He's a teenager and loves WOW very much. Every available leisure time is spent on it.
2006-06-22 17:57:20 · 18 answers · asked by eu271 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MMORPGs are a fun social game that can consume a person's life. I know, because I have played several of them over my lifetime. "Wow" will die out in a couple years like the others have before it. In the mean time, if you are paying for it, stop, make him get a job or do chores to pay for the subscription, then it will be something that he can take responsibility for. Taking it away will only cause more problems, and at least he is not doing drugs(as far as i know anyways :x ) or out hanging out with hoodlums. having a job or more chores will also limit the time he has to actually play the game. Have guide lines, do your chores, homework then you can play for x number of hours. Some people do not like doing outdoors stuff, thats ok, but just make sure that he understands the rules that you set up. He will get bored of it eventually anyways, they all do, otherwise they wouldnt make new ones.
2006-06-22 18:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by brian_wcu 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I symptathize with your situation. Those online games can really drain kids and take up way too much of their time. I wish I had a little bit more info- you should repost this question with: His age? Is this a dual parent or single parent home? Does he have many friends in real life (not virtual)? Does he have a girlfriend? Does he have or did he used to have other hobbies, like sports, etc? Is he popular at school? Is he using this virtual game to "escape" his life? - a lot of kids use these games because in the game they actually have respect and/or are admired while in real life they are "geeks" etc. Does he have a girlfriend or an interest in girls?
Also, another solution might be to either take away his computer or sabbotage it so it doesn't run well...however, computers are so inexpensive that it probably could be easily replaced.
Whatever you do, I would try to get him out of this on line life- life is way too short to live in an imaginary world!
ASLAN
2006-06-22 18:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ihavenoidea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few suggestions: if his computer is in his bedroom, bring it into the family room. Children should not be accessing the internet in places where others can't see what's going on. My kids don't like it, but that the rules.
Also - set time limits. My son loves Nintendo, etc., and would play for hours except that his playing hinges on things. Rule number one is, no game like this until homework is done. Then, no computer until 20 minutes of cleaning room and putting stuff away is done. Then, yes, he can do that but if it's only just playing, it's for half an hour. (homework is no limit in time but I check to make sure it is homework). More than half an hour requires tokens he's earned by doing chores I've asked him to. One blue stone is 15 minutes computer time.
When it's time for bed and if he's still up, lights go out in him room. That's it, good night.
2006-06-22 18:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about if its really an addiction or if its just normal for a teen. If it is not effecting his studies or your family life and he really is just using his leisure time to do it then I don't see what the problem is. Trying to control his play may just make him revolt. If it is hurting his grades or your family life then talk to him about it. Maybe you can work something out between you that gives him time to play and gets him into something else too. My husband used to do nothing but play video games, when he was a teen thats ALL he did, and when we met and durring his early 20s thats still all he did. He has grown out of it some now though, and it doesn't effect our marrage or his work. Good luck. Just remember to communicate.
2006-06-22 18:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the internet password for connecting to the subscriber and let him use the com only when you return home and give him a certain amount of time then you can at least monitor him and tell him when to stop playing , but my advice as your his parent let him relax , don't stress him out and don't make him study for like 3 hours and stuff because it's not about the studying but knowing his things for the subject in order to pass his exams.
2006-06-22 18:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Shaun Lin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better be carefull with that. i had a friend, he fucked up 3 years of his life cuz of that he was addicted to mmorpgs such as wow. hes playing wow now and still is an addict, but its not so bad anymore. By controlling it you could say that hes only allowed to play for a certain amount of hours a day or something. Just watch out. as long as he doesnt end up like me friend. He never went out anymore, was just stuck inside, playing those stupid games.
2006-06-22 18:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by questioneer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that you are the parent and set a time limit on it. If he complains about having nothing else to do, find some chores to keep him busy :)
You could also go the subtle route and try to involve him in other activities, make suggestions, encourage him to get involved in scholastic activities, etc., but it those don't work, revert to the above advice.
2006-06-22 18:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Damaila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont clamp down on him, it will only make him rebel more. As long as it doesnt affect his social life and studies it is ok.
If it is affecting him negatively, sit down and have to talk with him, tell him why you are worried about him and try to make him understand your side of things, he is a teenager and should be mature enough to.
If all else fails, remember, dont clamp down on him! Set up your own WOW account and start playing with him, he will quit for sure.
2006-06-22 22:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by chabangas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck on that. ive heard wow has ruined more than one job/relationship. i would just limit him to a hour or (insert your prefered amount of time here). remember hes your SON. he may get angry and pissy, but you have to put your foot down. if he breaks the rules, move the computer to somewhere you can control it better. if he continues to, take away the computer all togeather.
:-)
2006-06-22 18:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by tanja_berengue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, there's not much you can do about it. Those games are designed precisely to be addictive.
Most likely he will get tired of it by itself. Just watch out he doesn't neglect school.
A great therapy would also be that he finds a gf he's very fond of. The problem is that, given he doesn't go out he's not likely to find one...
2006-06-22 18:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by Steaming emotions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋