my best friend admitted to me the other day that he was in love with me. and i was thrilled to hear this since i was in love with him too. but he also told me that he doesnt want to go out bcz hes scared our friendship is going to end. its weird because he tells all his friends that he wants 2 ask me out and we always flirt. now it feels like im waiting for him 2 ask me out (and i dont). should i ask him out myself? how?
2006-06-22 17:10:18 · 16 answers · asked by italady09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best friends turned dating is complicated and I am that way I had a really close guy friend and me and him ended up dating and today were still dating, I am glad he finally asked me but the reason he isn't probably because he does truly love you and wants to be with you but is afraid that if you two do date and break up you wont be able to be back to your old selves and he will think he has lost the most important thing in his life, its hard but once you two take the plunge, it could turn out to be worth it because my best friend (boyfriend now) always told me the guys I went out with werent good enough for me and now he has taken the spot and we are about to have our 1 year anniversary and I am very proud to call him my guy. So I hope it works out for you. They are probably the best to date because they actually treat you right.
2006-06-22 17:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its complicated for a guy to ask a girl hes been real close friends with out because if or when thing go bad the friend is lost.
go for it though yourself he will regret never asking you out if you dont atleast try. it will be the best time you ever had.
2006-06-22 17:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by NOBODY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, if he truly loves you then he'd want to go out with you. Unless he's planning on using you and then abusing you (if you know what I mean.) Just don't let sex ever come into the picture until you are married. You will save yourself a lot of heartache and STDs.
2006-06-22 17:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he says he's just scared that your friendship may end if you cross the threshold, he's saying the truth. I think you should consider yourself extremely blessed. Not all of us will necessarily think of it that way. Most of other guys would probably just jump at the opporturnity, so you've got a thinking guy there. Cherish him. He's rare.
2006-06-22 17:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might love your friendship and if he dates you and you guys end up breaking up, he loses you as a friend as well.
He is scared, let him think it over, he is trying to decide what is more important at this point... you in his life (even is only a friend) or not having you in his life at all.....
2006-06-22 17:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by olivia6799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give things time... it should work out in the end.
I know someone who likes a girl, but doesn't want to go out with her, simply because he's a tad love-shy.
2006-06-22 17:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Casimir Alexander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, prtty much same with me. I am really sorry, but chances are he won't go out with you, but want to stay friends. You could tell him that if you date then brake up you will stay friends. Work on it there, and you may get a chance.
2006-06-22 17:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mike B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand where he is coming from. what if u do hook up and something goes wrong? that is going to mess up ur friendship then u won't be talking anymore. but they also say that the best relationships comes from being friends first. so talk to him but don't pressure him. if it is meant then it will happen. love is patient.
2006-06-22 17:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Pimpin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in that situation where im the guy and i even cry sometimes thinking about what to do- its a hard decision and i asked her out and she said what your frend said to you and it was ok with me because now were great frends but i still wonder what could have been- tell him that- think about what could be not just a frendship
2006-06-22 17:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by ffeJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesnt want to **** it up
it sounds like what you have is REALLY great, and he doesnt want to lose that
just give it time-and I would wait to be a little older-just to give it time
2006-06-22 17:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋