He is not abusive and treats me great most of the time, but he is always on the road traveling, and I am at my breaking point. And we were supposed to be married at the end of August, and 1 day before he left for 7 weeks, he throws it out that he will have to tell his boss that we are going to wait.. I am so peeved right now, i feel like leaving him.. what is up with this man....We were fighting alot for the week before he left, but this comment just came out of left field. I am so confused as to what to do...What would you do in my situation....
2006-06-22 17:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what I would do is tell you need to talk. if you don't tell him how you are feeling he won't know what you are thinking. if that doesn't work then tell him here you are never home you leave for weeks on end I need to be with you we are getting married soon. then that would be the last straw and leave but give him a chance to understand
my fiancee has been going to work everyday and never home either but I told him and he has been home more
hope this helps
2006-06-22 17:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 2 · 11⤊ 1⤋
i would say to him "its either me or your job" because he doesnt have to put his job before you all the time. im sure he can find just as good a job anywhere else and not be gone all the time. what would you rather have, a husband whos there for you all the time or one that isnt? plus if hes making your marriage wait for his job, thats just gay. he'll end up putting his job before your kids too (if you get married and have them) and trust me, being a child with your parents never around sucks. theyll end up being druggies or depressive. my dad was gone all the time and so is my mom and both my brothers are druggies. i wouldnt leave him but, id def take a break from him so he can figure that stuff out. if he decides he'd rather have his job (which i doubt he will) then hes a jerk. if he changes then thats good.
2006-06-23 00:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by crank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time i have had the thought "this isnt going to work out" at any time through out the relationship thats is what eventually happens. many times it got better or whatever, but the end was always the same. kinda. just go have some sambuca, im having mine too, but not sambuca.
btw, just because theyre "great" doesnt mean theyre the "greatest" for you.
2006-06-23 00:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its make or break time isn't it? sadly a lot of men don't realise that women want and need a certain level of attention, you need to sit and tell him how you feel, what you want out of the relationship and make it clear that if you don't get what you need you will find someone who can give you that
good luck
2006-06-23 00:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by ladysunshineau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, are you going to be happy with him gone all the time? Sounds like to me, you already know the answer.
2006-06-23 00:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM, YOU WANT TO LET HIM GO. IT'S BETTER FOR HIM TO DO HIS JOB W/O U DRAGGIN BY HIS SIDE.. AND ER.. THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH TIME FOR YOU.. AND YOU NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN BE THERE WHENEVER YOU NEED A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON. I'LL FIND MYSELF A NEW MAN IF I WERE IN UR SITUATION..
2006-06-23 00:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would cut the crotches out of all of his jeans. i do mean all of his jeans. and make his shirts with the nipples cut out and cut up to the chest. and a gay gym membership to reward his happy *** when he gets home
2006-06-23 02:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes abusive leave him
2006-06-23 00:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by ill tell u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋