Found my birth mom, sent picts of myself and family, she has not responded. Do I give up and try not to get any picts from her, she won't call agency back that found her. I really just want a picture for closure-just to see who I look like
2006-06-22 16:14:14 · 7 answers · asked by barbiedoll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's hard, I have a cousin in the same situation. Her birth mother wants nothing to do with her. I hate to say it but you will probably never know. Just be thankful for the people around you, and f you need to talk to someone about it, don't be ashamed. Talk to a friend, a counselor, a minister, a psychiatrist, just talk to someone and take care of yourself. You cannot change this woman, if she ever becomes ready to deal with it, she can find you. I am sorry for you and I know that I probably have no impact on what you are feeling, but I hope things work out for you someday.
2006-06-22 16:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by KWCHAMBER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your birth mother wants nothing to do with you and won't contact you. As bad as it is, maybe it's for the best. You did what you could to try and get to know her, but if she's not interested in getting to know you, you can't force her. I know you just want some closure, but if you think about it, maybe by her not wanting any contact with you, she is giving you closure. If you want to see who you look like, look in a mirror, you look like yourself.. :-) :-) Try getting on with your life and be happy with who you are, who you've become and continue to love the people that raised you and loved you all these years.. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-29 18:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by yankeechik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sad situation. Have you found any other relatives you can contact? Perhaps your birth mother is afraid of the questions that would be asked if the people close to her found out about you.
If you have no other people to contact, I must regretfully advise that you let the matter drop, even though I understand how much it means to you and how painful the situation must be.
2006-06-22 16:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just need time. I know when i found my birth mom it was months before she let the agency know whether or not she wanted to hear from me. She told me that it brought back so many memories that it just overwhelmed her.
We are good friends now.
So, be patient, and leave it open. When she is ready she will come around.
2006-06-29 14:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your birth mother has made no contact i think that maybe you seeing her or contacting her may cause you even more pain. Assuming that the family you call your "family" loves you very much then maybe that has to be enough. Its a sad situation with no real obvious answer. Follow your heart.
2006-06-22 16:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient luv, if she didn't want contact I'm sure she would have called right off and told them so.
She may not have told the people in her life and has to find a way, or maybe she feels you'll be angry be with her for giving you up.
2006-06-22 16:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by liathano70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know her address and know it's the right one... just go to her house and ring her doorbell and if she answers, tell her that you want to know if she wants anything to do with you... and if she doesn't ask her why not, and if she gives you a good reason then just walk off. Don't just come out and ask her that... start off easy and then work around to askin' her...
2006-06-22 16:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by ffasheepdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋