Why Should I Care?

Question

All of my life i have been a caring person, I worry about others, i give without expecting anything in return, I have done overseas aid work.

But lately i am starting to question everything, i have been dirt poor, i have been literally starving, i have been homeless, broke, sick and blind. I pulled MYSELF up out of it, when no one else would care.
If i can earn alot of money and take care of myself, why shouldn't I?
Why should i support people who aren't even gratefull?
Why should i care about your life? When you didn't care about mine?
I have been supporting the ideals of social justice and equality, but i have realised we are not equal. and things are not fair.

EVERYONE IS SELFISH, why shouldn't i be too?

please, help me find my way again

(for the record, allthough i believe in God in my own way, i am not convinced about the afterlife)

Answer 1

If you give to others, you should never do so with any expectation of return or thanks. The reason we give is because we want to, not because we expect to get anything out of it. It sounds to me as if you gave when you didn't even have your self. This is not for everyone, especially if you give away your basic necessities. It's not selfish to want to provide for yourself and your family ( if you have one ).

Take care of your own needs frist, then if you have excess perhaps give a portion of that to others. After all, it's not going to help anyone else if you allow yourself to die of starvation or exposure.

Answer 2

You need to find yourself again. Move away from your old life. You have stressed yourself out to the max and you sound like you are burnt out. When you can afford a holiday - take it. Start to earn some money for yourself and look after yourself first. You are in danger of becoming a little bitter so before that takes root go and do something for yourself and feel good about it. You have probably been taken advantage of at times - just move on from that and be a little wiser with your money and your time. Sometimes when you have big ideals you want to solve it all - you cannot - if you try you become disillusioned. Start with yourself and a new journey. Even if you just decide to travel for a while and spend some time aloof from your life would be a good thing. It is a reasonable and just thing to look after yourself. Go and do it. Why dont you explore God a little more (dont go weird though - particularly at the moment). Just pray and ask for him to guide you. He will.

Answer 3

You're correct in a lot of what you say but... it's a good thing GOD isn't like man or we wouldn't be here. It's okay to be a little selfish we're born that way. Yet I don't know you and I care about how you feel. I use to feel the same way but life has a funny way of showing you favor. You don't have to support someone to help them. Advice, conversation, and love are what we should give each other regardless of our circumstances. We've all had bad as well as hard times in life but that doesn't mean you have to stop being you. Plus you didn't pull yourself out of anything all things are done through and with GOD so don't be selfish by taking all the credit for yourself. Time changes things as does prayer.
I care about you enough to respond to you care enough to care out of the goodness of your heart not for rewards or praise. When you do things from the heart you build up your reward in heaven. Think on that before you give up on people, we're not all the same.

Answer 4

Charity begins at home! Take care of yourself first. Then, bow to your natural instinct of helping others.

You know, you really can't change that?

When you gave of your time, energy and money before, what were your expectations? Marching bands? Newspaper articles? Thanks? A sense of superiority? Or, just the warm feeling you get from making life easier for another human being? I think that's what you like.

I think that is your adrenaline source, and you won't be happy without it.

Go on, be yourself and be happy with it. To try and change this late in life will only serve to make you unhappy.

Believe me, there are people who appreciate what you do. They may just have a problem expressing appreciation for charity.

I knew a fellow once whose pride wouldn't let him take a doggie bag home from restaurants, because he didn't want others to think he was poor. Strange, huh?

And, there are people who will not let you need things they can help you with, if you are communicative and open with them.

Do you have a problem accepting help?

Continue being yourself, the world needs you.

Answer 5

You say you give without expecting anything in return... When you get nothing in return, you question whether you are doing the right thing? Why?
The fact is there are few people in this world like you. You ARE respected and admired, even if you are not helped. Not everyone is brave enough to stick up for someone who needs help like you are.

If there is righteousness in the heart,
there will be beauty in the character.
If there is beauty in the character,
there will be harmony in the home.
If there is harmony in the home,
there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
there will be peace in the world.
So let it be

Answer 6

First of all, I apologize for the world. Humans are natually self -destructive and that can mean a lot of things.

Secondly, I am sorry to hear that you have done so much and received so little in return. It is people like you that make the world a better place.

You SHOULD do for yourself more often. Cause you are the only one looking out for you.

I wouldn't even blame you if you wanted to give up on your giving, but I sincerely hope you don't.

We need more people like you in the world.

Answer 7

You should care because believe it or not, those people that you've helped, especially overseas really do appreciate you. They want your help because there is no one else to care for them except for themselves or their families. They're dying from starvation or from civil war and they're fighting like hell to stay alive. I know there are people out there who admire you, I don't even know you and just by reading what you wrote, I have the upmost respect for you. Thank you for caring for those who don't have anything and maybe I didn't really answer your question but I just want to let you know that you are appreciated and that you should care because you're making a difference in others people's lives :)

Answer 8

you know god did not promise us a bed of roses here on earth.. but he says all that endures this life and still believes on the lord jesus christ..and if you believe and you have read the bible you should know gods promise to us...my life has not been good.. i was raised a baptist ministers daughter and he really was a true man of god...but god gives us choices in life to make.. and i have made plenty of mistakes myself...but i have tried to help people, give them a place to stay, loan them money.. i am a poor person too..but any riches here on this earth we are not going to take with us anyway... whosever believeth in me shall have everlasting life...john 3 16...we all get down and have doubts and fears but you need to seek the lord and find comfort through him and his word...i know what it is to have a deep personal relationship with god...i do not know if you know the song.. god on the mountain.. god is with us when things in our life is going good and he is there we we are at our lowest...but his word and prayer and seek him and things will work out...i also agree with you that life does seem so unfair.. i have lost children and that is something in life a mother really has sorrow for...i think we are living in a corrupt world.. the devil is lose and he comes to kill, steal and destroy...but resist the devil and he will flee from you....i do not have much faith in the court system. or much of any of it any more.. there are all kinds of people in this world and money rules a lot of the people any more...i even believe that is the case in some churches.. but it is between god and the person...i think any more we have to try and take care of ourself and if you can help someone along the way do.. but i am not doing as i use to do either...but as long as i have my bills paid and have my basic needs i do not want the riches of the world, and i do not want anything to do with a lot of things going on in this world today... people make to many excuses for thereselves and i believe someday we will all be accountable for every one of our deeds.. god knows our hearts and he says we should try the spirits and see if they are of god.. but anymore people can fool us by acting like they are such good people but are truly not....but we are all equal in gods eyes.. there is none good , no not one...i hope i have helped you some.. do not give up and god be with you...read your bible and read the promises god has made to his children and i know that we have a home awaiting us which will be our reward.. by the grace of god we shall see the kingdom of god...

Answer 9

Give God a chance. Since life sucks what can you lose.
Helping others should make you feel good about yourself. Dont lose that special gift. Life will turn around. Try giving Jesus a shot at it. What do you got to lose.

Answer 10

I also used to be a too much caring person like you but then I learned to only care for the people who appreciate it. you should do the same but the part which you said everyone is selfish is wrong.