I don't know how to interpret this, is it low self esteem? Does this mean their is someone else is in the picture? I am dumb founded.
2006-06-22 19:09:12 · 6 answers · asked by cubluv_basketball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no more like its her making sure and plannin for the furture
2006-06-22 19:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to read to much into it at first because it could mean a lot of things. I had the same situation not too long ago. My life partner keptt repeating it to me and at first it scared me. I thought there might have been someone else or she just might of been tired of me. But one day I finally got the nerve and I put it out there on the table. I asked why the hell this kep coming up for two weeks and what did I do wrong. The truth is it wasn't anything like that, she was feeling down on herself and tried to tell me she wasn't good enough for me. Of course at first this made me think that she was feeling guilty about something she did. But it just came down to the fact that it wasn't about me or us at all, she was just at a low point and she just needed support and comfort that I wasn't going anywhere. That situation has actually brought us so much closer because it forced us to put everything out there and it was like we were in the honeymoon faze all over again.
2006-06-23 02:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shh, Im not here. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How open are your lines of communication with your partner? If they are wide open, ask him/her what was meant by that question.
If the lines of communication are somewhat blocked or non-existant, the relationship is all but doomed unless you can both figure out a way to open them up.
Your partner might have been asking because they feel that you are not being as affectionate or caring as you once were. He/she might be asking because they are getting bored with the relationship. There a many other reasons as well.
I read the following advice once and I pass it along to you. You and your partner should both sit down and write out two lists about each other. The first list is the list of good/great qualities about your partner. The second list is a list of not-so-good/bad qualities about your partner.
The good qualities might include: Great cook, very affectionate, very humorous, attentive, good provider... But is is also possible that some of those don't fit and the bod qualities list might look something like this: Abusive (sexually, emotionally and/or physically), controlling, unfaithful, untrustworthy....
Once you have both written out your lists, read them with the preceding phrase: My ideal mate is a man/woman who...
The good list might read:
My ideal mate is a man/woman who has a great sense of humor,
My ideal mate is a man/woman who is a great provider.
My ideal mate is a man/woman who is very affectionate.
My ideal mate is a man/woman who is always proud to be with me.
On the other hand, your bad list might actually read as ridiculously as this:
My ideal mate is a man/woman who has little or no time for me.
My ideal mate is a man/woman who is abusive to me and/or my kids.
My ideal mate is a man/woman who is unable to hold a job.
My ideal mate is a man/woman who always lies to me.
If your bad list has any major problems, you are probably in a bad relationship which is doomed and not worth saving.
One last thought. If it is a good relationship that has lost some spark and magic, go to www.amazon.com and buy the paperback version of the book 101 NIGHTS OF GRRREAT ROMANCE: HOW TO MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR CLOTHES ON.
Good luck!
2006-06-23 02:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think long and hard. If you haven't already start asking questions and make it clear that if your partner wants to move on they should do it now and you should respect that and move on yourself.They may or may not have found someone else its hard to say I wasn't there to see if it was just wants to make sure you two are on the same page or if they really what to be with someone else. You should find out soon.
2006-06-23 02:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe he self asteem is low and she might be having the though that u might not want to be with her. It is just a way for her to hear it from u to make sure that u still want her. Maybe u should do something sweet for her to show her u still want to be with her.
2006-06-23 02:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by beautifulbutterfly328 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like trouble in pardise, after 3 years, to ask that question'
i would get some answers quickly, it may be he want out of the
situation. or there may be someone else. you need to really sit
down and talk to him.
2006-06-23 02:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋