What should I do next?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I just recently decided that we couldn't make things work. Well, I should say, he decided on that, I just had to deal with it. I haven't talked to him in days and I just want us to make up so bad, but I honestly think that it's best that we not have a relationship anymore. Is it possible that we can be friends? Should I call him? Keep in mind that the reason we aren't together is because he cheated on me over and over and finally he admitted to me that he is never going to change, so that was the end. What should I do?

Answer 1

hi, ok lemmie get this this straight;
1) He cheated on you OVER AND OVER AND OVER.............
2)He told you he is never gonna change
3)He broke it off with you
4) Did I mention that he cheated more than twice that you know this fully well and that he ended it with you?

Obviously he doesnt care about you or the relationship. And you know this but you still wanna act dumb and crawl back to him. Now I know the feeling of loving someone who doesnt love you back ( it HURTS), and if there is one thing you cant fight its destiny so let him go and if and when he realises what he is missing and most importantly if the two of you are meant to be you will find each other againg.
One thing is for sure if he doesn't care enough to keep this relationship thing going then what makes you think he is going to care enough for a friendship? Point is you cant force issues and it is rather obviouse that you want the two of you to be friends not just bcoz you miss him but also to stir things up.

Look there is a time for everything for right now it is love and for him it is lust (after others). The ideal thing would be to let go but don't keep your life on hold for him and dont go looking for love either when it hapens it will feel right and you will not even when it happens.

So take a deep breath, forgive him in your heart or tell him (this will help clear your conscience)but don't forget and don't try to move on, actually do it. Move on. I hope yor next question will be how and this should also be to your close friends. They know you better and they will help you. Then againg you could rebound with the hottest guy around. Just keep an open mind and have open thoughts its a big world out there.

Answer 2

It's hard to think clearly when you're just fresh off the breakup. But I'd bet that you would probably tell a friend in the same situation to leave him alone for a while. Seriously, after some time has passed and you have tried to live without each other- either as friends or as more- you will know for sure whether you can do it or not. A LOT of time. More time than you want. Then things will appear a little clearer when they're not clouded by the residue of breakup pain.

Answer 3

If you still have feeling for him (even though you know he's no good) there is no way you can be friends with him right now. You need to let your romantic relationship with him completely die - to the point where you don't have feelings for him. When you get to that point, then you may be able to be friends with him or you might not. Sometimes you have the kind of ex's where just seeing them can set off an emotion in you.
Leave him alone right now and concentrate on moving on. You aren't with him so start enjoying being single and stop worrying about calling him and what he's doing. You are lucky to be rid of him if all he did was cheat on you!

Answer 4

the fact that he Finally admitted to you that he would never change is where you should already know that it is a done deal! there is nothing wrong with being friends i mean well you should give yourself some time to get strong enough to get over him first before trying build a friendship if you try to build a friendship this early on you are just going to find yourself right back in the unhealthy affair you just came out of! girl i feel your pain it is not easy and it will take time. i can kinda understand how you feel cause i am in sorta the same situation only difference is i have baby on the way and my boyfriend isn't as str8 up as yours was at least he gave you some direction all you have to do is take it!!

Answer 5

well u might want to make up with him cuz yall must have had great moments together before and u really bonded with the guy but facts are facts the guy cheated so that shows the lack of respect he has 4 u and dont stress yo self out for him and is good u want to be friends with him but there will always be awkward between yall if yall talk in friend conversation just let time past by and u wont be thinking about it no more okay baby be happy

Answer 6

stay friends if you want but I would as hard as it sounds try and forget about him and move on with your life. Then when your feelings for him are not as strong then meet up and be friends, when you are able to get over him. If he admits that he is not going to change and he has cheated on you repeataily. He even admits that you are better off with out him.

Answer 7

Do your greiving now, honey, and move on. He won't change. Why set yourself up for pain and emotional trauma??? Dont' call him; just let him go. You can't have any realtionship with him...so find someone who will be faithful to you. You just got hold of a "dog" of a man who will cheat on anyone he's with cause he can. Do yourself a favor and cut off the relationship completely. good luck.

Answer 8

Okay, let me get this straight. He cheated on you many times, he dumped you, said he has no interest in changing...

...and you want him back?

You already know what you should do. You know he's no good for you. You're just afraid. Do what you know is the right thing.

Cut him off. Don't call. Don't be friends. Pull the band-aid off quick or it will just hurt longer.

Good luck.

Answer 9

its better to stay away from him. I know that you care for your ex but there is someone who is much more than him. If he cant change his attitude, show him that even he left you because of those reasons youre still one georgeos girl that he can never cheat again.

Look for someone else who is more deserving than him. You dont deserve a cheater. If he comes back to you cause he sees you as a "winner" just dump him girl. He's not deserving...

Answer 10

i think since he has done this to you more than once i would not have anything more to do with him... say hi if you see him in the street and move on,,,if not you will probably be going through this same behavior all the times you go back to him...if he does not love you enough to stay with only you, ;leave him and do not look back.. you deserve better than that.. i know that for sure.....think more of yourself and find someone that really cares about you...i know for a fact if this keeps up you will sooner or later get tired of it and you will be wasting many of your good years...on somelike him