He decided to become a truck driver, knowing that I don't want that type of relationship, he has been gone now for 50 days and all of a sudden his cell phone is now turned off, says that his driver manager says that if he wants to drive for swift that he has to stay of the road for another 30 days, I just don 't see how that is possible, can they really make him stay out that long with out coming home? I think that he is not telling me the whole truth. What would you think? mAm I being stupid? I think he wants out but don't want to tell me.
2006-06-22 18:51:49 · 22 answers · asked by lonley in Ohio 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you've got it all figured out. He's giving you big flashing signs of what's going on. Good luck and move on and find yourself a real man.
2006-06-22 18:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think that you need to ask yourself, after all these years, "Why is he still just my boyfriend and not my fiance or husband?" Then you have to decide what you want out of this relationship. I made the mistake of waiting around 6 years for a man to commit to me. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if he is still only your boyfriend after 6 years, he probably always will be. I try to always give people the benefit of the doubt but, I gave also been burned by men before. His cell phone being turned off could mean that he didn't pay the bill or he has something to hide, or he is too busy. The fact that he has been gone for 50 days and has not tried to contact you via any source tells me that he got the job to get away from you and your relationship and he is too much of a big chicken to actually tell you. I would recommend finding a man who will treat you like "The Queen" that you deserve to be treated.
2006-06-23 02:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he's playing you dump his *** and move on if shnieder only lets there drivers on the road for a week fifty days is to much plus another thirty girl and his phone turned off bc even if he didn't pay it last month they still won't turn it off till two months and like I said that fool is playing you call swift and ask questions like if I join what is the longest I can be on the road and if there is an emergency how would my family contacte me if I don't have a cell phone or does the company provide you with one ask them or have a friend ask them and if you got the info drop his *** or wait
2006-06-23 01:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truck companies can make you stay out, by giving him runs that will lead him farther and farther from home, tell him to request some runs that will get him closer to home(that is what my wife did when she was driving truck). As for the cell, that is a tough call, so to speak, it might just be he is tired after driving all the time, sometimes you can drive up to 10 hours or more in a day.
2006-06-23 01:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by railnites 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that swift does not tell thier drivers that, and in fact federal regulations require that after so many hours of driving, a driver must take a minnum of 24 hours off, truck drivers are only allowed to drive so many hours a day, and so many hours a week,
2006-06-23 01:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm SO sorry sweetie! It sounds as if he does not want to be with you anymore but he is not man enough to admit it. Do you really want to stay in a relationship with someone who won't return your love or even communicate with you? It is not worth wasting the emotional energy. If I were you I'd box up his stuff and when he comes home tell him to take it somewhere. For your own sake and for your mental health, please move on. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you a million times better than this guy is.
2006-06-23 01:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Garden Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like he wants out of the relationship. But, you would best know... If your "gut" is saying that, it's probably right. Try to accept it, and move out while he's gone -- maybe in with a friend, so if he comes crying (saying it's not so) and you believe him, you can move back without too much trouble.
I'm sure it'd be hard to move out after six years -- but don't stay miserable in a relationship.
2006-06-23 02:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by cosmosclara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your comments make me wonder if he ever had any space within the relationship, because he sure is taking space now. I don't know if the company can MAKE him be gone that long (I suspect not) but I do know that in a relationship that's doing well, partners don't seek to be away so long.
This would be a very loud message to me that he's not interested in the relationship.
2006-06-23 01:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by abbynormal92243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truckers dont stay out that long , espeically if they have a woman at home. do you ever feel lonley even when he's there? get the vibe from him that he'd rather be some where else ? he cant be driving truck that long. i work around truckers{ load trucks} & the first thing on there minds is how fast i can load them so they can get home. i'm in ohio too if you need ,, drop me a line
2006-06-23 02:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong here!When and if he comes home have his bags packed and waiting for him at the door.If he can prove to you that you have jumped to conclusions-then fine.However,I doubt that he can.Just say to him"Keep on trucking loser".There are guys out there that would listen and respect your wishes(no trucking!).Good luck!
2006-06-23 01:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋