My son is always asking about death or dying. Over the last several months he is obsessed that someone is going to break into the house and murder us all. The other day he asked me if a big knife could go through his comforter and kill him. Another time before that was If God made us, who made God? He is pretty consistant with his questions and keeps us guessing what he may ask next.
2006-06-22 18:49:35 · 34 answers · asked by DanielleC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Children tend to question life and death about that age. I think there is an insecurity in where they will wind up after death and also in just how safe they are. You need to be careful about just what programs you are watching on tv. They can feed this insecurity.
2006-06-22 18:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by billybetters2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would first question what made him aware of death. Something triggered this. And every child goes through it - most that I am aware of anyway. Some more than others. Usually you can just let it go through it's phase.. but if ignored it could become more serious - better to resolve it now than later in my opinion.
There are so many influences these days.. it just gets worse and worse.. much of the music is horrible, the friends he is around have the biggest influence - probably much stronger than yours most of the time. And TV.. good grief it's getting bad. I don't even watch TV anymore because it's so freaking pointless.
When he asks you questions, ask another in return instead of answering and then redirect into a positive thought.
Answer ones that are easy though LOL.
If he asks if a knife could go through his comforter.. I would respond with "I can't think of anybody that would want to do something like that.. who do you think would want to do something like that?" More than likely he may say.. "hmm i dunno"., then you'd say "Me neither and I don't think it'd ever happen.." and then redirect the thoughts into something positive.. like "so what are we going to have for dinner tonight.. any suggestions?"
In my opinion, that's the only way you'll really figure out what he's truly thinking. If he is worried and you ask him specifics like that, he will probably tell you the truth - at this age anyway. When he asks the questions you do the talking.. if you ask the question in return and keep him answering, he's doing the talking.
Curious., what was your response to the God question? I still haven't recieved a straight answer on that one from my parents to this day! :)
2006-07-06 05:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned if a 6 yr old has obsessions about death issues. Are you screening his movie and TV viewing? How about screening video games that are so filled with violence and death. At this point I would even illiminate TV viewing unless it was educational like Sesame street or Mr. Rogers!!!!
If his obessions continue you should really have him evaluated by a child psychologist. Your son could've been molested and maybe these death questions are from being traumatized.
As a parent you really need to be the detective and ask yourself these questions: Why is my son so obsessed with death, WHEN did these questions regarding death start, What is the purpose my son keeps asking these questions, Who is telling him or giving him the fuel to feed his obsessions, and lastly HOW can I make my son feel more secure.
2006-07-03 02:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural thing to wonder about death, life, and where we will go after this life...to a point that is. If your son is obsessing about it though, I would really monitor the TV, movies, games he plays, and what others tell him. As adults, we all wonder about this too, we may not talk about it much, but we all wonder.
My advice is to get a Bible, learn about what God says about this subject, it's all in there, the Bible I mean.
If you chose not to believe what the Bible says, than I have no other advice for you except keep him from TV, games and people that have to do with the subject.
2006-07-06 17:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by sloimages 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Am 49 years of age and a mother of three sons 24, 23, 16. My teen was the one that had the fear problem about dieing, monsters, ghosts, and people breaking in. what I did was to buy children’s books about fear and anything else that he was afraid of. We would read it at night just so he would understand that there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Now it is O.K. with sleeping in the dark at night and being alone when he comes from school and no one is home, be patience it may take awhile but he will be all right.
2006-07-05 17:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has anyone died recently in your family? or did your child possible see this off t.v. this is most likely the source. it could have been at someone Else's home on their t.v. or has their been any ambulances in your area that may have unintentionally made your child afraid? check out all the sources including funerals etc,etc, if you come up with nothing and you cannot convince your child that no one is gonna murder any of you then, you may need to seek out therapy for your child. this is okay as its for the best interest of your child. maybe, he has some phobia regarding death? the child is young so the real professionals can figure out something you cant
2006-06-22 19:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, what you need to do first is ask him why he is asking these questions. Also ask him about his dreams, and if he is having dreams about death, be concerned about what he tells you, this is the age where humans are most connected to the supernatural, and have prophetic dreams. Take him to an expert on esp, and have them give him a test, it is possible that your son is showing early stages of being psychic.
2006-07-02 04:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by devastation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through some of those things at that age and my son now six has started asking about death too. I wouldnt worry about it unless he doesnt ever move on to a new topic(which he will).
2006-07-03 13:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by flowergirl1994 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of my children ever talked that way. I'm surprised that so many of you say that is natural. My boys grew up with controlled TV...that is no TV during the week, and on weekends selected children movies. I'm sure children see things on television that they can't cope with. They don't know the difference between reality and fiction. I would def. cut down TV consume, and try to distract your son with playfull things. Fill his life with story books and games, and be in control with whom he plays with. I think it's good that you are concerned. Obviously you are a good parent.
2006-07-06 09:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him your bed time routine: these are the doors that we lock, these are the windows we close and lock, these are the curtains/blinds we pull, here is our telephone in case something should ever happen, etc. Reassure him with real ways that you safeguard your family. Let him participate in your family safety. Then tell him what a good, safe job he's done.
2006-07-06 09:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋