How does a parent deal with the terminal illness of a child and their death.?

Answer 1

as a parent, i don't think any parent could deal with something like that, it's not the kond of situation any mother or father should have to deal with, but these things do happen unfortunately,and everyone deals with it in their own way, when my mother was sick with brain cancer i never really thought about it until she died because i didnt believe it was happening. now i am a mother of a 6 month old. i couldn't imagine it. i think if it were me i would just take everyday in like my boy was healthy i would be as strong as i could so my son wouldn't become scared or upset. if he wanted to talk to me about it of course i would talk to him find out how he feels and tell him it's all ok, because we love him. but if it is u in this situation i would say make sure you always have your family with you, they ar ethe most important people in a persons life and they will be there to help you if u feel it's too much and u need to cry on someones shoulder, u cant go through things like this alone. i really dont know how anyone deals with this. if its u that your talking about i'
m really sorry and i hope u can find some sort o fpeace to be strong enough to look after yourself and your loved ones. if u had to deal with the death i, i find it easier not to think about the fact that they died i remember all the times i spent with that person, all the funny things they said and done,i also talk to them when i'm on my own and pray for them that always makes me feel a little better. everytime i think of the moment i was told my mother died i burst into tears, i know i've never dealt with the death of a child, but these things still help me. you will never get over the pain of losing your child nor will u stop missing them but time heals all wounds, as long as yu always remember them they will always be with you.
i hope that helped u a little.

Answer 2

It is very difficult for any parent to deal with a child's illness and death. A child will always be their little baby no matter what the age of the child. A parent will feel that their world has come to an end and for the rest of their life they will remember their time on earth with their children. But time heals all wounds and pain by prayers but the love remains. If the parent has other children then they should be close to them praying together and just mingling together till such time the pain eases. Each morning ask God to get them through the day. It helps.

Answer 3

I don't know about terminal illness, but losing a child is like having your heart ripped out. You never truly recover from it, but it gets less painful with each passing day. I think remembering to live your life to it's fullest is the only thing you can do in the event that a parent loses a child. Remembering that the child would not want you to lay down and die with them is truly a lesson they are trying to share when this happens.
Savoring the wonderful things about your child, once they have passed, can be healing in the long run and is what any child would want their parents to do.

Answer 4

You have already taken the first step in trying to find help. :::HUGS::::

If the child is still with us in this life take time to just listen to them and enjoy every single moment, read silly stories, share pictures, play games and keep them busy and happy enjoying what could be their last moments. Appreciate the beautiful child that you have made, remember their laughter and all the firsts and remind your child the first time they laughed, the first time they walked, or the first day of preschool (Kindergarten, etc.). Answer their long awaited questions of life, and all the goofy stuff in between. If they are having a good day , kids LOVE being outside and breathing in the fresh air and watching the sky (look for shapes in the clouds), play on the swings. Most of all hold their hand, hug them, and tell them you love them as much as you possibly can.

If this wonderful child has passed on...
Talking it out for some is easiest to let some of the pain off of their shoulders (a shoulder to cry on), for others they want to crawl into a dark comfortable space and hide and stay within their sorrow and have a hard outer shell until someone can break through. Some people keep busy until they finally have an emotional breakdown and for some this is very healthy. For others they can get out of control and will need that help to get them through this hard time. Depending on the level of grief some never get over it at all and can lose the level of "Normal life" as they once knew it and can become really down and can become suicidal. Pay close attention.

There is a couple of different ways that I dealt with my father dying suddenly. I was devastated and all of a sudden overwhelmed with grief, anger, sadness, why me?, what did I do to deserve this? You won't ever get completely over it but as time goes on it will get easier. Think of it at first as a Tsunami or a Tidal Wave of emotion and over time the sea will calm. I promise it will. If this child was in a lot of pain for a long time you can choose either to be sad and stay in a state of grief or take time to sit down, look at pictures of better times of the way they would want to be remembered and celebrate that wonderful life. Yes you are sad that you won't get to see them for a long time until you see them on the other side, but try to picture them now - playing and running and doing things as a child should or what they always wanted to do - like fly or ride a bike or paint a beautiful picture. Dream of them at better times. Don't be afraid to sit in a room by yourself and talk to them. I know it sounds crazy but they will leave you signs that they are there, or have been there. Don't seek it out, it is spontaneous. Don't be afraid to accept it. Don't be afraid to tell them out loud that you miss them and that you love them. It will get easier, one day at a time. Just Hang on....

Answer 5

That is one of the hardest things someone could do alone.And I have never had to go it, thank God, but I feel deeply for anyone that has to.First, I am thinking family and friends help a great deal.Without comfort, help, and support, you would go crazier than you probably already are.Are you a parent of this??If not, do you know someone??If yes, get them some counseling.And God Bless them.

Answer 6

Wow what a question. With first of all being there for the child until he or she dies, and then doing what it takes to rebuild a life without that child. That can be support groups, church groups, friends, councellors, whatever is best for them and their beliefs.

Answer 7

you gotta take it one day at a time and pray about it and talk to someone close to you about it.