What do you do when someone isn't speaking to you anymore?

Question

A couple that I know very well hasn't been on speaking terms with me ever since I told them that I could not watch their 2 kids every Saturday and Sunday. I used to be their regular babysitter until it was needed for me to get a job with higher pay to help pay some bills and supplement my husband's income. Now weekends are the only time I get to spend with my kids and my husband so I really don't want to be spending that time babysitting all day long. I actually just quit a second part-time job that I was doing on weekends, to help lower my blood pressure, de-stress and spend time with family. Then this couple we know finds me at church and asks me to babysit every Sat. and Sun. I put it in the nicest way that I couldn't do it and now they don't speak to us anymore. When they walk past me in church they don't look me in the eye and don't say anything when I greet them. They act very snide now even when my husband tries to talk to them.

Answer 1

talk to someone else there scum ignore them play there game.

Answer 2

Try inviting them over one evening for dinner.If they still ignore you,then wait a week or two and confront them with the matter.Ask them in a nice way,if you have done something wrong and let them know that you would like to be friends with them but you feel there is some kind of pressure between them and you.If they still refuse to be friendly,then about the only logical answer for this situation is prayer.If it comes to this then be sure to let them know that there are no hard feelings on your part and you will be praying for them.

Good luck and I hope and pray that you all can save a frienship because true friends are hard to come by.

Answer 3

Forget about them they're on crack or something if they're treating you in such a selfish way. Cause first of all they have no right to be treating you that way and they need to think about where you're coming from. I say you give them a taste of their own medicine and try relaxing at a spa at least for a day just so you can cool off. Cause i know some people that are like that and I've gotten my way and you should also but make sure no one gets hurt.

Answer 4

What do you when someone isn't speaking to you anymore? Well, when it's the couple you describe, then you count your blessings and thank your lucky stars. You're better off without them.

And BRAVO! to you for putting YOUR family and YOUR health first. Some people might still try to do it all and end up collapsing from fatigue or failing their loved ones. Good for you. You did the right thing.

Answer 5

Ignore them, but be cordial, especially at Church. When they get over their selfishness (and, in time, they may). They will be biting their tongues. You might "break the ice" if (via your Church) you could suggest an alternative sitter for them. You may well even be doing a service for one of your other Church members that would love to take over that job.

Answer 6

Some people take their problems out on others, and it kinda sounds like you are a victim of that. I find it ironic that their behavior is exhibited in Church of all places. You are powerless over others behaviors and attitudes, so don't worry about them, sounds like you have enough on your plate already. Unfortunately, some parents this day in age don't understand that you would like to have your weekends with your family, the situation isn't for you to have to fix, don't give it another thought.

Answer 7

You can do one of two things, just let them be and go on your merry way or stop them and ask them if they are upset that you can't watch their kids anymore. I am sure they will be very uncomfortable and you will have the upper hand and tell them that just because you don't watch their kids does not mean you can't be friendly with each other.
I think you did the right decision by choosing your family first. They just are childish in not wanting what's best for you.
good luck.

Answer 8

Hi there,
Those people don't have respect to your life and decisions. They only focus on their needs.
IN other words, if they don't care for you why should you care for them? friendship is a give and take situation. But dont blame them, they probably focused on something, a big problem that they have so they took your negative reply too seriously. But dont let it worry you, u did nothing out of the ordinary, you were just yourself, you cant give them anything but yourself, so there is nothing u can do. IF they chose not to speak to you, then they dont respect themselves, so respect their choice. they wan want to speak to you, they have the right to and respect that, anyways its for a silly reason.

Answer 9

I feel your pain. I fell out with my next door neighbor of 5 years. Her and I were very close until her brother moved in and drove a wedge between us. I know it hurts but I really believe that these things happen for a reason. Life has a funny way of showing us who our real friends are. A least now you know who is really on your side and who just wanted to use you!

Answer 10

FCUK EM, pardon my french. Their just ignorant selfish people. If you explained your situation correct and they do not understand their not worth your time. BUT......Probably there's something else going on. Write the a letter or confront the by going to their home. Ask them straight forward why they are giving you the cold treatment. You might find out its all a misunderstanding.

Answer 11

You weren't their friend, you were their employee. They probably feel awkward because they don't know you really and probably don't have much extra time to spend doing that, I mean they hardly have time for their own kids, let alone a non family member.