I was the best man in my friends wedding and i was heavily intoxicated which is no excuse. It all started with what I at the time thought was harmless flirting with the maid of honor. I know now that it was so wrong and was the build up to the kiss, some guy wanted a picture of the two of us. So I put my arm around her, then he dared us to kiss, drunk we turned our heads like puppets and did it. She had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend It was so wrong and we both knew it. We didnt get each others numbers and nothing more then that one kiss happened, and never will. I have told my girlfriend absolutley everthing and she still thinks there was more and dose not know how she could trust me again. I know I messed up big time we have been together almost 5 years and we truly our each others bestfriends. I know I would never hurt her again and never take her love for granted. How do I get her to give me a second chance and the opportunity to show her she can trust me.
2006-06-22 17:18:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start kissing some *ss now instead of some other girl
2006-06-22 17:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The good thing is you were honest with her and it's not like you hid it from her like some dark secret. I think that as upset as she is about this, she appreciates that much of you. You know what you did was wrong, and it's good that you acknowledge that. But you still did break her trust, and that will take a long time to earn back, if she gives you a chance to earn it back. The most you can do is reassure her that it will never happen again and tell her that she's the one you love and that it was nothing more than a kiss.
2006-06-22 17:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/JzqIQ
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 22:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I think you have to realize that what you did is very hurtful. I bet that if she did the same thing, it would hurt you just as much. And for the fact that she thinks there must be more that went on, well, she has a reason to feel that way. But anyway, I just feel that you should try to make this up to her. It is said that re-building trust does take time, so in order to have that happen, you just have to be there, with her and try to be as good, or an ever better, boyfriend than you were before. Just realize that our actions can hurt our futures, and sometimes they totally change them. Good luck!
2006-06-22 17:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by easye115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend is overreacting. Alcohols impairs our judgments, especially at a family functions.Tell gf that. If she's adamant that you are lying and hiding something, then you need to back off. The ball is in her court. She sounds incredible insecure, especially since you told her everything upfront. Too bad. You sound like a really nice guy. Good luck, dear.
2006-06-22 17:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thnx snake for that great piece of advice!!!
You might not get her back. Still, it WAS only a kiss, but you are still a creep for doing it in the first place!!!
If it were me, I would take your word that it was only a kiss. Some girls are tough, she might not take you back. Kissing her a-- won't change how she feels, but maybe a note written in the sky by a plane...?
2006-06-22 17:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who knows, LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT WORK OUT! No matter how much you love the person it wont work out because that void of not seeing the other will start to feel really empty and your gonna want someone you can see regularly. But yea if you still wanna go at it, tell her up front and if she gets mad, she gets mad. You never should have gotten drunk in the first place, I love how alcohol leads America to such problems in the home and streets.
2016-05-20 12:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. hmm. my suggestion is to be upfront and honest with her and tell her "look i know and i understand what i did was inexcusable and nothing can take the piece of promise i broke in your heart, but you are my world. What in your heart could help re-build what i lost. Because I know i am nothing without my only love, we have made it too far to lose it now." Give her some space to think.
Good luck.
Side question: "Did you ever ask her to marry you?" Sometimes, that is the biggest closure you could give a person or the scariest depends on her m.o.
2006-06-22 17:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-23 07:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand its a trust thing, you should cheat, but atleast you didnt sleep with her, it was a kiss, should of solved it with her kissing another man, then its even. Plus youll know how she feels.
But since she left you, do everything sweet, show her shes the most important thing to you and nothing else nor anyone else matters.
2006-06-22 17:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just like the laguna beach episode with lauren and jason except their at a fashion show and he kisses his ex on purpose
gaining back trust is not an easy thing to do
explain the situation to her
but chances are she will never fully trust u again...sucks eh?
2006-06-22 17:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by mei_soup2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋