. Don't do it. Gift giving is a beautiful thing; don't become one of those who spoil it.
2006-06-23 01:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no proper way to do this. my husband and i wanted to - but were told that it is uncouth to do so. what we did was to have it spread via word of mouth - to family only who then spread tp friends in a a non-obvious manner.
although, people still do it inspite of it's "uncouthness". my cousin and his bride to be tactfully wrote a poem inserted in their invitation (which i thought was cute) and told guests of theirpreference for monetary gifts as they are building anew home to start a life together.
hope this helps...
2006-06-22 19:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by man_tan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put something like that: an addition to gifts there will be a "Money tree" for our dream house. Still, might not help... people like to give you what they don't like in their house =))
2006-06-24 11:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by unforgettablemauiweddings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could jsut nicely say something like.
Yourself and your husband/wife would like to be able buy a home and that anyone who wishes to donate to this in place of a gift is welcome to do so. Give people a choice.
2006-06-22 19:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋